why is being poor with no car and a crappy job and living in a trailer not good enough for a woman?

Question

i have a crappy job no car and i live in a trailer im content for now till things can get better but my girl friend is always complaining about how bad life is for us like i dont notice this damn why do women always need more and cant be thankful for what they got ive been with her for 5 years and i love her but if this crap dosent stop im gonna dump her see if that would make her life any better lol

Answer 1

Get a book called "the five love languages", have your signifigant other read it too. they put it in a brown covered book now so the guy doesn't have to get caught reading a purple book. This book is awesome, I've had friends tell me if they would've had this book when they got married, they'd still be married. I give it to everybody that gets married. It's cheep and powerful.

On the other end, you might want to jump into "personality plus", another book that will blow your doors off as far as why your signifigant other is like they are. you also find out why you are like you are.

I highly recomend you check these books out ASAP.

and have her read "attitude is everything"

Answer 2

To me this isn't so much about having no car and living in a trailer temporarily, but about perspective, ambition levels, individual needs and wants, and a serious lack of communication.

If you have 24/7 computer access and neighbors why aren't both of you working to pull in more income, how can you be content without transportation of your own, the freedom to shop when you wish, to have choices in the jobs you accept, the ability to treat her out occassionally. There is no way you should be okay without your freedom and choices, I sort of have this mental vision of you "a turtle who won't stick his head out of his shell for fear he won't like what he finds there either, maybe even less." A lot of people are in a comfort zone because they fear expecting more of themselves or life".

I mean, YOU said "NO CAR & A CRAPPY JOB." Has it been like this for the entire 5 years? Why? I mean there are better jobs out there, even free courses on the Internet, businesses you could start on the internet, and cars can be found for $2000. or less locally in the papers.

Of course your spouse can do her part to; complaining alone doesn't cut it. She can babysit, do personal care or housekeeping for neighbors or something to help pay for what she wants, maybe to save up for that car.
How bad does she want it?

There, that should get the ball rolling down communication alley, only 3 rules to follow:
(1) No blaming or name calling/
(2) No Yelling or Hitting or Tantrums
(3) No awfulizing (you know: making mountains out mole hills).

Basically you both listen respectfully & talk softly and briefly for no more than 5 minutes at a time, keeping in mind you both have the right to feel and think the way you do. However, you do not have the right to demean or offend the other person while stating those thoughts and feelings.

GOOD LUCK, let me know how it works out!

Answer 3

You're not just a loser but an idiot too? Everyone complains. The fact that your girlfriend complain doesn't mean you should dump her. Be glad that she's with you.

Everyone wants to live a good life, that is why women don't like being with a poor fella. I wouldn't date someone like you because I know I can't live the life your living. I am not a gold digger. But he should make as much as I do or something close and has the same life style that I do.

Answer 4

If you have a plan for a future that includes her dreams and yours, then it may be more appealing to her. If you just settle, that's up to you. I 'm all for living at a level you can afford.

Maybe you two don't have a real basis for
your relationship other than time spent together. It is good to have some shared goals, hopes and dreams. Do you want to be an old man, having spent your life in that trailer with no car and never traveling or doing other stuff? That's up to you, but maybe that doesn't seem like much of a life to her.

Answer 5

First off your wording would make someone run off... I think all of us crave alittle more in one way or another. We have four kids and have been together for 12 years and been on a financial rollercoaster ride but after going thru a bad financial spell I usally feel great when it gets better...I appriciate even the smallest things. Personally I like the ups and downs otherwise it would be boring. I assure you no matter how crappy things may be there are surely people worse off...hope things get better for you both.

Answer 6

My friend, it sounds to me like YOU have a problem. It's called lack of ambition/motivation. Things won't get better until you get off the sofa and make them happen.

You didn't say if this was a recent development of if you've been living this way for the whole 5 years.

Generalizing that WOMEN need more is not a good idea. You're liable to get blasted by every woman who reads this question. Women need security and it sounds like yours doesn't feel very secure.

Dumping her might be doing her a favor.

Answer 7

What are you doing to improve your situation? That is all she wants. Apparently it didn't bother her that you were without 5 years ago. It bothers her that you are STILL without. If you find someone new it will be the same routine. Take some initiative and get your act together. Take simple steps, for now, look for a "less crappy" job. That will bring different rewards and then maybe you can afford some of the other luxuries such as a car and immobile home.

Answer 8

because peope with poor jobs, no car and living in a trailer and are content with it, usually end up with a poor job, no car and living in a trailer. Just like you aren't content with her complaining she isn't content with YOU. Dump her, it will be the best thing that ever happened and she can move on and find a guy that wants a better life and you can go on with your poor job, no car and living happily in a trailer alone.

Answer 9

Maybe shes thinking about the future, kids and stuff and maybe she wants to be pampered a bit or at least live in a flat with a car! i mean living in a flat isn't TOO much to ask for. But does she have a job? if she doesn't then she cant really complain too much.

But be thankful for what shes got? from what i've read theres not that much to be thanful for... Its not like shes asking for a bently with rims and a masion

Answer 10

It may have nothing to do with your current life situation but your level of ambition. If I where you I would just sit her down and be honest. Tell her "I like the way I live and I do not plan on changing a thing any time soon." I personally do not find your situation appealing but understand you may be content. Just lay things out with her clearly because if you do love her she needs to understand how serious you are about the situation.