Guys - What's more attractive - girls who let you know they want you, or girls who play hard to get?

Question

Really really REALLY want this guy.... but not sure how to go about it. Only been talking for two days, but he's incredible - I've been complimenting him a semi-sincere, semi-joking sort of fashion, ie. "you've already made yourself ridiculously impressive and thoroughly irresistible. Harping on it is just cruel ;)" but he's not really responding.... I've initiated our conversations, so should I stop talking to him and see if he's interested enough to start something?

I guess - should I make it clear I want him, or play hard to get in the hopes that he wants me?

Answer 1

Hard to get isn't flattering. I prefer blunt girls.

Answer 2

You need to do both. It sounds like you have already done the chasing bit. You have already indicated your interest in him with that joke--don't increase the pressure there, but make sure he knows you are interested (but don't let on that that interest borders on obsession).

I think the problem is that he isn't attracted to you yet, but thinks you are interesting and pretty enough that he doesn't want to tell you to give up--so you do have a chance. I think your best bet would be to try to hang around him as a friend, and try to drop a story (or, better yet, have a friend do it) that is true and makes you look attractive (nuturing, demonstrating social savvy, willing to take risks, etc.). Also, if guys start flirting with you while he can see it, your stock goes up a little more too.

Answer 3

If you can't be straightforward and upfront with him then back off...that's what you expect from a guy that may be stalking you...!

Stalking a guy is like hunting rabbit. He can outrun you and outsmart you, but sooner or later he will tire of you and disappear...

In other words, just tell him sincerely you would like to be friends and then allow nature to take its course. You should't want him if he doesn't want you so just give him a chance to be friends and let the friendship grow...

Playing hard to get is not a tool for love...it is a weapon of destruction and those whom use it will have a price to pay later...remember that...

Wanting a guy after only two days is like choosing a book by its cover...it's dumb...! A "good" guy wants a good girl...not a tease and not a clinging blob of mush...

So then, you decide what is best for you and the rest is up for you...NO GAMES...!

Answer 4

Guys usually screw the socks off the easy girls, drop them on a street corner and go find a nice girl to spend meaningful time with.

Let's face it, a girl who is easy and available when you date her will probably be the same if you marry her.

Girls like that make a great one night stand - but not a very smart choice when you are looking for something more.

Answer 5

Honestly, its a mix of the two but playing hard to get works better....to a degree.

Playing hard to get is not the same thing as making someone jump through hoops or "earn" your affection.

It just means you aren't coming out and saying "oooh, oooh, I like you, I like you' (think of a puppy).

Playing coy also keeps things interesting and fun, all guys like the chase. We all do.

I have never met a guy who has said "yeah me and my girlfriend of 5 years met one day and she said 'do me now' and the rest is history" It doesn't work like that.

But, you can be easy if you want. Kids and little boys like that....then again, they're still figuring out how to talk to girls.

EDIT: Its funny to read the answers of people saying "tell me you want me" are you clueless, dense or just scared of rejection? You're a man, be a man and approach the woman or be a little boy and wait for someone to ask you to come and play. TO the guy who said "tell me you want me, it makes me want you" you must be 12.

Answer 6

Waiting and playing hard to get was something that worked in the 19th century. It only works in movies. If you appear to him to be backing off, and he wants the same thing, he might go elsewhere. Just be straight up and tell him that you want him. Most guys can't resist a woman that knows what she wants. In reality, we hate the games and the indecisiveness.

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Answer 8

You can play hard to get for only so long. Then guys get tired of it and stop trying. If you have been playing hard to get for awhile, now is the time to let him know what you want. I get so sick and tired of girls who think it is good to play hard to get forever and make us guys work, because in the end after a certein amount of time we give up and move on.

Answer 9

play hard to get, but flirt so he knows you like him. Just tease him a little and give him a cheeky smile every now and again. He'll soon get the message.
Relationships last longer when they're not rushed into, and showing him what you want will show him you're easy, and he won't respect you.

Answer 10

defintely a female who knows what she wants and says all is sexy as all hell ma, because its shows that they're true and direct. he might not even know you like him like that. if he DOES and he's not doing anything about it, then he dosent really like you OR he's a chump. most sissy guys would feel intimidated by hot chicks laying it on thick but not most of us. those hard to get play girls are usually crazy in the head and feed off those chumps and suckers. Throw the first pitch ma youre a beautiful thing

Answer 11

Sounds like you've already made it semi-clear and he's not picking up on it or not interested. Be direct one time and if you don't get the response, move on honey.