Ok, I have a baby that is going to turn one on Dec. 7. I have a couple of things that I need advice on. First, he has a bit of a biting problem. He does this towards me most of the time and only occasionaly towards others like his dad and siblings. I don't know if he is trying to kiss me and maybe is teething and goes for a bite, but why only me? He comes towards me with his little mouth wide open and then takes a bite and pulls away. It's getting painful and I don't know what I can do about it being he is only one year old. I think he is way too young for disipline like time out and I'm not sure how to go about it since I never had this problem with the first 2. Then another thing is he is starting to throw tantrums, I thought it was too young but he's doing it. He throws himself on the floor and cries if I walk a step away from him. I've been with him 24/7 since he was born so could this be separation anxiety? I don't know but I need some opinions.
2007-11-29 05:47:40 · 13 answers · asked by prettyrockangel 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
At one, the common practice, and would probably work well since you are around him so much, is to set him away from you and tell him "NO. We don't bite and that was bad". Firmly. It might break his little heart that you are disappointed in him and get the point across. He obviously desires your attention, and taking it away for negative behavior might work for you!
I'd say the same for tantrums, but you are saying it is seperation anxiety, so I don't know. The best bet it to not cave to them and the first time he doesn't do it, be sure to heap praise for something. Perhaps you can make sure he has some amusement other than you?
Best of luck to you. I hope you are able to nip this in the bud early, because we all have seen what happens if you don't. Ask your pediatrician if none of the suggestions work for you or you don't agree with them or find that you have tried them. They might have a good idea for you!
2007-11-29 05:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the best reaction is NO reaction. Considering he has just started doing this, and he is under one year old, do not make a huge deal out of it. It can easily turn into something he commonly does for a reaction (good or bad). Let it lie, don't react and see what happens. If it turns into a common thing you've obviously got to deal with it. The firm "no" etc may be in order. For now though just keep it calm.
My daughter (going on 16 months) tries to throw tantrums but gives up quickly because they get her nowhere. She doesn't get a reaction/what she wants by throwing a fit. So they are infrequent and do not last. Also she will resist when I am getting her dressed or putting her coat on....kick, squirm, make herself limp). Basically I pretend it is not happening and overpower (for lack of a better word) her and just continue doing what I'm doing until I'm done. It works just about every time.
Good luck
2007-11-29 07:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Maudie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 month old boy and have had some of the same problems. Time out is amazing. The doctor told us that time out can be done. Put him in for 1 minute. When he gets up put him back and continue. Eventually he will give up and just stay and cry. Also they say not to show then attention positive or negative. That is what they want. So ignore the tantrums and put in time out. It may take a few crazy days for him to get used to it but it will be worth it in the long run.
2007-11-29 08:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tantrums are normal part of child development
with regards to the biting problem
The best thing you can do is intervene. Don't give him a chance to bite you... or stop him in the process.
Grab his little hands and look him right in the eyes and tell him in a stern voice, "No bitting, be nice to your Mommy." Show him that you are the boss... I know he is only 1, but it sounds like there is a little bit of a power struggle going on... especially since he only does it to you.
Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.
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2007-11-29 21:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Just Me" pretty much said it all.
A firm, maybe loud "OUCH...NO, THAT HURT!" and set him firmly down, may startle him enough to stop it.
Stand strong.
The tantrums are his way of attention.
You need to ignore them and walk away. NO BIG DEAL type of attitude. Ask others to try and look the other way.
If you cave in, he'll do it more.
Another idea on this whole thing...he may be frustrated, and at 1, doesn't have the words to explain why he's upset!
Try to note what he's doing (or what you are doing) right before he bites/throws a tantrum. It might be a situation.
Good luck!
2007-11-29 06:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Halo...as in Angels have them 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey.....our children could be twins w/ their behavior. My son is quite the biter ( and I am usually the victim....w/ an occasional daycare "friend" in between every now and then). I tried EVERYTHING to stop him with his biting....finally realized it was time to "bite back". I bit him once (not bad, just enough to let him know it hurts!) and he hasen't bit 10% as much as before. As for the tantrums....walk away! I do this constantly and everytime I walk away w/in 30 seconds he's over it. If no one is watching or making a fuss about the tantrum, they get over it sooooo much faster. It's just a phase....
2007-11-29 06:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will usually stop the biting once his teeth are fully in ...I have lived with my nephew since he was born and he will be 2 next month and he USED TO ALWAYS BITE... it was a phase dont worry.... we just gave him stuff to chew on all the time while teething... his mother had bites all over her from him
but my neph's doctor said to let him cry and do not pay annny attention to him while he's having a tantrum and then he will not get used to getting what he wants when he cries
2007-11-29 06:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Livefor2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son bit me one time, even made me bleed, when he was about 1. I sat him away from me and firmly told him "NO you don't bite that hurts" and he has not bit me or anyone else again.
My son is now 16 months old and he still throws temper tantrums. Just IGNORE him completely don't look and him, talk to him, anything. Eventually he will figure out that tantrums don't work. He does really good until someone else is around like my step-mom...she doesn't ignore him so he keeps screaming longer...she hasn't figured out to ignore him yet like I have even though I have told her.
2007-11-29 07:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the buting what we are doing with my 13 month old nephew is slightly smacking his hand and in a firm voice say That Hurts We Do Not Bite. then we put him on the couch for 1 min time out. for the tantrum you have to ignore it. my nephew throws him self on the floor and bangs his head and after he does it he looks up at us looking about ready to cry and we say Hurt Don't It. then he stops because by then he knows he isn't going to get his way.
2007-11-29 07:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 13 mo old lil girl going through the same stage but with her biting thing she thinks its a game cause we used to nibble at her feet now she sneaks up and bites our toes and when we say oww is funny so whatever you do dont say oww dont let him think oww is funny trust me it's hard to detour him away from it and for the tantrum thing just walk away if he misses you that bad he'll come find you i took about a week of that for my daughter and now she's alot better she still throws some tantrums but not like before good luck
2007-11-29 06:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by sarah b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋