baby? This is kind of a dilema with me and my fiance.
2007-11-29 08:02:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Right now it may seem like a dilema but when you are in labor and about to push you wont care who is in the room :)
Me, my husband, and his mom (there was also the doctor, his nurse, and two baby nurses)
This is completely up to you and your fiance. Do not let anyone bully you into inviting them into the room. If you cant agree who to let in the room then you may decide for it just to be the two of you, then let the grandparents (or very special people) come in to the see the baby before everyone else.
Good Luck!
2007-11-29 08:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband, My doctor and a few nurses. I liked the way things went with my second child. My mom and dad were there, and when I was being checked, they went into the bathroom. My dad went home so my mother in law could come and be here, because she was watching my first child. Right after he was born and I was all taken care of, we had a little time together, they came in to see him. It was a nice middle for me. I didn't care to show my self to them, that is for my husband and those medically trained, but they were still able to be with me and my newborn son. I was so weak after I gave birth that I needed to have my husband hold him and my mom helped me while I was throwing up, a lot better than having the nurse take over. Anyway, a lot of talking, but if you don't want them to see anything, they can go out while you are exposed and come back once you are covered again.
2007-11-29 16:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by nanners454 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it seems like you dont know who you want, and that you're going to care when the time comes..... but trust me, when you're exhausted from labor and are in the middle of horking a living person out of the smallest hole on your body- they could march the highschool band through the room and you REALLY wouldnt care less.
I was just going to have my husband, and a close family friend who was acting as dula.
In the end I had the midwife, two nurses, my husband, the friend, and my mother in law, and a few other people from the hospital who came in and out.
I was i labor for 43 1/2 hours and I really didnt give a flying crap.
2007-11-29 16:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides the doctor and nurses.......my husband was the only other person in the room when I gave birth. I didn't want anyone else in there and he respected my wishes. It's about what the mother wants. My husband was in Iraq when out last child was born and I wasn't sure if he was going to be home in time. I would have rather been in there by myself than let any other family or friends in there with me! Thank goodness my hubby was there!
2007-11-29 16:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by honeybear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my fiance and also my best female friend (and obviously the midwife too !) I found it reallt usefully having a female there with me too as she knew better how to support me and it took the pressure off my fiance who found it hard not to be able to help and seeing me in pain. My friend is also a nurse and it was nice to have someone there who wasnt affraid to stand up to the medical staff if she had to. If I hadnt had a close female friend to go with me I would have considered a doula, I think having a female there with you (who is not just focused on delivering the baby like a midwife) was really helpful to me
2007-11-29 16:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ktloop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and husband. You don't need a group of people watching you push a baby out of your private part. Trust me you will not look your best at that moment, unless you carry a make-up bag. Everyone else can wait until after the baby is born.
2007-11-29 16:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by JRE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I just had our first child 3 weeks ago and we decided it would only be us in the delivery room. This is a very special and private time for you and your fiance. Family members will respect your decision if you stand by it. But for me I believe this should be a time between a mother and father. hope that helps.
2007-11-29 16:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by burtvt2002 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had my mother in there with me, and that was it (I'm was single at the time). other than medical staff. Before I was in the "pushing" stage, i had family, friends, whoever. When it became the "birth" itself, It was just my mother and I. After he was born and I was cleaned up and decent, I let everyone back in.
My fiance and I have discussed what we would do in this situatino in the future, and it would just be he and I during the pushing phase, and family and friends before and after. It's great for them to be there for you if you want them. It should be whoever you agree on for the actual birth, and anyone before and after.
2007-11-29 16:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the old days no one but the hospital personnel were allowed so those were the only people I had. (and I wouldn't want more). My husband wouldn't even enter the doors of the hospital let alone come to the delivery room.
2007-11-29 16:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had cesareans, so just my husband and all the o.r. staff. No one else was allowed in. But if I'd had my kids vaginally, I wouldn't have had anyone in the room except my husband. Everyone else has the rest of the child's life to be with them, see them, etc.!
2007-11-29 16:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋