I guess this is post high school anxiety, but I feel like i can't seem to reach either the opportunity to find a school, have money for the intuition or get a job.idk wither it's depression, laziness, or whatever. I have many intersts, but they aren't really something that can get you a career or into a school,(listening to music,watching films, etc.) and i want to become a writer,which i do write and read a lot as well but i still feel helpless and lost.
So my question is, is this normal for kids that are my age and status and how do i snap out of it? I feel horrible because it seems to drive both me and my family insane. Please,no harsh comments, i'm truly stressed out here.
2007-11-29 03:59:00 · 7 answers · asked by fobabe032 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are talking about a whole slew of issues here, but I can say that you aren't the first person to feel this way. I'm not a psychologist, but from my experiences in that same position I can offer some advice about how I handled it.
First, you must decide if continuing your education is really for you. As a potential writer, you may have already written many things and may even have put together a portfolio. Take these items you've written and see if anyone's interested in publishing them like online sites, local newspapers or magazines. If you are already a good enough writer to make money at it, you may not want to go to school right away.
If you think you are ready to go to school now, start by just browsing school websites that interest you. Or even better just search for things that you like adding the word college to search terms and you may be able to find schools that share your interests. I graduated with my degree in English from UMass-Amherst focusing on writing. They had many interesting classes on more than just "how to write" like Witches and Writing with other Artistic Mediums. Most schools have plenty of electives that may keep you interested so look around.
Affording college seems like a daunting task, and here too I handled it all on my own. When you do finally select a school (or schools), contact their financial aid offices and they'll help you get started. One big piece of advice is to file your FAFSA form (www.fafsa.gov) as soon as possible.
Finally, try stuff. The worst decision to make is not to make one at all. If you don't want to commit to a four-year college, take a course at a community college first to see if it's for you. You like watching movies? Start a blog reviewing those movies and see if anyone is interested in what you have to say. It never hurts to try.
2007-11-29 04:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by urbaal_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter just graduated and my wife and I have "encouraged" her to go college and she is taking a full schedule of general electives that will transcend to most any type of degree. While college is a good place for someone like you to be, it's not the answer to your dilemma. You need some focus and guidance. Here's what we told our daughter. Go to college (community college is cheaper) and live at home, but focus on getting in a career field that you can get a job after two years. We steered her towards a medical job, such as radiography (x-ray tech) nursing, or respiratory tech.
She said " I don't want to do that the rest of my life" ..which is typical for someone your age to say. Here's our response.
Just because you get a degree in nursing, x-ray or whatever, doesn't mean you HAVE to do it the rest of your life. It's a means to an end. We told her we can't afford to pay for schooling, or for her lifestyle should she drift around 3-4 years after high school "finding herself".
She has the same aspirations many teens have. "I want to be a chef" "I want to be an actress", "I want to get paid to listen to music and shop at the mall" Well those are great ideas, but they don't pay the bills. My daughter has a new car that she's paying for and now understands what it takes to pay bills, suddenly our idea to get a practical degree makes sense to her.
Get a degree in the medical field and when you're making decent money you can then find a part time job as an actress, or watching films, or listening to music. It's not glamorous but you can feed yourself.
2007-11-29 12:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like that when I first got out of HS. The only reason I went to community college was because my bf at the time told me I should. I never really was interested in doing anything other than Pastry and even then, I couldn't find a good enough school that I wanted to go to that specialized in JUST pastry. I didn't want to learn how to dice and julian...I wanted to learn the ins and outs of baking. I am now 24 and STILL have the issue, only thing is...its not THAT issue. Now my issue is I am 24 and most of my classmates have a high paying carreer, or are married with kids, or both. I am a nanny, wich, don't get me wrong, I love, but I am still single with no kids. So, I hate to break it to you, but you may never get out of the "Im lost and not good enough for anything or anyone" phase. Good luck with it tho.
2007-11-29 12:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be depessed, but more likely just anxious, which is truly understandable. There are so many options and possiblilties- anyone's head would spin, and I think this stage of life overwhelms alot of people. I think this anxiety often causes a feeling of inertia- which can be seen as being lazy, but I don't think it is in most cases. I think it's an honest reaction to a glut of choices and decisions that cause you to be indecisive (what to do, what to do?) It does all fall into place eventually though!
2007-11-29 12:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anxiety is generally a component of depression.
but, there are no magic pills. how about taking care of your life first....
like:
#1 call a therapist and make and appointment
then:
what are you eating,
what daily exercise are you getting?
what twice daily relaxation techniques are you practicing for 20 minutes each session.
see my profile and website for more info
charlton
2007-11-29 12:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by charlton_g_w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is relief and gratitude that you graduated from high school. You are also wondering how you will get through life as an adult.
2007-11-29 13:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by thegreatone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should try to get financial aid and then take some courses that will help you with a writing career
2007-11-29 12:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by skychatter07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋