Ok, Heres the thing.....my boyfriend and I have been together a ruff one year...he lives with a family that isnt his... Theres a girl that he lives with that is both of our friends... He told me he sleeps on the couch but she told me that he sleeps in her room...lately he has been deleting all the dialed and recieved phone numbers in his phone...(why would he do that) He has names abbreviated so i dont know who they are....People keep telling me he had sex with my little sister....but they both denie it....I dont know what to do but i know somethings going on....I dont know if hes cheating or if hes just off doing things he shouldnt be but im worried...why would he lie about sleeping in her room? Why would he delete numbers? Why wont his friends tell me whats going on? He never tells me he loves me first anymore and when i say i love you its like he hesitates to say it back...when i ask him to do something with me over the weekend he invites alot of people.. whats going on?
2007-11-29 04:03:33 · 20 answers · asked by C'Vale Chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even on our anniversay dinner he wanted his brother to come...(I always pay for everything) He never does anything for me...he dont call me or text me i always have to get ahold of him... and when i reach him hes always busy...Im not stupid....but im sick of this...I dont care about money or anything i just want to know why hes acting weird lately...
2007-11-29 04:05:04 · update #1
Well Yesturday I tried to get him to talk to me about this but he wouldnt! Were no longer together anymore and hopefully life will get better....everyone just wish me the best of luck... Come to find out he was definately hiding something from me and it wasnt no girl and i didnt think it was but it was much more....
2007-11-30 02:59:39 · update #2
First things first always trust your first instinct. If you can sense that there is a change then there is.
If his actions have made a total 360 from how the relationship use to be then there is something fishy going on.
Now I am not going to say that he is cheating with the roommate and your sister. But maybe there is a deeper issue, it could simply be that he does not want a relationship with you anymore and instead of coming out and telling you he is trying to push you to the point where you will end the relationship. This is not the most mature route but it is the one he is choosing. Or it can simply be that he is involved physically or emotionally with another female.
Nevertheless you need to speak with him and let him know how you are feeling. If for some reason he wants all his friends there then so be it. I am pretty sure that his friends know what is really going on, and maybe if you put everything on the line the influence of his friends may make him speak the truth.
Ultimately you deserve better, I know that it will be difficult to separate yourself from him. But don't allow him to continue disrespect you and your feelings.
I truly wish you the best...
2007-11-29 04:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥PirplePashn♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COME ON GIRL. Read your question.
You already know the answer. He's a jerk and you are going along for his ride. He is using you. Who know why??? just because he can.
Some people just like to control others.
Get a life and DUMP THIS TAKER. Some people are takers and some are givers and you are enabling him to do this. Sit down and write a list of what you really desire in a person you want as a partner. See if he does any of them????
Find someone who full fills your image of a good boyfriend, date, partner, husband, father to your children. and I think you know it is not him. Don't waste any more time.
2007-11-29 04:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know something isn't right. Does it really matter if it's one or the other? It's still something that isn't going to make you happy. I'd get him and the girl he lives with in the same room and ask them where he sleeps. His friends aren't going to tell you anything because they are HIS friends and they will lie for their buddy. He's keeping you around because you're letting him. You're his sugar momma and that'd be stupid to let you go when he can do whatever he wants and still keep you. What did he get you for your anniversary? An extra mouth to feed?! Get rid of this dude, you deserve way better.
2007-11-29 04:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by myluv115 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up he's using you. However; how do you know that this girl is not lying to you about sleeping in her room? You need to go straight to the source, HIM , ask him these questions. Who knows him better, us or he himself. He sounds like he just wants to dangle you, that;s not someone you want to spend your time with. Find someone who isn't using you, and someone who loves you not what you spend on them. gl and GB If it were me I would just say, look I know something is wrong, get it out now, at least be honest with me if nothing else. If he still refuses to communicate, my guess is he will end up calling you, if he doesn't it seems like its not such a great loss after all. You said you had a rough year with him, you don't want to live your life rough year after rough year. Be happy, find happiness where you know it exists not with that jiggle lo
2007-11-29 04:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by denise g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to loose this jerk and find someone who is not just using you! Tell him that you need some time apart, read the link that I will give you dealing with self esteem and finding happiness and you will not want someone in your life who is just using you for what he can get from you. You will find someone who will love you for yourself but you have to get rid of the parasite first, and that is all this guy is. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-29 04:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him ask him if he still has feelings for you becuase if he dosent than you dont want to waste your time on a guy that dosent even care about you it might hurt to let him go but if hes cheating on you than your not in a healthy relationship anyways and your going to want someone who only has eyes for you so babe get rid of him if he is cheating on you.
2007-11-29 04:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Adri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, it sounds like he is losing interest or moving on and not being honest about it.
Speak openly with him about your concerns and see what he says. In any case, you deserve an equitable relationship.
I would tell him that if he is not willing to invest in the relationship then it is best for you to part ways. Good luck - you deserve someone who will treat you with love, honesty and respect.
2007-11-29 04:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him. Let him know how you feel and what has been bothering you. There shouldnt be any reason for you to feel uncomfortable. Let him know what you want from your relationship and if he doesnt start treating you the way you expect a boyfriend to behave, dump him.
2007-11-29 04:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with him about what's bothering you but if he doesn't see that there's a problem you are not right for each other - too much of your energy is being taken up worrying about him.
2007-11-29 04:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best bet is he's cheating big time. there should be no reason for him to be so secretive. Personally i would confront him. if you still dont think hes telling you the truth, dump him.
2007-11-29 04:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by lil_fairy1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋