he read his bible and went to church on his own and yes he was saved,but why do people ask...are they going to tell me sorry he wasn't saved he will burn in hell for eternity ...what the ****!
2007-11-29 06:51:06 · 28 answers · asked by hieatthouse 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
People like that are ignorant and cruel. They don't CARE whether he was saved or not, they just want to pass judgement on you based on your answer. I think I'd smile and say, "Well, if you live a good Christian life, maybe someday you can ask him that yourself!"
2007-11-29 06:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by ksdaddy 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think people may get antsy about it because they hate the idea of having perhaps lost someone they knew. They don't seem to be thinking about your feelings though.
This is a hard one for any Pastor to deal with, the passing of one so young. You certainly have my sympathy. Death makes people uneasy, whether they want to admit it or not...and sometimes things are said that later people regret. There's an urge to say something, anything, and it falls flat.
I know this doesn't help matters for you, but I hope you'll take some good out of knowing that you're not alone in this.
2007-11-29 15:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they will tell you that. My brother's baby died when he was 6 months old. We are Christian but don't believe in the concept of infant baptism or being "saved"- my brothers in-laws got a letter that basically said that since he was not baptized or saved, he is burning in Hell. I have often wondered what good they thought could possibly come from sending a grieving family something like that. According to them it was too late and there was nothing they could no about it anyway. I thought that it was lacking in taste.
2007-11-29 15:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, I am very sorry about your son.
Second, I am Jewish and not Christian, so being saved is not an issue with me. However the way you describe your son he was very religious, believed in his Bible, and went to church. His being saved was wonderful for him. I personally look at him and see a very bright, intelligent kid who was older than his age. He was taken from you way to early in his life.
Third, when I get hassled about being Jewish I either ignore it which is impossible to really do or I throw it back in the face of the person who hassled you. The best response to those wonderful Christians who throw that in you face is "It is a shame you will never get to meet him while he is in Heaven and you are not."
2007-11-29 15:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, I never asked you if your son was saved, Sorry to hear about his death, I lost my 1st wife in 1989 after a long illness & we were married over 21 years, I am now remarried to a wonderful Christain woman. Pay no attention to what people may say or ask. They are not your son's Judge.
2007-11-29 14:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by birdsflies 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could give you a hug right now.
On the Gulf Coast there's a candle burning in Caleb's name. It's the only thing I knew to do.
2007-11-29 15:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Terry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'm so sorry for your loss.
as for your question some people are just insensitive but you know its really none of there business that's between your son and God some people just don't think before they speak.
Again I'm sorry for your loss my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
2007-11-29 14:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. People CAN be thoughtless. I'm sure they don't mean any harm.
I hope you find comfort in the words of Jesus as John 5:28,29 "the hour is coming when ALL those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out". I know it gave me great comfort..
2007-11-29 14:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Q&A Queen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God Bless you...That is the Devil...Hit your psychological IGNORE Button and walk away from them...that sort of action speaks Louder than Words. Find New Friends or family that are not meglamaniacs and Super Religious they are fake friends that want to keep you in Distress..
2007-11-29 14:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by ShadowCat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess because as Christians we view death differently. If someone I know dies and they are saved, while there is sadness, there is also joy in knowing they are home with Jesus. It lessens the grief to know that the one no longer with us is in a better place. On the other hand when someone I know dies and they were lost in addition to the grief of their death there is the sadness of knowing they are likely in Hell.
I don't think anyone means to be insensitive or mean. They just want to know whether he was saved. Since he was if you too are a Christian you will see him again one day. It comes froma desire to comfort but not to offer pointless platitudes.
2007-11-29 15:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Bible warrior 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋