I just recently broke up with my boyfriend. Yesterday I had packed all his clothes and things that he had left here and gave them to him. While we were together we had bought DVDs together and a bunch of Christmas presents. I gave him the gifts I had bought him. Now he says he wants the DVDs that we bought together and he wants the gifts he bought me. He even says he's going to call the cops on me. Can he do this?
I refuse to give him the stuff.
2007-11-29 03:29:33 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Sounds like your ex is a jerk.
Gifts are gifts, and if he wants any of them back from you, he would need proof that these were not gifts. A gift can't be taken back just because things have gone south between you two.
The CD's, however, might be shared property, however, between unmarried couples that have been living together, you are unlikely to have to divvy up the community belongings.
Yes. He can call the cops if he wants to, but they are likely to tell him to grow up and get over it. The cops aren't going to care that he has a bug up his sphincter. It's not their job to decide who gets what, and they have no real authority to interfere. Even if he takes you to small claims court, he will have to prove which CD's he paid for, and show receipts for them, or emails, or letters that support that they are really his. Normally, judges don't feel that they should get involved in splitting up property between unwed couples. Nor do they want to. They consider it personal business that should be settled between the two people involved, and if someone get burned, too bad. The law offers much less protection for unmarried couples than it does for those that are married.
Personally, I would NEVER treat you that way.
(lol)
Are you still single?
jk
EDIT:
Forget all of that. I didn't know you were only 17.
El Chistoso
2007-11-29 09:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by elchistoso69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was wondering how long it would take you to post this question. I´m divorce so I know what you are going through. He can call the cops if he still keeps the receipts in hand, but even if he doesn´t, my best advice to you is: Just give him all he wants and get rid of him for good. You can always re-buy material stuff like DVDs, but the peace you are losing here is just precious! Don´t give him any chance of getting close to you, and that way he will understand that you are over him already. Just tell him you are my girlfriend now, that will hurt him a lot too.
2007-11-30 07:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Yabran Tariga 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any gifts given while in a relationship DO NOT have to be returned, unless it is an engagement ring, Which constitutes a legal contract, and if the contract is void, so is the issuance of the ring. Whoever bought the DVDs is who owns them, if they were bought with money from both of you, split them.
PS if you had not given him the Christmas presents you bought him yet, they are still legally yours.
The police will not do anything as this is a civil issue and not criminal.
On a personal note, tell the ****** to grow up.
2007-11-29 07:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kevy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can keep the gifts he gave you. As for the stuff you bought together, what do you mean you bought it together? Did you each pay for half? If so, it seems like you should keep half of that stuff, and he should get the other half. Or you could keep it all, and give him half the cash value of it. Or you could give it all to him, and have him give you half the cash value of it. If you can't work it out on your own, then you'll have to go to court and have a judge divide up the property.
Or do you mean that he paid for everything, but you were with him when he bought it? If that's the case, then he should get everything.
2007-11-29 05:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably find some way to split the DVDs with him, since he is legally entitled to half -- however, he'd have to go to small claims court to enforce this. As for the gifts he bought for you, he's out of luck. A gift is the recipient's property.
He can call the cops, but all they're going to do is try to get the two of you to come to agreement, or if that fails, refer you to small claims court. They can't force you to hand anything over.
2007-11-29 03:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mike G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While you could continue to battle over these things until you both wind up on the People's Court or have to get Judge Judy to sort it all out, do you really want to be rid of this guy for good or not? If he's that big a jerk, I wouldn't even want anything in my house that remotely reminded me of him, whether or not I paid for it. Gifts he bought for you are exactly that, and yours to do with as you wish - pawn shop might be a good place for them. As for community property, give it all back, let him feel like he's won and tell him to stay in the past where he belongs. Get a restraining order if he doesn't. You are the one who is winning your freedom, and that is beyond price.
2007-11-29 03:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Otter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he can call the cops however, they're not going to do anything about it.
They'll probably just suggest you both come up with a compromise and that's about it.
Like someone else said, there's always the small claims court, but would he go that far for a few DVD's? Pfft!
He's a tosser, I hope you're glad to be rid of him!
2007-11-29 04:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not pay for his stuff. Why are you going put your self in debt to pay for mistakes he made together with his ex?? In the event you pay now, he'll be taking competencies of you for the relaxation of your time collectively. Encourage him to sell it and use that money to pay off the loans. This is a concern he wants to soak up with the ex, now not you. Don't be a pushover.
2016-08-06 09:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you don't legally have to give him anything but since you already gave him the gifts you bought him just keep the ones he bought you they are yours.
As far as the stuff you bought together they are in your house so they are yours , if you want to split them with him then do that but the cops wont go anything.
If you would like to talk email or IM me , I'm a pretty good listener.
Bye
2007-11-29 03:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by BILL 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he calls the police, i doubt if they would do anything but suggest you both take your complaint to small claims court. Most likely, depending on how long you have been together, the items you both brought together will be divided in half and/or if you or he decides to keep a particular item(s) the other will have to monetarily compensate the other for the value.
Good luck!
2007-11-29 03:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by brandedapa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋