are married christians allowed to?

Question

have sexual relations without the intent of having a child. According to what they say, marriage and sex is for the sole intent of pro-creation. So, even if they ARE married, do they have to enter into sexual relations with the intent of having a child, to pro-create, otherwise the act is sinful

Answer 1

Just tell god, " I didnt mean to pull out" and make some excuse when you see him. He'll buy it ;)

Answer 2

One) Christianity is not immoral, since morality is not based upon your personal ideology, but upon having a moral system. Christianity has a moral system and is thus moral. You disagree with their morals. Two) Agreed, civil rights still stand. Three) Our government is not required to redefine "marriage." Civil union? Feel free. It isn't marriage. Same rights civilly? Feel free. Same status? No. That has been earned through centuries. It isn't a freebie. Four) Most people do not agree people are born gay. Some believe it, but all attempts to prove it thus far, scientifically or otherwise, have failed. There is utterly no proof it is innate, and there have been plenty of efforts that have failed to prove it. It may not be "choice". It may simply be learned, from early childhood. Five) You are not a moron. Nor do I think Smoking Frog is uneducated. I do not, however, condone any sort of bigotry, name calling, or other nonsense. Six) There is no separation of church and state. Never has been. It's not in any of our formal documents and is an urban myth. There is a particular part of the Bill of Rights that protects religion against attempts to establish a state church, much like the Church of England. That's all.

Answer 3

Yes, obviously, to the first question; no to the second. Let's answer this from the Bible for a change. when God said to Abraham and Sarah that they would have a child, this was said in the clear context that they were a married couple clearly passed childbearing age, as evidenced by the fact that Sarah laughed. Now, God didn't tell them to start having sex again, cos He didn't need to; so, obviously, neither He nor they thought that this was in any way wrong or shameful-and it still isn't.

Answer 4

Can you be specific as to what group of Christians teach this? As a Catholic, I'm most familiar with the church's teachings on this. Sex is not just for procreation, it strengthens the marital bond, etc. What the the church is against is man taking measures that would preclude having a child.

Answer 5

Allowed by whom? God designed sex for more than just procreation, although clearly that is one of the reasons. It is only within marriage that sex is described by God as right and good. Between husband and wife, sex unites them as one flesh and is a form of worship of God. It is the most intimate act between husband and wife and mirrors the spiritual truth of the intimacy between Christ and His church. It is pleasurable and enjoyable, created that way specifically by God. As others have said, He could have made it unpleasant and a dreaded chore, but He didn't. Further, sex between husband and wife helps protect one another from sexual sin outside of marriage. The bible is clear -- husband and wife are not only expected to have sex, but are commanded to not withhold it from one another unless by mutual consent for a time of fasting and prayer (read 1 Cor 7:5).

Answer 6

Yes of course. There's even scriptural proof. I don't recall the chapter and verse right now, but in Proverbs a man is counselled to find PLEASURE in his wife ... "for why should you be in an ECSTASY over a foreign woman." Let me know if you need that specific citation. I'll find it. Paul also counselled married couples "let the husband render to his wife her due, but let the wife also do likewise to her husband. " In case there's any question what "due" Paul is referring to, he continues "The wife does not exercise authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise the husband does not exercise authority over her own body, but his wife does. Do not be depriving each other of it, except by mutual consent for an appointed time that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again...." (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)

Answer 7

Is being fruitful different from multiplying? Great question....


Edit: Thomas- just because "Christian" people do something or have justified some act does not mean that it is the mind of God.

Edit: This question has a lot of people twisting in the wind

Edit: Bary's Budy - Wow.... I am not sure that a vast majority of "Christian" wives would agree with you.

Answer 8

There is reference to this in the bible...unfortuantely I can not locate the verse (I will post it when I do).

Marriage is not specifically law-binding as we know it to be. Man and woman can only become one thru sexual relations. It is a physical and spiritual act in itself. As the term consummate is defined as the first sexual encounter between husband and wife; its defined as the completion of such union.

I Corin. 7 1-7
"The Message"
1 Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? 2-6Certainly—but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I'm not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. 7Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.

I Corin. 7 1-7
"New KJV"
1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.

Answer 9

*sigh* Sex is not solely for procreation in our species. It is a gift from God, designed to bring about a closer emotional intimacy between a husband and wife. The Bible actually says that we are not to refuse our spouse access to our bodies, except when it is time for prayer. (For the life of me I can't remember where that is though).

If sex was solely for procreation, then wouldn't that mean that people born without the ability to have children can't ever have sex, even if they were married?

Answer 10

no where in the bible does it say sex is for the sole purpose of creating life. Sex between a man and woman who are married is a celebration of the marriage where they become one with each other physically as they are one with each other spiritually.

Please do more research before asking your questions. You seem to be rather ignorant on the views of Christian people. Either that or you take 1 verse and create a caricature of it to fit in to your "belief' structure or lack thereof.

Answer 11

God made man and women to be joined together as one, and to enjoy each other as one. The way to complete the wedding vows and the bonding with each other is through sex, not procreation. We are to enjoy each other in every since of the word.