How do you react when you sign up for lessons that you think your child will like but he/she refuses to go?

Answer 1

I depends on the age - if they are too little and are scared, and you THOUGHT they would like it - then you just have to take your losses, and learn as a parent from it.
on the other hand
if he/she said they wanted to do this, then they will go until it's over. I've had this with my son and baseball. Wanted to sign up all year, then 1/4 way through the season, decided he had alot of better things to do in may instead of baseball. Well, too bad kiddo - we made a commitment, we're following through with it.
so, it depends on the age of the child..... good luck!!

Answer 2

You should have talked to your child first. People always seem to think that they are the parent and that they know whats best, but kids are people too! They have thoughts and feelings like the rest of us. Cancel the lesson, and let them pick next time!

Answer 3

i agree it depends on the age. i wouldn't sign my first or third grader up for lessons without discussing it with them first. i do have my kids pick at least one active activity per season to get them some exercise, but i don't care what it is (soccer, rock climbing, skating, whatever!). if they want to choose a second one, that's fine with me, too, as long as it fits with the family schedule. if they decided to try something, then i expect them to give it a real try and stick out the season unless there was a very good reason not to (bullying, etc.). but i certainly wouldn't make them sign up for the next season. the only exception is swimming: i feel like kids need to learn to swim well for safety reasons, so my kids will take swimming lessons at least one session a year whether they like it or not until they are lifeguard level swimmers....

with preschoolers, they're not likely to know what they'll like until they try, so i'll sign my preschooler up for an activity and have her give it a good enough try to really tell if she likes it (at least a few sessions). then, since it was my idea instead of hers, if she hates it i'd not make her go.

Answer 4

While I agree with the person above that said that you are the parent, at the same time I would never sign my child up for lessons without talking with them about it first.

Answer 5

I wouldn't sign my child up for any activity without discussing it with them first, regardless of age. They may not be interested in that particular activity and might choose something entirely different.

I remember being a kid and being FORCED to take piano lessons. To this day, I can't stand to be in a room with a piano.

Answer 6

I don't try to think for my child. I would ASK my child if he/she were interested in an activity before I signed the child up for it. That's just plain old common sense.

Answer 7

I usually don't have this problem, My daughter has been in soccer, girl scouts, GA's, t-ball, tumbling and ballet/tap.

She didn't care for ballet when I signed her up for it. I explained to her mom already paid XXX amount of money for 8 lessons. So you need to go to these 8 lessons because I can't get my money back. If you still don't like it after your 8 lessons. I won't sign you up again.

Answer 8

My son is to young to be signed up for anything, but when i was growing up my mother would sign me up for something once, if I liked it and went and everything and wanted to go back the next year, she would sign me up again, if she signed me up and I didnt want to go to practices and all and told her I wanted to quit she would not sign me back up for it... She would always let me try things understanding that they were new and a chance that I wouldn't like it but I only had one chance... the only exception was cheerleading and thats only because I would do it for about 2 years and then let her know I still liked it but wanted to take a year off instead of signing up again, after the year break was over, if I wanted to get back into it she would let me... that was only different though because when I signed up I loved it, and I would always let her know whether or not I wanted to do it again that year when sign ups came around and she wasn't wasting her money on something that I already knew whether or not I was going to like it

Answer 9

You need to find out what your child is interested in before you sign him or her up for lessons.

Answer 10

It depends on their age, really. If they are old enough they should be able to decide what lessons/activities they want to be doing. Also they just may be too young. Maybe you should wait a few months or so and try again then.