Is it natural to feel burnt out/confused when...?

Question

In the last 3 years i have been in 2 relationships more than a year and 2 relationships less than half a year. I have only been single for a maximum of a few weeks in between each one and i think i am suffering by not taking a break and being with myself. I feel 'emotionally burnt out' and feel i don't know my own feelings sometimes. Despite this i really enjoy being with my current girlfriend but am worried that these anxieties/stresses that come and go will end it. Any advice is more than welcome. Thank you.

Answer 1

You may not be giving yourself enough time to work through your feelings about what happened. It is possible that this relationship could go the same way. Look at your patterns in the relationships. If you continue doing the same thing, you are likely to repeat what you have done. If you do something different, you could have a different outcome.

Answer 2

I was with my ex for 3 and a half years until he cheated on me. It's only been a few months since we broke up. I noticed myself wanting other people, but at the same time feeling really cold like I didn't want to be close to anyone. I think if you don't give yourself enough time to heal and breathe by yourself and figure stuff out about yourself then you might end up resenting the person you're currently with and maybe even yourself. I feel the same way you do. I love being with the person I've been seeing, but I am in no way ready to be with anyone or devote most of my energy to someone else. You must take care of yourself before you are able to care for someone else. You'll be a better person and feel better if you give yourself time. And if they really want to be with you then they'll give you all the time you need. =)

Answer 3

Of course you can feel burnt out when you've been dating so much. Maybe your girlfriend would understand if you needed more time alone for a while. Just tell her you're stressed.