Ok i live with my boyfriend at his parents with his sister also. well my sister in law just recently told me that her boyfriend cheated on her because hes a sex addict supposibly with a girl he had sex with 3 times. but not only that but he had sex with a guy also. but says that hes not gay but only did it because hes a sex addict which is bullshit . but my sister in law said to not tell her parents anything especially her dad because hell get mad but i think i should because she already got a yeast infection because of him and i didnt like him from the start anyways because he has to many problems he smokes pot and he sees a sciatrist and he's always having seizures. and on top of everything her dad think;s hes a perfect match for her and i think that had a little to do with why she doesnt want me to tell her dad. but do u think i should tell her dad that he cheated on her or not???????? i already tried to tell her. what should i do???????
2007-11-29 04:42:53 · 24 answers · asked by Teresa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her brother and let him handle it with the family. You should butt out for the sake of your relationship and future relations within the family. Continue to talk to her about what a scumbag he is. Tell her about AIDS, herpes, chlamydia, Gonorrhea, etc.
2007-11-29 04:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by toetagme 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can only support her decision. She is the one who has to draw lines with her boyfriend. The only decent reason for you to tell her dad would be in a case of life and death. At this point it does not seem to be one according to what you are saying. By the way the yeast infection is probably not his fault. Just be her friend, whatever she decides to do. You cannot make these decisions for her. There are people who are truly sex addicts and unless you are one you cannot make judgements on the matter, you would be suprised at how many people smoke pot and see psychiatrists and seizures are a medical condition. It has recently been discovered that sex addicts and epileptics have a lot in common and recommend that your friend convince her boyfriend to have a CT scan or a MRI there may be more going on that what meets the eye. Until your friend is tired of his behavior and ready to shuck him there is absolutely nothing that you can do.
2007-11-29 04:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by hicks.jenn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that I would try everything before going to her dad just yet...If she won't listen to you than find someone else she trusts to talk to her too (maybe your bf). You guys can tag team her. She shouldn't be with a guy like that. And why is he going and foolin around with other people? Is she not enough? You need to tell her flat out! That guy is no good and she'll never be enough for him. Ask her to ask herself if she can honestly live with that **** for like another ten years. If all else fails and the down low guy is still f**king around on her....than tell her dad. Its for her own good. You don't want her getting hurt...or anything else. And advise her to be careful in the mean time. Make sure she is on birth control and uses condoms...you never know what he has. And I would definitely get him tested too. Its not an easy situation but I think you will do the right thing. Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-11-29 05:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by carqueen66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't like him because he is seeing a shrink? And because he is Epileptic? Wow... Maybe we should take everyone with downs syndrome out behind the barn and shot them, so we dont upset your delicate sensibilities.
First try this... Minding your own business is a wonder wonderful thing. Short of him abusing the woman or doing horrible things that she DOESNT know about, what on Earth gives you the right to be this girls moral voice?
I made an assumption that she is over 18 and an adult, but after seeing your insight, and thought process, if she is a child, which I think it is safe to say you are, maybe you should contact CPS. If the parents have a child banging her no good boyfriend in their home then they are not taking care of their child properly. ANd again if she is an adult you need to mind your own and not rely on a Yahoo Forum crowd to offer advice.
ANd for the record... despite what other 15 year old girls may think..... guys having sex with other guys is not something a "straight" man does. It defies the very definition. "Expiramenting" or not.
2007-11-29 04:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by First & Ten 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all you don't say how old this girl is. that would be helpful. If she is over 18 mind your own business it's her life if she wants to be with a freak it's on her. Second a yeast infection is a common problem which can have nothing to do with sex. You may end up being the one that everyone is angry with in the end so I would stay out of it. if she's younger than 18 then use your best judgement .
2007-11-29 04:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be very important for her father to understand the issues his daughters boyfriend is dealing with. If he is having seizures on a regular basis that is a very real problem. He should be seeing a doctor for that condition.
Withholding this info from her father is not going to help her and could put her at serious risk of contracting a STD or his poor judgement could cause an accident if she were in a car.
Marijuana is not a cure for seizures. His doctor should be aware of this matter because it could interact with his meds if he takes any.
If my daughter was dating a bisexual I would probably kick his *** out of the house.
2007-11-29 05:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by surething_78504 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all is he your boyfriend or your husband that you are calling her your sister in law? Secondly and most importantly, it's none of your business to tell anyone anything that she's told you in confidence. Offer to go to the doctor with her and explain to her the consequences of dating such a loser. The more you pressure her, the more she'll want to date this guy. She knows he's bad for her and with a little help she'll soon realize she needs to end it with him. He's not going to change anytime soon and its good that he's seeing a shrink. Let her know you're there for her and mind your own business. btw, he's not GAY just because he banged another dude. girls experiment all the time but they aren't lesbians. get over yourself and move into your own house.
2007-11-29 04:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by myluv115 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Back as far away from the 'in-law' issues as you can. Nothing good can come from it. You will always be the bad guy no matter what happens. Blood is always thicker than water, don't forget.
2007-11-29 04:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to get involed woth someones elses life.
an anligy from a 15 year old boy
in life you can only be on the sidelines and shout advice .for you have a diffferent perspective on the game .you have to think will i go and be a substiue or will i be a spectator.
2007-11-29 04:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A) She's not your sister-in-law; you're just the girlfriend who's bumming off her parents, it sounds like
B) It's her life and her decisions
C) It's none of your business. Keep your mouth shut.
2007-11-29 04:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋