that I kicked out of my wedding and dropped from hers.
OK- within 6 months of getting engaged- she eloped and then is having a REDO- in another 6 months... bigger and better.
We are now about 1 month from the wedding- shower is planned Dec 16. I am not invited- I know all this stuff from a mutal friend. Wedding is Jan 19th and she has to have everything done Jan 5th for the place. Invites are NOT out or even done and she is 6 grand short of paying the cater. Her bridesmaids are getting annoyed because they feel she get her showers and the wedding won't happen after they bought all the dresses and the shoes.
My question is- What is wrong with people? I thought it was just this ex-friend (we stop being friends after I REFUSED to be in her second wedding) but I have heard from other people- that they knew a bride or went through the same situation as a bridesmaid!! Do you know anyone like this??
What's with the Redos? And spending way over your head?
2007-11-29 03:54:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It affects me because I am friends with some of the bridesmaids and they are mad I left and they have to deal with it. Plus I am Just curious!
2007-11-29 04:01:12 · update #1
You know I LOVE questions that you ask that involve this girl. She is bat-**** crazy!
I feel bad for the bridemaids, but am doing a happy dance for you, smart girl!
As for your question, I dont know anyone personally, just what I have read on the boards and I dont know why either. Its baffling, especially the re-do part done so soon after the wedding. What was the rush that she couldnt wait the extra 6 months? I guess we are living in the "i want it and I want it now" generation and there isnt much room for patience anymore. What gets me more, is that they spend moeny for the 1st wedding, if she hadnt wasted that money and just waited she probably wouldnt be so behind in her payments.
I bet the girls are right, I bet she takes the shower gifts and runs, there will be no wedding. But if there is, you MUST give us a rundown of what your friends tell you.
2007-11-29 04:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhh Goodie!!!! Another update on the crazy chick!!! I was kind of hoping for one, now that she's getting closer to her "wedding." ;-)
I'm with everyone else, and you--I think she's doing this for the gifts/attention, which she didn't get by eloping to Vegas. I don't know if she'll go through with the "wedding" or not--if she doesn't, I'm sure every single one of the remaining BM's will sh** can her as a "friend" faster than you can say "Jiminy Cricket." This chick basically wants to have her cake and eat it too. She's NUTS, and I feel for her husband. I'm really interested in how long THAT marriage lasts, because from what you've shared, she's done it for entirely the wrong reasons.
I think people, generally speaking, watch all these stupid wedding shows on tv, they see these "normal" brides go bigger and better and get more stuff than a "normal" person could dream up. What most people don't realize, is these weddings are not "normal" people. Take the show (and I love it) "Whose Wedding is it Anyway?" the one about the wedding designers/planners. What most people forget while watching this show, is MOST of those people are the top in their field, they charge MEGA bucks simply for their time, and the people hiring them are usually spending MEGA bucks for the weddings that are then filmed for the show. I mean, yesterday I saw one where the groom was a starter for the NY Giants (I think)--can you say they've got some extra cash laying around? For them to spend $120,000 on a wedding is no big deal when his signing bonus was probably a 7 digit figure!!! Even some of the more "normal" people on that show have some pretty high powered careers going--you can tell just by watching them, these people are making some SERIOUS money. Most people (myself included) simply don't make that kind of money. We make enough money to live well on, and even enough for some frills, but not enough to cover the costs of a wedding that costs in the low 6 figures. That's why you'll see the remarks on here from people who think these people are NUTS to spend that kind of $$ on a wedding--because to them (and they're the normal ones) spending on a wedding what THEY would spend on a mortgage is just nuts. The normal folks are right--for anyone to spend on a wedding what they would spend on a home purchase is nuts. But what they don't realize, is the people spending that kind of $$ on a wedding have multi million dollar homes. So it's all relative to how much disposable income you have to begin with . But it leads to the spending over your head--because of the misconception that the folks spending mega bucks are your neighbors, and they're usually not. It's wanting to keep up with the Jone's, simple as that.
2007-11-29 04:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never been a BM and never heard of no one being so utterly ridiculous as your crazy ex-friend. She's not only inconsiderate, but also disorganized and irresponsible. I feel sorry for the remaining BM and for the poor man that marry her.
About re-dos. well, after you say "I do" , I really see no point of doing it again months later (unless is for military reaons). I do not understand why people rush to the altar and do something half-a$$sed ... they trrick their men saying that "they "just" want to get married" just to ***** and complain later that they want a big white lace church wedding. It's unnapropiate and stupid and no, they are not fooling anyone with their preteintious and ridiculous make-believe ceremonies.
About spending way too much... some people like to pretend that they are better, some people want to compete with others... but they are not fooling anyone! I much rather be on a simple bbq backyard wedding than a cash bar wedding anyday.
Good luck
2007-11-29 04:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Fiance and I were thinking of getting married sooner than planned and then having a marriage ceremony (instead of wedding) in 6 months - not a re-do though. We have a number of reasons to rush the wedding but we decided that it wasn't fair to anyone so we have decided against it.
Unless she has logical reasons for having her re-do, I'm thinking she's only in it for the gifts. Good for you for having nothing to do with it.
2007-11-29 04:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Angela O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your other friends can leave too! There adults and can make their own decisions. As far as redo's, there fine if you can afford them and your not inviting everyone all over again (unless it's been a 5 - 10 years and it's a renewal).
It's sad that she is losing friends over this, and putting her new married life in trouble by going into debt!
2007-11-29 05:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never heard of the re-do before. Maybe she is just crazy like you said. If she wants to get herself into debt it's her problem.
2007-11-29 04:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohhh more gossip huh? you'll have to fill me in later on all the details. SHe just is an attention Whore. what can you do? you mean to tell me that Nice RI isn't running away yet?
2007-11-29 04:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by JillardG 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What in the Blazes is a Re-Do????? I can understand renewing vows but a re-do?????
Sounds like a bid for more presents/money/ attention....
dumb, dumb, dumb! And as Tacky as it can get.....
2007-11-29 11:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's for the gifts!!! You don't get those when you elope!
2007-11-29 03:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Who cares? How does this affect you in any way? Mind your own business.
2007-11-29 03:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 9⤋