would you put your daughter on the pill at 13? debate_?

Question

i dont have a 13 year old but thinking about it when i was 13, my mum put me on the pill right away. She said that it didnt mean that i was given permission to have sex- but if i was to, i'd be protected.

Would you do the same so you wouldnt have youe 13 year old coming back pregnant at a early age or do you think its setting a bad example and showing her it means she can do anything she wants.

I just want to know other peoples different opinions

Answer 1

No I would not, did your mom think about protecting you against STD's, if you have only been using the pill cause that is what you were educated on, then you should get tested

Answer 2

I think you have to take into account the 13 year olds maturity and what they have learned about sexual behavior in school or from home because a lot of times it's just ignored at home or not a topic that is easily discussed because it makes both feel uncomfortable.
Also, females hit puberty before males do, so I believe if your daughter is educated on sex and what the consequences of sex are then yes you can give them if the daughter isn't that mature yet then no. I think it really depends on the child. In our society we like to think that children of that age are no having sex but there is plenty of evidence that they are having sex at that age so why not educate them so they know and can make the decisions themselves in regards to being on the pill and also so they know that sex can wait. Education is key for anyone.

Answer 3

No, I believe in properly supervising your kids. Also, birth control pills are hormone pills, and teenagers shouldn't be having their hormones messed with. That's very unhealthy.

My parents never believed in birth control pills, and NEVER would have put me on them, and I wasn't out having sex. They also told me if I became sexually active that they weren't paying for an abortion and I couldn't raise it at home. They also made sure I was taught morals and made sure I didn't have the opportunity to have sex.

I know parents who constantly supervise their kids, don't let them date unchaperoned, etc. Your kids won't have sex if you don't give them the opportunity to. I know it works, because none of those kids came home pregnant. Those on the pill did, because they'd stop taking the pill and purposely get pregnant, and then everyone wonders why the pills didn't work. Those kids that were "Trusted" also came home pregnant. One of the ones constantly supervising her kids was a teen mom, so she knew better than to be letting her kids have sex. And it's working. Her oldest child is married and had a baby about a year after she got married. Her next one is 17, on down. None of her kids are becoming teen parents.

Answer 4

Most kids will do what they want, when they want and how they want! Wouldn't you rather keep her from getting pregnant? If you refuse to put her on the pill, she may just have sex anyway! No one needs a child at 13!!

Answer 5

I wouldn't do it unless her doctor recommended it. I have known people who went on the pill to help them with problems like bad cramping and extremely heavy periods. If there was a medical reason then I would do it. I would not just put her on the pill "in case". If my 13 year old daughter came to me and told me she was sexually active, I might consider it, but I certainly wouldn't do it unless I felt that I had no other choice.

Answer 6

No. It sends the message to the child that you condone sexual relations at this age. I think it's detrimental to a child to begin having sex. They have not matured physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, or morally enough to handle the outcomes and the complications that are attached to acting out sexually. I also think that a parent who does this may be trying to take the easy way out of parenting a child in a manner that helps them make healthy decisions about sex and the one healthy choice to be abstinent until they are adults, which is far away from 13 years old.

Answer 7

That would be a hard decision, but I would NOT put my child on the pill at age 13!!! That doesnt teach them much, except dont come home pregnant! There are too many STD's out there too! I dont nessisarily think that it gives them a "free pass" to go out and have sex, but possibly, but I do think the parents are dodging their responsibility to teach their children about safe sex! The pill is great, but honestly I would much rather my child NOT have sex first off (of course haha) but if she was going to, I would rather her use condoms. And I would try to talk enough sense into her to NOT have sex period. I was too afraid I would get pregnant when I was in my teenage years until I got on the pill. But if I would have been on them before that, I probably would have.

Answer 8

If my daughter had bad cramping and such during her periods I most certainly would put her on the pill, if she came to me saying she wanted to b on the pill at 13 I would take her in. Regardless if you put your child on the pill or not they are going to have sex if that is what they want to do, I would rather have her protected with a hormonal BC and inform her of the barrier methods that should be used along with it. I wouldn't encourage her to have sex but I am not naive and think that if I prevent a hormonal BC that I am preventing sex.

Answer 9

i think 13 is too young. unless there is some medical reason like her periods are crazy or something. i have 2 little girls and i think when they turn 16 or 17 i will take them to get on it. i will still tell them that i think it's smarter to wait for marriage to have sex. but i want to protect them from getting pregnant at a young age. i definitely think 16 or 17 is good - by that age, if a mom doesn't allow her daughter to get on it, she'll just go get it herself from planned parenthood or something, or have unprotected sex and end up pregnant.

Answer 10

I think if it's medically necessary then go for it. If it will help with painful cramps, or heavy periods and the doctor recommends it then I would do it. I wouldn't just put her on the pill just because she's 13. Just my opinion though.

Answer 11

If it were for sexual reasons no, i wouldnt put my daughter on the pill, I think it makes them think.. hey, im protected, Ill have sex and not think about the possible consequences.
However, at 13 I was put on birth control due to the fact that I needed it to regulate my periods. I was getting them every 2 weeks and needed to get them to be more regular!
(whats funny is after my son was born my periods were regular and birth control screwed them up!)