should I feel insulted or am I being abit over sensitive ?

Question

On the pta minutes it is noted incorrectly that I will be purchasing soup I actually spoke to the minutes sec and told her that I was not.Also last month we held a table top sale it went ok but we decided to change the name to indoor boot sale as again according to this person it sounds much classier.I personally don't think so boot sales make me think of other peoples un wanted items.There really was no need for her to write this comment.but she seems to insist on putting her own little comments in I think it is wrong of her to do so.

If you can't be constuctive then don't bother to reply.I have a very busy life but this person has got up my nose its life it happens normally I would not give a fig just sharing an opinion.So get your own life.

Nut how did you come to that assumption grow up.

Answer 1

to be completely honest, you sound a bit of a ****

Answer 2

with any committee there is a certain amount of etiquette and custom and practise involved. people serve on committees for various reasons but many see it as the only power they have over life and other people. someone who takes minutes has a lot of power and getting on the wrong side of them is bad politics. PTA's are extremely political and unless you feel you are being put in a position where you feel you have to resign try to laugh it of..otherwise put in a complaint through the chair but expect to make yourself alot of enemies. sadly it's an extension of school bullying and your only way out is to get out. you feel what you feel. commiting your perosnal time and money without your say so can fall back on her if you just don't do it and say nothing. when asked why just say you've no idea what they are talking about as you didn't have time to read the minutes and everyone heard what you'd siad

Answer 3

You asked for our honest opinion, so here it is. Yes, you are being oversensitive and getting really worked up over a fairly trivial matter.
This woman did not intend to insult you, so there is no reason to get mortally offended by her actions. Yes, she sounds like a bit of a twit and full of herself.
If you really think she is doing a poor job of taking minutes, you should talk with the president or leader of the group, and ask them to clarify with her what sort of comments should be included in the official minutes. You could also suggest the minutes be reviewed by the leader before they are published, or that different people take turns writing the minutes.

Answer 4

The minutes to your meetings should be reviewed and approved at the following regular meeting. That is the time to suggest amending the minutes. Generally minutes should be accurate, and only need to note decsions or actions to be taken and perhaps brief announcements. You should offer your suggested changes at the meeting when the minutes are reviewed. The group decides whether to accept of reject your suggestions; and whether to accept the minutes as written or accept them as amended.

The decision on what to call your sale should be a group decision. There will always be times when your suggestion is not adopted by the group; but as long as you had a fair discussion of your idea, you should simply comply with the decision of your group. (Unless of course the decision violates PTA bylaws or any state or local laws)

Answer 5

A secretary that writes the minutes for a meeting is meant to include comments made for or against the items on the agenda, it sounds as if your secretary has her own one. You can at a meeting stress your views and concerns and ask them to be noted in the minutes.

Answer 6

If you feel that strongly perhaps you should write the minutes yourself.
Incidentally, I happen to write minutes for meetings of groups I'm involved with, and often find that in the meeting itself I'm too busy taking notes to actively contribute to the discussion. In which case if I happen to feel strongly about something I will bring it up in the minutes so others know my opinion.
Perhaps you should take that into account before you start spouting off.

Answer 7

In a meeting that minutes are being taken the secretary (one responsible for taking the minutes) is not supposed to put in any opinions. The minutes are to state only the facts of what occurs in a meeting. Nothing more, and nothing less. I would bring this up to the Pres or Vice Pres and ask them should you make it a formal statement during the next meeting. They will more then likely pull the recorder aside and politely inform her of her actual responsibilities.

Answer 8

I think you need to get a life....sorry but you have written a diatribe about nothing...rise above petty squabbles like this...although I appreciate they probably don't seem trivial to you. In the scheme of things is what the "minutes sec" says really important....its not is it?! I guess you have kids, which I haven't. Be happy that you have wonderful kids and forget the petty stuff. Merry Xmas to you!

Answer 9

I can see where it might bother you. But it might be just an honest mistake. Talk with the sec so she can make the appropriate corrections, and hopefully someone will actually pay attention the next time.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Wow, you have a lot of time on your hands. No offense but I really wish we could swap problems. Just let it go, get a hobby, volunteer with elderly people. They will teach you what really matters and what doesn't. You need to ask yourself, in ten years, will this matter.

Answer 11

Get a grip!

I thought PTA meetings were meant for fully responsible mature adults not childish 10 year olds.