He does this all day and it dosent matter what he wants or even if he gets it. He just lays on the floor crying kicking and screaming until he gets what he wants and if you get too close to him he bites... HARD! Is there anything I can do to teach him that this is not ok?? What I am doing is not helping, so any advice would be appreciated!!
2007-11-29 03:48:21 · 19 answers · asked by Kikikins 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son never bit anyone (yet), but he definitely did the whole kicking, screaming, crying thing. I would just make sure he was in the middle of the floor (with nothing for him to hurt himself on) and 100% ignore him. Eventually he would stop. Sometimes it took a long time, especially in the beginning, but it did eventually stop. He's 23 months now and still has a meltdown occasionally, but his fits don't last nearly as long. Another suggestion is if you can't handle the crying and screaming, put him in his crib until he's done. It's hard to listen to him so upset, but it gets it under control while he's still young. Goodl uck.
2007-11-29 05:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the best thing would be to acknowledge in a calm voice that he's having a fit and then let him have the tantrum until it's over. A previous answer mentioned the fact that your son doesn't have the words to express his frustration and that's very true. As for the biting, I would probably use the voice and say NO! You do not bite. Then I would walk away, maybe even stand with your back to him.
The tantrums should start becoming fewer and fewer as he matures but if they don't or get worse then I'd certainly speak to your physician about it as excessive anger can be symptoms of other things.
2007-11-29 12:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing with my twins and I have been told to ignore their temper tantrums. I let them know that I love them but I am not going to put up with their screaming so I go on cleaning the house or whatever I was doing. Eventually (it is usually only 1 minute or so) they will find a toy to play with and are all smiles again.
When they bite, I will take their hand and tap it with my finger and say no no. Then I tell them that biting hurts, ouch ouch, and they would not like it if their sister bit them back. They will look up at me, because I do know that to a certain degree they know what I am saying and then I give them hugs and kisses and give them a toy to play with. That ends the temper tantrums. And yes the biting has actually stopped almost completely.
2007-11-29 12:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to ignore the tantrum (difficult to do I know) and when he calms down ask him to tell or show you what it is he wants. As for the biting a firm "NO" and a time out every time he does it will help, but it is a phase some kids go through so not sure it will be totally effective...but he will outgrow it soon....some people actually say bite them back! That is a big no no!!
Both the tantrums and the biting are just stages that most kids go through and taper off as they get older and can communicate better. Good luck to you and hang in there....it gets better; I've been through those things myself with my kids and they do outgrow it.
2007-11-29 11:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Temper tantrums are normal part of child development
It is the childs form of attention seeking and expressing their frustrations
a few things that help are!!
1. stay calm, if he senses you are frustrated and/or your losing patient (which is a normal feeling) than he will as well....think of it as fuel for their fire.
2. I do a 1-2-3 your out type system. If by 2 he does not change the behavior I calmly say... on 3 you will have to go to your room for 2 Min's (1 min for each year of age).
Then I will pick him up there kicking and all to his room
Close the door if need be
Your son will test you to see if you will do this, expect testing! After a few times in the room consistently...He'll start shaping up!
Most important thing is NO REACTION, YELLING, PLEADING OR SCREAMING! This is hard, I know!!
But in the end they need to know who is in control and in charge
Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.
Useful information to understand and how to deal with tantrum concerns
2007-11-30 06:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you discipline is your choice. With my 18 month old I sat him on a time out stool and held him there the whole time until he calmed down. As far as biting...that is your choice. Some parents will cover their mouth gently so they can't bite and some others I have heard have bite them back carefully so they know how it feels. I just firmly told him over an over as I was holding him on time out, " Time Out No Biting! If you use consistency it will work how ever you do it, just do the same everytime. I wouldn't recommend biting back tho. I also can tell from my 6 yr old and my now 18 month old that the time out for the length of their age works really well even if you have to hold them there or start them over time and time again.
2007-11-29 11:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by T B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club. You should feel honored!
Just kidding sort of.
Do not give in. No matter how loud or pissed off you might get, do not give in.
Give him an option, keep having the fit and go into time out or stop and (come play with Mommy, go outside with the ball, something he likes). Or just plan stop or you get time out.
(Now Time Out is a whole endeavor on its own - You will probably have to put him in the spot over and over for a while until he gets it. You can make it just 1 or 2 minutes long, but you will probably spend 30 getting him to sit there the first few times - It is worth the effort).
When he bits, no choice straight to time out. Make sure you say ouch loud enough that he gets it. "Ouch Hurts Mommy, NO!".
Whatever you choose do not give in. Keep repeating the consequence of his actions. This might take a few weeks but if you are consistent and strong it will work in the end.
You might need ear plugs. Find a time out spot with no fun and nothing he can hurt himself with. The bottom of the steps has worked for us.
Now the threat of time out gets better behavior. Remember you are in charge. You are not being mean to him, just setting boundaries. Kids really do need boundaries and they are really happier this way.
(My first child bit a lot at the same age. It does stop but you still need to teach him it is wrong. My youngest is about to move into that phase and I am "excited")
2007-11-29 11:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
add a little bit more info letting us know what you've already tried that way we can try to help out a little better...
he might be cutting his two year old molers early, or even his one year olds if he hasn't cut them yet. try giving him some tylenol to see if that helps, do not let him have whatever he wants as he will get used to it and expect it all the time. let him cry it out until he realized he's not going to get his way...
I had a problem with my son continously screaming, and my sister who has three children of her own, plus she runs a daycare, she told me to put him up in his room with the door shut, until he stopped screaming, but to let him out as soon as he stopped... I decided to try it, (I felt like I had tried everything else and what would the harm be) When he would start screaming I would tell him to stop the first time, the second I would say if you don't stop your going in time out. If he didn't stop I took him up and put him in his room, as soon as he stopped, I would open the door and say "Are you ready to be a good boy now?" And he could come back downstairs with the rest of us. If he started again, even if it was five minutes later, he would go right back up. It was hard at first because he didn't realize it would keep happening, but after about three days he would only go up between 2-4 times a day, and now I don't really hear him screaming at all unless he hurt himself or there is something wrong with him.
2007-11-29 11:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Brandy P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put him in time out and make him stay in time out for no more than 2-3 minutes for his age it is supposed to be a minute per year technically i would use the extra minute to make him know i meant it. If he bites you say no biting and cup his mouth of bite him back. Oh, and do it every time! Do not let up you are the parent and sherrif in town you have to disipline him or he will become horrid later...good luck and get ear pluggs gonna be a long couple days til he gets the picture :)
2007-11-29 12:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by mavvericks66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age, it is very common for them to get frustrated because they are unable yet to communicate. Try distraction techniques - preferably before he gets to the kicking/screaming/biting stage. For example, if you see him beginning to get frustrated, head for the park or get him involved in some sort of fun activity.
It can really help to work on sign language. It allows babies to communicate with you before they are verbal and can alleviate a lot of their frustration.
2007-11-29 12:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by daa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋