do you think its to much to allow my 13 year old son to have provacative posters of christina aguilera on his wall?should i worry hes doing more than looking at them?
2007-11-29 05:05:52 · 10 answers · asked by megmeg4697 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
As long as she isn't nude, I see no problem. It's normal at his age to want those types of posters on his wall. Just limit the content (no nudity or simulated sexual acts, etc.) and quantity (don't let him plaster them all over his wall so you can no longer see the color of the paint! lol) so he doesn't get completely vulgar with it.
Believe me, he'll be doing what you're afraid he's doing regardless of whether or not he has a poster on the wall. Boys that age have a very active imagination and do not require visual input. It's difficult to imagine your "little boy" in that light (trust me, I've been there) but it can't be helped -- this too is normal.
2007-11-29 05:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hum, this is really a personal choice, and its hard to answer without seeing the posters...however, a 13 year old is going to be interested in the opposite sex and admiring them...
I think it is more important that you stress to him the difference between Hollywood women and everyday women. I think it also very important that you stress to him that good women should be respected. If you feel he is not doing that, then maybe he should not have the poster up.
I'm not sure what you mean by doing more than looking at them...but you have to remember that a lot of things are natural, so you don't want him to feel ashamed or embarrassed about his sexuality.
This also depends on your religious background and how all of that comes into play. But personally, I think more of parenting is teaching kids how to make right choices, and how to teach them to go the right way in life. I'm sure he's not going to grow up to be a "bad" person because of a wall poster.
2007-11-29 13:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably IS doing more than just looking at them.
It's really a judgement call. I wouldn't allow the pictures in my house much less than on my child's wall but that's me. If you feel that it's inappropriate etc than take them down. If you don't...then don't.
What you should do though is talk to your son (or have a man do it) about how it's nice to fantasize about beautiful women....BUT women are people too with minds, talents, feelings etc. That it's important to make sure that you respect them as well as admire their beauty.
And you should be prepared though that as he gets older....his preference for clothing will become an issue as well (as in looking at playboy). It may be a 'healthy' response.....that doesn't mean it's appropriate though.
2007-11-29 14:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like a healthy teenage boy on all accounts.
I suspect that if you tell him to take them down, he will. But if he's already interested it's likely that he'll be looking at 'girlie' pictures in secret. Bikini posters on the wall are probably okay - porn on the internet at his age is not okay.
The best overall answer is to find a way to have another conversation with him about sex. I say "another" because I'm hoping you've already talked at least once about where babies come from. Your son's sense of his sexual self is maturing. Do all you can to make it safe for him to ask any questions at all. He's likely to be very self-conscious and embarrassed about it to start with; growing up is a very disorienting experience for a boy.
I suspect you'd rather he get real information from you than the silly stuff that teens pass around among themselves.
Check out books on "teen sexuality" too.
"The Underground Guide to Teenage Sexuality" by Michael J. Basso
"Changing Bodies, Changing Lives : A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships" by Ruth Bell
2007-11-29 13:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
At any age, you should teach him to treat girls as human beings, not meat. He doesn't need sexy posters on the wall.
As for doing more than looking at them, well his body will develop naturally, but this should be kept private.
2007-11-29 18:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes girls, in this day and age you should be glad he is not putting up posters of men, then how would you feel ?
2007-11-30 03:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by tovey_mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH GOOD I'm glad that you asked this question again. The first 26 TIMES really didn't do it for me.
STOP ASKING THIS!
2007-11-29 15:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by ! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how provocative they are. If you believe they show too much skin or are too inappropriate to be up on his wall, exercise your authority and tell him to take them down.
2007-11-29 13:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by icii_rainbow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You ask this a lot. I think you just like seeing people put "he's probably masturbating". Um that is uh...weird..
2007-11-29 22:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by Zachary 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
psst... hi jenniferjohnson4697! how are you today? ⥠I know this is your other account =]
your *cough*son*cough* is masturbating. Are you getting off reading this you ****** creeper?
2007-11-29 22:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋