Are Grandmothers Making (raising) Irresponsible Parents?????????

Question

When they want to do everything with their grand/daughter/son?
When they want to keep them 24-7 therefore leaving the parent with no responsibility? Buying them everything and not teaching them any value?
Babysitting for the parents, when they are doing nothing and watching t.v all day long?

Answer 1

yes they are.

When you take the child 24/7 it doesn't give the parent the chance to raise their own child, or spend time with their own child.

I can see the want to spend with the grandone, every grandparent wants that but when it comes to the point it's 24/7 there is an issue.

As far as babysitting, if it's a once a week or month thing sure what parent doesn't need a break.

And it's not just Grandmothers, it's grandparents in general. It's the grandpa's too! maybe not nearly as bad but just the same

Keight mommy, (sorry if i miss spelled your name) and mom of 3 boys ( sorry if i miss spelled yours as well. ) No the op isn't in a fantazy world. I promise you that. My neices grandma on her mom's side does this kind of thing. Matter of fact she's has told my neice that she wants her to call her grammy, which is a cross between mommy and grandma. She has also stated she wants my ex sister in law to five up custody of her so she ( the grandma ) can adopt her. Yes my ex sister in law depends way to much on her mother, which my neice has become so used to that she thinks of grandma as mom.

Answer 2

Well, not all parents come from the United States. My mom is from a different country and we are more on the conservative side on not talking about it. I learned about it through school and my family just believes on not getting a girlfriend or boyfriend until you plan on marrying that person. I believe it too. I find it completely absurd to get a boyfriend as a teenager. That is how my thought pattern has always been, "If you are not going to marry, why have a girlfriend or a boyfriend?" I did not find my classmates logic suitable. I've always known that girls had periods because when I was a child and we had to use the restroom, my mom would always take my brother and I and then she would use it and sometimes she had her period. I was about 4 years old and the only thing I was thinking, "You told me this a million times. I already know. When I get bigger I will worry about it." One of my friends had the talk when she was 8 years old and nothing went bad with her. Her mom put it really bluntly...

Answer 3

Not all grandparents are guilty of this. Sure, some grandparents spoil their grandchildren, but usually they send them back to their parents after a very short time and let the parents raise the kids. Of course, there are also some grandparents who don't spoil their grandchildren at all, and even if they aren't the primary caregivers, they still sometimes correct their grandchildren's behavior. And last but not least, there are some grandparents who raise their grandchildren full-time, because the parents aren't available to do this. It's not a good idea to generalize here.

Answer 4

That's a stereotype if I've ever heard one. Thinking that grandparents are there to spoil the child and not teach the child anything except that they can get whatever they want from them. Not my grandparents my grammy and papa were very respectful of my parents wishes and they also would discipline us if we were doing something they knew our parents wouldn't want us doing or saying. My grandma was bit softer because well being the only grandson to her but she wasn't a pushover.

Answer 5

no they are not..even during my divorce..my mom would baby sit only when i was working..if i wanted to go out..i had to find and pay a babysitter....she would never hand me cash either...she would help out with the kids when they needed something i coulnt afford..but would not just hand out cash..she taught me how to budget with the money i had to learn to make it stretch....todays parents and grandparents are a huge concern for the future..they are raising kids without the knowledge of money management..learning to live on what you bring home and how you dont have to keep up with the jones

Answer 6

never ran across this situation, so have no opinions, my parents are no longer living and when they were they were typical grandparents, they did spoil my eldest but they only saw him 3 times a year and i can not wait to be a grandparent so i can spoil em, but i can guarantee you i will not have my grandchildren with me 24/7, no way no how,

Answer 7

My mother did the same thing with my neice and now she regrets it, my sister has become accustomed to doing whatever she wants and has no real mothering skills and now my mother is always burnt out and mean cause she's chasing after a two year old all day and night.

Answer 8

This sounds very familiar. My ex decided he did not want to work and when his dad kicked him out for not trying to support our baby he moved in with his mom. His mom bought her son's smokes, clothes, and everything while he did nothing! She also called me for Eric (our son) so his dad could "visit" him (every other weekend. I have custody). I know he wasn't spending time with him. She wanted to see him and I didn't see a problem with it, but she abandoned my ex when he was like 2 on his dad's door step. Now that I look back on it, it seems that she was trying to make up for lost time with her son and "raising" mine in order to have that time back. I don't have to worry about it any more bc his mom kicked him out and he gave up rights to our son to my husband. But I definately agree with what you are saying, in some situations. Not all of them are like that, but some yes.

Answer 9

Who are these parents and grandparents you're talking about? I've never met anyone like that, ever.

Answer 10

grandparents should spoil their grandchildren but the parents need to be in control.