Im Depressed is this true?

Question

I don't know I'm just depressed about life right now. I'm 17 and I just feel that if something happened to me and I died right now, no one would even care or feel bad that I was gone. I dont want to hurt myself and I never will, I'm just saying that if i died in a freak accident. I don't have a ton of friends, I just feel sad and lonely. Can someone help me out. Do you think this really is the case that no one would care if I died?

Answer 1

We are supposed to be pleased when things 'run like clockwork'. Clockwork mechanisms, though, are notoriously prone to failure. You have to keep winding them up. If you forget - or if you go too fa... well, you take my point. Somewhere in your world now, there's a situation that pretty much takes care of itself. The maintenance it requires is almost unconscious. It's just something you find yourself doing every so often. Right now, it requires a little extra attention. Don't begrudge it this.
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Answer 2

Have you been feeling like this for awhile now? The best and safest option is to go to a psychologist. It can't hurt and almost always helps. There is a lot of stigma going to a psychologist, but don't be embarrassed. If you are, try talking to a family doctor or a school nurse. Keep the lines of communication open. Often, keeping stuff inside can hinder progress. Good Luck.

Answer 3

listen to music

start keeping a journal so you can write out your feelings and deal with them. It takes a while before you can just write things out, so just try it out for at least 3 months.

talk to your school counselor and ask her to refer you to someone. There are plenty of services out there that can help you, and you don't have to go to a doctor. There may be a counselor or a life coach that could help. Sometimes these services are even free, so you should look into them.

Go outside more. I'm not joking...the sunlight is good for improving your mood, as is aerobic activity, so you can walk in the park, go for a jog in the morning or after school.

Look for community activities that you would be interested in and see about joining a club/group. You can learn a skill, meet new people and develop your social skills, and make a difference in your community.

That's all I got. Take it or leave it.

Answer 4

I remember feeling this way at 17 too. One time I was sitting out of a PE class (I have bad joints) & I remember thinking "If I died right now they wouldn't even miss me!". I was very suicidal and use to cut myself too to relieve pain.

You are not alone. A lot of people have felt like this. If you can try talking to your mom or dad. Let them know how you feel. Also let them know you wouldn't hurt yourself so they won't worry to much. If you can talk to your parents find an older sister, aunt, uncle, a parent of a friend, a teacher, preacher and so on. You may want to write a letter about how you feel and give it to your parents. Sometimes it is easier to write things down than say them.

You need some goals or something so you feel some self worth. What is your passion? Do you love animals? Focus on your future.

I suffered from awful depression about 6yrs ago. I made a 10yr goal plan to help me come out of it. I worked backwards so I could see where I needed to be each year.

Let's say your passion is to become a writer.

Make that your 10yr goal.

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10yrs - Be a writer & possibly published or working at a magazine.

8yrs - Working on a book, novel, magazine. Look for a job focused on writing.

6yrs - Work close with a writer. Be an editor, helper to a writer

4yrs - Take some classes on writing, outline future ideas

2yrs - Learn how to edit, grammar, expand knowledge of writing

1yr from now - Read about famous writers and how they expanded their gift of writing, work hard in school and join a writing club

Also add 6mts from now, 3mts from now, then add in weeks if you want too.

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The ideas of setting goals for yourself helps you see how you can move ahead in your life. You are not to young to do this. Just seeing this down on paper helps you feel you have a meaning in your life.

I made lists like this for myself, my family, my husband & I, my kids and so on.

If you don't have a plan you feel like you are useless in the world and it is just the same old thing every day.

Also I'm a Christian and knowing that God loves me helps me a lot. You may want to look into joining a church, reading devotions and stuff like that too.

Good luck. You are not alone. We all feel like this. I have had awful depression since I was a teen and there are still days I struggle with it.

Hugs

Answer 5

If I died, I know that my mum would care, my dad would care, my two sisters would care, my six brothers would care, my cousins, my aunts and uncles, my teachers, my classmates, everbody who's ever known me in some way would be somehow touched by it... Even my arch enemy!!!!!
People would definitely care! You can be that bad off! I think that there will loads of people who care! I know this because two people died, whom I barely knew, have died in the past two years... I cried, it was horrible, when someone dies you revisit every memory, as if there is now light without it! It's like being able to see but only be able to think about them for months... one of them was my sister (I'd barely known her... I think she was about 19 when she died).
The important thing is that someone will care!!!!

Answer 6

your parents would care and your family would be very sad. there may be nothing else besides this life so live it up..call 1800 suicide for free phone talk if you need..medicine can help too talk to your parents or counselor about therapy or meds or even talk to your regular dr.
you are only 17 you have so much to look forward to..i know it seems pointless and rough now but god is just testing you (i am not religious)

Answer 7

I definitely know the feeling...it's not true though. If you were to die today, everyone you love would be devastated.

My cousin killed himself in college. His parents are STILL beside themselves and can cry just looking at you. They are in a LOT of pain. At the funeral, looking at the pictures of him when he was young, there was one of his mom holding him when he was just born...this beautiful precious baby. Her eyes were just pouring love and adoration onto him. That one made me cry the most because I felt her love for him and how she must be feeling. His dad...the nicest guy you'll ever meet...is just always ready to burst into tears.
His fraternity printed his story in their newsletter (linked below).

When I was 19, I was at a Halloween party down at the University where my friends were all living. When they woke up, one of the guys had hung himself in the stairwell outside their apartment. All of my friends that knew him better than I cried for weeks. They would all get together and cry and talk about him. I went to his funeral and there were hundreds of people there and they were all crying...he probably felt that no one cared about him. Well, obviously they did.

I think we know better than to think no one would care, but we need people to re-assure us that they care about us. How often do you tell your loved ones that you love them and care so much about them? ....Do you think they feel like you don't care about them? Maybe telling them how much you care about them will open them to being more verbal about how much they care for you and you'll get that affirmation that you need.

Answer 8

you set yourself up for failure and bad feelings when you ask such a question of total strangers....you would do better to ask someone that actually cares about you, like a family member.
I know of a website that may actually be able to help you somewhat, email me if you would like to know.