I've been seeing a guy for about 5 months - he is twice my age, my dad and uncle know him and he has a somewhat bad reputation for "loving and leaving them". I was aware of his reputation before I got involved and he told me himself what people think of him. I'd like it to work out and he hasn't done anything wrong as far as I'm concerned. I don't know whether I should ignore everyone and give him a chance or dump him although I've already fell for him. What do you think?
2007-11-29 02:43:37 · 22 answers · asked by villafan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should listen to advice before falling for someone, after you fall its too late. I would proceed with caution, and hold onto your heart in future circumstances better.
2007-11-29 02:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already given him the chance, so it's a bit late for that. Now is the time to tell him that if he can't see a future in you, he has to leave. This is from experience. My fiance has a bad rep, we've now been together 2 years, planning marriage and a child on the way. Leopards can OCCASIONALLY change their spots, they just need the right person. If you are not that person,it will hurt, but at least you are giving him the chance to be honest with you.. xx xx
2007-11-29 02:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Timelordess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow your heart & give him a chance. Like you said as far as your concerned he hasn't done anything wrong so why punish him for something other people are saying. Just keep your eyes open because love is hard & you can easily get hurt but that is a risk that you have to take & who knows maybe your the girl that he is willing to change his ways for if he is how people explain him to be.
2007-11-29 02:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by Slim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult one this, you have been seeing him for 5 months and he hasn't given you any cause for concern. How long has your Dad and Uncle known him and how well, and has he changed since you got together. You need to take all this into consideration before making up your mind about him. But tell him straight any messing around and you will dump him pronto.
2007-11-29 04:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be careful. Expect the worst and hope for the best. Being that he has a bad reputation you don't want to allow yourself to get too close until you know for sure that he has changed his ways. At the same time, you don't want to give up what could be a blissful relationship. Good luck, hope everything works out the way that you hope for.
2007-11-29 02:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Heather B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alrite this is a really complicated situtation but you need to figure it out, even before you give it a chance. Every girl wants to be the "woman he changed for" but thats not always so realistic. If he has a "get and leave" repuation then he will probally do it again, so if you just want a boy toy totally give it a shot. But you know yourself, if you know you're going to be falling for him and get hurt don't give him a chance. You will find mr.right eventually!
2007-11-29 02:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. I used to be one of those people who loved em and left em, until I fell in love with my current boyfriend. If after a while you don't feel like you are growing closer and things aren't going anywhere with you two, you may want to take a step back and maybe talk to him about what is going on.
2007-11-29 02:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by cz73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you have fallen for him, i'd just have a heart to heart with him and ask if he is going to do the same to you as he has to all of the other girls. If he says he won't give him the benefit of the doubt and say your calling the shots as you don't want to get hurt. be careful though as you have said he is twice your age. good luck !
2007-11-29 02:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by 4 ur eyes only 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would tell you to get rid of him, but since you have already fallen for him--- i'll just say be carefull. guy's that do those types of things in the past seldom change, even if they recognize their problem and say they will fix it. guys that i know personally that are like that- NEVER change. as a woman, we always feel that we are more special than the last one he dated, and we think we will be the one to turn him into a devoted man, but i have never seen this actually work.
i hope things work out for you though and wish you the best of luck
2007-11-29 02:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, to stop your relation wtih him after 5 months would hurt you less than if he does something wrong in 7 months, one year... especialy that right now you are protecting a bit yourself, but if you give him a chance, you will love him deeper and deeper, which can be really painfull if he hurts you.
but having said all this, i know it is not easy to dump him he you have feelings.
2007-11-29 02:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋