I've been dating my girlfriend since May 18th 2006, officially a couple since October 18th 2006.. so we've been together for a year and half... while we were dating we had sex like once a week... but since we became a couple and I started staying at her house from monday thru friday, we've been having sex every single day... some days twice and thre times... but not that often.. in the summer we took days off to be tigether and one of those days we did it 6 times and another day 5 times... lately we've been having some problems... and for the past 3 weeks we only have sex like once a week.. this week we got into an argument, she told me that she tired of having sex and wants a sex break, but she was always the one wanting more sex and asking me to write a book on how to make a woman *** 4 times in a row... this week we havent had any sex at all and she is distant.. we had few problems, i was acting jealous at one point,.. (continued-read more below)
2007-11-29 04:01:24 · 50 answers · asked by FR15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he ex husband was very jealous prson and used to hit her and make her feel bad... she doesnt want that in her life again.. but I want to know why so sunddenly she is not intrested in sex anymore when she used to hunt me down for sex... she cant be getting it from someone else because i think i would know.. i work with her.. i sleep with her check her phone and email check her drawer and never find anything... this is so confusing to me.. last night i asked her,.if you are unhappy with me then tomorrow i will pack my clothes and leave.. i just ask for one more night with you..let me make love to you and tell you how much i love you and tomorrow i will be gone..she got upset and told me that she doesnt want that she just wants a sex break. we got into a small argument and then I said.I dont know anybody who can keep up with the sex life we have i just want a little break from sex i dont wanna break up i dont want u to leave..then a moment of silence and she lay on my chest & kisse me
2007-11-29 04:08:55 · update #1
OMG!!! Give the girl a break. She probably need some space and some rest to her parts. Too much of a good thing makes it boring, not exciting and not fresh. It'll be better and more exciting and love filled if it's a few times a week and not every day. You're a guy, you want the sex as much as possible, but be sensitive to her needs as well. Fulfill her emotionally and the sex will follow. Let her know you love her with romance and you'll both get what you want.
2007-11-29 04:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Been there my friend. My wife of six years used to want sex at least daily if not 3 or 4 times a day and now we may have sex about twice a month. Unless there is a reason besides the sex for you to be concerned , don't stress it. She didn't say she finds you repulsive and never wants to see you so much as unbutton your shirt again. No... She said she wants a break. If you are getting on with some serious sex and you both get off and it was good then she probably gets really sore from it. If you love her for more than a good piece, then you should let her have her break and just be supportive. Besides, if you need it more often than you get it, masturbation is always a release. The only other option is cheating and then you risk loosing her forever and not just for her little break. Woman can be really complicated and do seemingly irrational things that we men can't understand and the only thing to do is give them there space and pay attention to what they say. She might be testing you to see if you still love her without the sex. Give her space and see how things go.
2007-11-29 04:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more going on than just a sexual thing with your girlfriend. You two need to sit down & have a talk & both should lay the cards on the table. Maybe you two are together too much & not just in a sexual way. Talk things out & go from there. Could it be that she's seeing someone else? You need to find out why there is distance between you two now. If you're going to stay in this relationship, you have to learn to communicate. Let her speak & don't get mad or upset at what she says, after all, you want her to be open & honest, if you two are to be able to work things out. She needs to allow you to do the same. Good luck.
I just read the rest of the story & I will close in saying that she's asking for a break, so give it to her. The break I mean. Don't initiate anything that tells her you desire her. Keep your eyes & ears open. Believe me, if she's fooling around, she'll find time to do so. I'm not saying she is but she might be. If she is, she'll get sloppy & start leaving clues around. Just sit back & observe.
Attn: smelly feet......This guy is not pervert & this is what adults talk about here. If it upsets you that much, you could have kept on going on to another question, perhaps in the cooking or laundry forums.
2007-11-29 04:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her the break she needs and also talk to her about how you feel , and ask her how she feels. That way you can see what the problem is it will be easier for both of you to try and sort things out. I think probably feels like you just want sex and that is all the relationship is about. Sex should be special, and not like a hobby. You don't need sex everyday, as this will ruin the fun and could give you more problems in the future.
2007-11-29 04:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by kittyrawr17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you didn't listen to her. She told you exactly what she wanted and you are adding all this extra stuff to it. She said she wanted a break from all the sex. Nothing more, nothing less. Stoop thinking too much into it. Let her have a break and I'm sure she will come running back to you for sex and will bang the Sh!t outta you. Sounds like she is wanting a break to make sure that the relationship is more than just good sex. Stop making assumptions and talk to her.
2007-11-29 04:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK couldnt find the rest but maybe - just maybe your girlfreind wants you to consider her as a person and not just someone to have sex with. After all you can get that anywhere - try building a loving relationship and showing you care for her! I am sure you do but maybe she needs some assurance that you care for and respect her ....and give her some freedom too. Also while on this break just try touching her - softly and gently - she will soon find she wants to get back to the way things were.
2007-11-29 04:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by suzie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes sex gets boring no matter what you do when you have it so often with the same person. I'm sorry but that's true. If you save it and do it less often, it seems soooo much better. Maybe she's just having a dry spell you know. I think we should assume the best instead of the worst until she gives you reason to believe otherwise. Pushing the issue of sex or getting jealous will only complicate matters. Be patient.
2007-11-29 04:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by lmunn09 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
UR not listening to her, she said she doesnt want a break up but needs a rest from sex..so listen. Also the way u check her fone and email is not cool...u say her ex husband treated her bad,sounds to me like she's picked the same type of guy again in you.
So just be more understanding or u will lose her
2007-11-29 04:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by spdy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should lay off because that is a little bit to much if you ask me.But I understand that she does`nt want to break up or anything but sometimes you have to honor your girlfriend wishes because some sex is fine but not a whole lot. Yall should just have romantic dates and things like that because maybe your girlfriend is sick of having it everyday. Yall should try romantic dinners, try walking in the park, holding hands. Being romantic does not mean that you have to have sex every single day because that is just being horney.
2007-11-29 04:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neat little trick for you.. may help you for the remainder of your relationship.
You need to make her think you are available to her, but not actually be available to her for sex. By this i mean tease and denial, it'll drive her insane with passion.
Do not talk about sex anymore. Do not mention it, do not ask about it. BUT, show interest in her still. Kiss her, come onto her, and then back off as soon as she's hot and bothered :-)
After a few days she will want you again. Keep playin that game to keep her interest.
2007-11-29 04:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Wise Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋