First off, he is living off of my roommate. I know this, because my ex lived off of me too and I finally got rid of him not too long ago. My roommate buys her bf food, entertainment, and must have spent over $1000 buying him new hockey gear. He was diagnosed with diabetes not too long ago, and moved in with us as a result. Now that he is better, and his insulin is down, he is fully functional to get a job, but he doesn't. He just stays at home, does the occasional chores (he does most of it since he is at home), and spends the rest of his time making youtube videos, watching tv, playing with his transformer toys (yes, my roommate even bought him transformer toys) or surfing the internet. He sleeps till noon most of the time and stays up late, watching tv loudly, making it hard for me to sleep.He also eats my food! I can't understand why, when my roomie buys a bunch of food for the both of them. My roommate is a good person, but her bf is lazy and annoying...he's 29 yrs old btw.
2007-11-29 03:35:05 · 13 answers · asked by Tramalam 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
As ridiculous as this sounds, I ended up missing his bday lunch recently. I was with family at the time. I messaged him and apologized for not being able to make it. When I did see him, I told him "happy birthday" and he practically ignored me. I later read his bulletin on myspace concerning his birthday and he said one person canceled for "whatever" reasons- obviously talking about me and making it sound like I had nothing better to do! Just thought I should add this since it is pretty humorous...
2007-11-29 04:20:24 · update #1
there are 2 issues here. one of which concerns you and the other doesnt. the relationship between your roommate and her bf is none of your business. it's not your business if she maintains him and buys his food and toys. that's between him and her and need not concern you.
when it comes to shared things, you could ask them to share 2/1 in the expenses and utilities, since he uses those.
as to his birthday... seems like yoou're going out of your way to be liked by these people... if he wants to play mind games with you, it doesnt mean you got to play back. ignore his rudeness and his comment about the birthday. kids who play with transformers have a tendency to be childish, you dont have to slip to his level.
2007-12-03 01:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by joe the man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 07:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's eating your food, and using your electricity and water- all things you are your roommate are paying for. There's no way he should be eating your food- that's a given. So make it clear what shelves in the fridge and pantry hold your items, and make them off limits. I'd talk to your roommate and say that you want to split the utility bills three ways now- not two, since you have a third roommate. She may be a "good person" but she's also being passive-aggressive (allowing her BF to be a lazy bum, in part, at your expense).
2007-11-29 03:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your roommate about splitting the rent 3 ways. Maybe not an even three since he's staying in her room, but with him home all day, he's using electricity, watching tv so he should be paying a fair share for utilities at the least! Try not to be rude about it. Maybe you can make it seem like you are looking out for her because maybe it will encourage him to get a job so she doesn't have to support him.
2007-11-29 03:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is on the lease? He is not, and most rentals don't allow someone to move in and live there that they didn't rent to. this type of dude - he will never get off your couch. If you can't talk the roommate into getting him out of the house, then go to your landlord for help.
2007-11-29 03:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move out
2007-11-29 03:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a job ...............tell both of them to move out and get a life! Tell him to stop eating your food, give him an account for the food he has eaten.
2007-11-29 03:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are paying rent, you have the right to tell her that she needs to do something about her bf, and if she doesn't you will!
2007-11-29 03:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by [♥]ÿºú-kñºw-whº[♥] 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out!
2007-11-29 03:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by simck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he paying rent? No? Oh, well, he has no right to be there. Kick his but to the curb or tell him HE has to pay rent.
2007-11-29 03:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Answer Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋