How can I tell my friends that I am not interested in dating at this point in my life?

Question

I am drained from an painful mentally abusive marriage of 10 years and I am getting a divorce. My brother is already trying to fix me up with his friends and some of my friends are expressing interest in me as well. I need to heal and make it own my own but I don't want to be shouting it out to the world say hey I'm getting divorce and I really not interested in dating.
I'm setting my goals for the next 2 years and I'm not putting dating or marriage in them. I'm not opposed to dating if the right person comes alone when I am ready. What do you think I should do?

Answer 1

I agree as to what you're doing. I'd recently got out of a four year relationship that were full of ups and downs and after the breakup, I made the choice to be single for awhile.

Since your marriage lasted 10 years, you should take the time out to be single again-- without the hassle of your brother trying to play matchmaker or your friends expressing interest in you. Because anyone that comes along now will only be a rebound and those relationships doesn't last long. Your time alone is all you need at this point to heal yourself from a bad marriage. So use this time to focus on becoming a new person whether it is mentally physically, emotionally or spiritually. When you feel you are at the right place in your life, eventually the person you are meant to be will come along.

Answer 2

Just be honest, anything less then that isn't being very compassinate. You did good here, tell them "I am drained from a painful mentally abusive marriage of 10 years and I am getting a divorce, AND need to heal and make it own my own but I don't want to be shouting it out to the world say hey I'm getting divorce and I really not interested in dating." Just like that, just say it to them, if they keep it up, brow-beat them for not being compassinate enough and understanding you and your situation. You don't need to tell anyone who isn't your friends or brother, just tell them your not interested. If they keep it up, tell them thats it, its never going to happen, and go on your way. Friends and brother should know better then to do this, but most people don't do a good job emphasing unless you help them, speck the truth.....