for as long as i can rembeer my mom has abused me emotionally and physically and now i'm fed up and i want out she has to much power with the law enforcement and she's never been arrested for what she does.
2007-11-29 03:30:11 · 47 answers · asked by *Kayla* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't run away. Tell your school counselor. Is there an Aunt you can go live with? No one deserves to have to live in that type of situation. At 16 I was fed up with the same problem only it was my stepmother. I went to live with my grandparents. Good luck sweetie.
2007-11-29 03:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold the phone!
Twenty two years ago I ran away from home at age 15, joined a carnival, and travelled out of state for the same reason. Now I'm the mother of a 19-year-old and an 18-year-old. I would NOT recommend taking off without a solid plan! But there is hope, so hear me out! My mother was physically and emotionally abusive also, but I was afraid to turn her in to the authorities because she worked with the public school system and I knew they wouldn't believe me. First of all, this is more common than you realize, sad to say. And you just need to know the right people to talk to. But don't do anything rash like I did, because it OFTEN sends your future in a crash-and-burn sort of direction. You're in survival mode right now, and that means you're not thinking longterm..... short term solutions in this sort of situation VERY often bring some temporary relief, and then completely botches up your future security. Emotional abuse from a parent will have longterm effects on you because it hurts your self-esteem and an emotionally draining "survival" mode can short-circuit common sense and logic at times. You can't get to the point where you can focus on what a teenager SHOULD be able to focus on. Your decisions right now are going to be clouded, and often a teenager living in abuse will "cut their own nose off to spite their face" and have knee-jerk reactions that make situations worse. Listen to this in particular because you are female.... remember, there are sharks lurking around in yahoo answers as I type this looking for teens in your very situation, ready to be "helpful". I ended up being an unwed teen pregnancy statistic myself. NO EXCEPTIONS TO THE FOLLOWING: any man willing to "help" in exchange for "benefits" is not helping, but taking advantage of an unfortunate situation. This is just as abusive to you as what your mother has been doing, so avoid it like the plague.
I have two quick errands to run and then I am going to come back and give you more information!
Monica Faith
2007-11-29 04:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your school and ask for help. They have to report abuse cases to the police. They police cannot accept her stories quite so quickly with the schools involvement. Take pictures of the injuries she has inflicted on you. Don't run away, if you think life is bad at home, wait, the world will be much more cruel than you can even imagine. Ask for help, go to school, a church, a friend, a friends parent. Just go to someone and ask for help. The police will have to listen if an adult is there with you. Her power levels will be diminished when you are safe and out of the dangerous situation. Hell, go to the hospital, and ask for help. Just don't run away from the abuse, run to something, help.
2007-11-29 03:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't run away. You could end up with a serial killer,raped a murdered,in some ol cabin in the deep woods or something. you could end up in the worst horror movie you have ever seen. Hang in there! Psalms 27:10 says When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up. Talk to the Lord. Find some teenaged friends at church or a christian youth group. God understands you but don,t let the devil trick you.
When you get 17 sign up for the military or tough it out and move away to college. you are only 16 time is on your side. Don't blow it by doing the worst thing there is.
2007-11-29 03:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a solution. If you runaway you are going to be in bigger trouble, it will make what you are going through look like a cake walk. Talk to a counselor at school or go to your church, do you have a family member you could stay with for 2 years? Perhaps an aunt or grandparent. Until you are able to support yourself and at least 18 you need to find a way out that is acceptable to you and doesn't endanger yourself.
2007-11-29 03:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by litl m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an adult advocate. Unless you can find someone in your...family, church school or community that will believe and help you, you are facing a tough road. Running away would put you on the streets.....not a good place for a young girl.
Check out this web site. It may give you some ideas for help.
http://www.dosomething.org/tipsheet/hotlines
Please take care of yourself.
2007-11-29 03:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by GamB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, can you live with a grandparent, aunt or uncle? Do you have a psychologist or counselor you can confide in? If there is another adult who can co-berate what is happening to you then the police have to listen. You can file assault charges but you can't hit her back. if you mom is emotionally mean block her out stare right in her face and Not hear her. (We do that at work with a mean *** boss) Lastly DO NOT run away face your problems. You deserve to live a fulfilled life that is not riddled with fear. May God have mercy on you and bless you I wish you well, you deserve it
2007-11-29 03:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by mavvericks66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same problem, so I understand your pain. My father was a drug user and always made me feel depressed, but for some reason, the cops never gave him jail time or anything. That's when my relatives and school contacted CPS, occasionally making dozens of reports, and they looked into it and found him guilty. My parents lost custody of us and now I don't have to live in that hell-hole anymore, that destroyed my happiness and my childhood.
So, talk to anyone. Tell your relatives and especially school teachers what your mother does, and they'll probably report her for you, in which CPS will look into your case and you may not have to bother with that woman again!
Goodluck!
2007-11-29 03:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Latina111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are really good at convincing the authorities they are doing nothing wrong and it's all you when we both know it's not. Find a sympathetic adult such as a guidance counselor, teacher, school administrator, or other adult friend to help you because you WILL need help to get out of your situation and it's really okay that you want to. Good for you! That said (Ohhh just thought of something, do you have a relative on your father's side who might help you?) I wish you lots of luck and know there are lots of people who are willing to help you.
2007-11-29 03:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jane S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go tell an adult your situation. running away will not help any. in fact it will probably put you in worse situations. tell a trusted teacher or someone else about this and get the help that way.
i dont know what you mean by "she has too much power with the law enforcement...." the police should listen if you tell them whats going on.
2007-11-29 03:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by cyberpeter01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋