Can A Mother Who Puts Her Own Interests Before That Of Her Child Truly Be Called a Mother?

Answer 1

Well it depends on what YOU class as HER own interests?
Lets take a hyperthetical view on this.....if you are asking abt if a mother makes decisions for her child that are for his own good and then the courts also decide the same things for the child. Then how is this mother not being a good mother, if the courts have made the same decision?
Or another hyperthetical view....if the mother didn't care for her child and lets it run around getting into all sorts of trouble, and getting in trouble with the police, or getting in with the wrong group of people and taking drugs etc because she was more interested in going out down the pub or whatever, rather than staying in looking after her child. Then she IS putting her own interests first, and she IS a bad Mother.
So this question really can't be answered because it depends on what you think "her own interests" are.....in my opinion anyway.

Answer 2

In my opinion, looking at that question I can't give an answer.

'A mother who puts her own interests'
what kind of interest are we talking about? In some cases like some has answered yes but in other cases definitely no.
We all have stress, you need your own space for at least some moment to relieve, even if it means just a minute going to a big chiller a shouting out to relief.(you know what i mean, its the uos and downs of life NOT because of the child)

'Before That Of Her Child'
Child---how old are you talking about? Its can be that the child is too young or the other end of child age range.
Again it can be yes or no.

Be more specific or give the situation you are facing for voting. Sometimes we men have to try take the load of woman and experience it to see what it can really mean. (not for a day or two but a month or two, I think it can get into your mind after sometime and you will just need a moments break if not longer)

Again just my opinion!

Answer 3

Ah ha! Another one I can answer. Anyone woman can get pregnant but not everyone deserves the right to be a mother especially if she puts her interests in front of the childs. Of course, some women should never in a million years be a mother in the first place as they don't have the maternal instincts that are needed. Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs in the world especially these days when there is no respect for women who have children and, heaven forbid, actually stay home and care for them! Take care, Les.

Answer 4

Yes she is still a mother, its whether she is a good or bad mother that would be more in question.

Keep this also in mind. Sometimes people really think they are doing the best thing, and sometimes people don't see what they are doing and if they did would perhaps change it. So not always does someones action make them bad. Sometimes its just something they were blind to and needed pointed out.

Especially if the person is accustomed to being spoiled or self centered. They may not stop to see they are still doing this and now need to account for their childrens needs also. Habits are easy to form and hard to get away from.

But NO, I don't think a mother should put her needs above her childrens most of the time. Sometimes its needed.

Answer 5

yes, the thing is a mothers interests is sometimes a vital part of nurturing their children and a women needs to feel good about herself before she can truly give their children the guidence and self esteem they need. there is not arguement that there are women out there that should never have given birth, but there are so many women out there that can't have any and would be the best mothers ever. children are a blessing! can a father who puts his interest before that of his child be called a father? I think its fine for mothers and fathers to do things they want to do as long as they do not neglect or take away from the best interests of their children!

Answer 6

No one is completely unselfish. Good mother's try to make the best decisions for their child and their family. Every once in a while, even the best parents make a decision that is their own best interest. Hopefully if it were something that was actually harmful or detrimental to the children, they wouldn't do it.

It is sometimes very hard to make these decisions because you have several children with different needs and priorities, the welfare of the family, having to support your family and so many other things to consider that it is impossible to make everyone happy.

On the other hand, I have known selfish parents who didn't give a crap about anyone but number one.

Answer 7

Depends the interests. I have an interest in showering alone and using the restroom alone. I often have to lock my son out of the room for a few moments to get either of them....but I am still a good mother. If her interests are dating and going out and leaving for lengthy periods of time...no I do not believe they are a good mother. I am re-reading your questions as I type though and you say can they be called a mother? Well, even the worst can be called a mother...because they are....not because they are good at it.

Answer 8

A mother will always put her children first. But it really depends on the situation and what you are talking about too. A parent needs to take care of themselves before they can possibly take care of a child. Like on the airplanes when they tell you in an emergency the adult puts on their mask first. A child with an airmask is in bad shape if their guardian has collapsed because of lack of oxygen!

Answer 9

It depends on the situation.My ex's first wife put her interests before her first born,and kicked the child out of her own home at the ripe old age of 8.Fortunately,there is a lot of family that would have willingly took her in.Now,I look at my ex's first wife as a host body for this wonderful young lady that I still refer to as my step daughter.So,that being said,it would depend on the mother and why she did what she did.

Answer 10

Is this a real question? needs to know what the own interests are and what age the child is first. try putting the facts down and then we can answer it