2007-11-29 07:05:15 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ignore my brother.
Here is some good advice from David J. Lieberman, PhD:
“People want what they cannot have. By constantly making yourself available [to them], you’re actually diminishing your value. This is not a trick or a game to play, but a function of human behavior ... If someone takes you for granted he or she will not appreciate you and will begin to look for someone else … You must create an element of uncertainty or you will lose the passion that drives the relationship ... We want what we can’t have and want more of that which we have to work for. Simply, if it falls into our laps we tend to have less appreciation for it. But herein lies the crucial difference between being attentive and kind versus telling her that she is your entire world and the only person for you [at the early stages of the relationship]. (Because, as we talked about, this removes doubt and begins to erode the passion.). The former is more objective and has to do primarily with her. The latter involves your relationship and invokes the law of scarcity. Notice the crucial difference between saying how much you like this person – which makes you lose leverage – and telling her that she is a likable and a great person … Again, you want to let her know that you think that she is great but not that she’s your whole world and that you can’t live without her.”
[Chapter 4: “The Four Biggest [Relational] Mistakes and How to Avoid Them”, from “Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Fell Powerless Again”, pp. 21-27. (c) 2000]
2007-11-29 07:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, men get bored if they don't see the relationship headed in the long term direction. If you are talking about being bored with them sexually, its probably because you get stuck in a rutine. Try spicing it up, ask him what he would like to do that you haven't, be willing to communicate with eachother on how to keep things alive, and he won't be bored!
2007-11-29 07:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not exactly true in some cases, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and 4 months, and we're better than ever now =]
My best mate has been with her boyfriend for nearly a year and they're crazy about each other =]
So it's not strictly true about that, yeah some guys are like that, I know, but tbh, if they get bored with you, that's there loss.
2007-11-29 07:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by [Megan-x] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not geared for monogamous relationships (one man one woman). It would take the sperm from only 23 men to repopulate the whole world. Each time he ejaculates a million sperm are released. Man was made to impregnate as many woman as they can. That is why they "never" quit looking at other woman. Even old gray haired or bald guys never give up the hunt. That is why woman is the only animal that can breed any time of the year. No heat period.That is her way of trying to keep a man to herself. Sorry girls but the good lord made us to keep as many of you pregnant as we can.
God I love being a guy.
2007-11-29 07:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Harry Laborde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They've decided that the effort needed to compromise is not worth it in the long run.
Initial relationship = less picky about her quirks.
After a period of time (1 years seems about right), some quirks start getting to you.
For most guys, if after a few years, he "withstands" the quirks, that usually leads to marriage...
2007-11-29 07:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by pixel_andera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think those are the kinda guys that need too grow up and be mature, you don't leave a relationship because of being bored you leave on if you are really unhappy.
Good luck
2007-11-29 07:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just haven't met the right guy. No guy who feels strong about some girl "gets bored" with her. He's just wrong for you in this period of your life. Move on to the next and you will see that its not worth thinking about these types of issues.
2007-11-29 07:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by anaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not really that they are already getting bored. Just maybe used to already loving the gf. What needs to be done on both parties are to always rekindle and spice things up as always to make the relationship not on the "used to" situation.
2007-11-29 07:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by des 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. Here's a hint... You keep picking men who are like that. I know you are going to read my answer and forget it, but the sooner you realize that and start working on changing the type of guys you go for, the better the rest of your life will be. Good luck.
2007-11-29 07:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
cause of routine, blokes don,t know their on to a good thing till its gone. The get bored with the same sex with the same person. I know its sad but unfortunately its true
2007-11-29 07:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋