Im through trying to be nice to middle-easterners....?

Question

They live here work here and no matter how much love care or sympathy you give them they just seem to be unappreciative rude and self centred.I'm not only talking about the men,but the women etc......their attitude is a turn-off,they don't seem to get it,and they are not liked(among most people i know)I find this in the iranian culture,the saudi culture,or whatever the hell these people call themselves.And why do they ALWAYS stick to their own kind and not want to mingle?

Answer 1

Ask the OLD "frank" - he's SURE to know.....either that or marvin, greg and all the others - and I see Harvey's about again too so no doubt we're in for yet another round of the old OLD O L D questions over and OVER and O V E R again.

Answer 2

I too am not a great fan. But, perhaps they are scared to get close to anyone outside of their own, because of all the trouble. Perhaps they fear for their lives. Think about it, when you meet a middle-eastener, don't you wonder if they could be a suicide bomber, when they will hit, or where they will hit?Well, I assume they feel that way about us. Are you a radical and will blow up their homes, place of worship, or their kids.? We are in troublesome times.There seems to be no way out,The only answer we have is Jesus, and the hope of His coming back and getting us out or here before it's too late.Just keep trying to be civil and donn't give any sign that you could be dangerous. I'm sure they fear things as much as you. I'm lucky I guess. I live in a small town and most of our gas stations and drive thru s are now owned by them.. So far, they fit in and are very nice to us. I do have to wonder if that all a sudden all these were bought out, within a couple of years , if it means that someday we won't be able to buy gas and things for our cars. But see, there I go thinking that something is up. I just don't know if we should be scared or just let it be??

Answer 3

who said that?,, im from Iran and let me tell u about the culture,, im not a racist person but i have the same problem in arab society ,, sometimes they are so proud of themselves for nothing ,, actually Iranian people are so different from other middle east countries and our culture is totaly different from them,, we are persian and im really sick of hearing we are the same with arabs ,, anyway u cant judge all of them by knowing only few people ,, there are also nice middle eastern,, i have traveled some other places and i came to know people with the same backgrounds and race mostly tend to be together and as long as they are together they dont mingle with other people ,, u can also come across this problem in the group of friends in the same country and race,, i was living among chinese for couple of years and i had the same problem with them and this doesnt mean that all chinese people are bad,, they just feel u are an alien ,, any how u can solve these kind of problems so easily by being caring and kind and believe just one smile and honest look can make unbreakable bonds ,, i tell u from my experience that my closest friends are all internationals from asia , middle easterns and europe,, thats what we call it citezen of the world ,, wish u good luck

Answer 4

Sticking to one's "own kind" and being hesitant to mingle is usually pretty common for immigrants from any country. This is why so many cities have "China Towns". Usually by the third or fourth generation, they start to integrate into their new society pretty well.

Female Muslim immigrants may be more wary of mingling than other immigrants because they have social mores that are quite different from those of western women.

The behaviors that you are interpreting as "unappreciative, rude, and self-centered" may actually be due to some sort of misunderstanding of societal norms and customs. It can sometimes be hard to properly understand the behaviors of people from other cultures.

For instance, I've heard that if you visit France and you smile too much people will start to assume that you suffer from some sort of mental retardation.

Answer 5

Middle easterners are not here to become apart of europe it's people and there society and culture.
There here to ultimately to take over by abiding there time and shear weight of numbers, they think we are evil all western women are whore's.
A arab guy i worked with said to me the day he got his british passport after being married to a british woman for 2 years.
"now I get divorced" and went home where his wife had made a celebration dinner with candles, he told me he walked in looked at meal picked it up and said what is this and chucked it at the wall then went to spend the night with his girlfriend. since then i would never trust a arab.

Answer 6

I know many Iranians. They all seem like decent people.

First, most people tend to mingle mostly with those who have similar backgrounds to each other. I know a lot of geeks that tend to hang out with geeks. I've noticed that blacks tend to hang out with blacks. So, it's not unusual for Iranians to tend to hang out with Iranians. Don't take it personally. It's just human nature.

Second, perhaps the reason they are "unappreciative" is because you've given nothing to appreciate. The problem could be your attitude, not theirs.

Answer 7

It is really hard when they don't try and respect anyone other than their own, but that can be said of many people. Don't lower yourself to the standards that the rude one's set and remember there always are exceptions to the rule. They are not all bad.

Answer 8

I get what your saying, sometimes in London i feel like we are in the middle east and although i always tried to be nice and friendly the racism that comes from these people is unbelievable. I once went into a shop near brick lane and wanted to but a bottle of water and the guy tried to charge me £4 because i was white, and he looked at me like i shouldnt be in his shop- in the middle of f-ing london! its unreal- look what that idiot with all the thumbs down said above! How and why should we even try to get on with these people? If there gonna act like this send them back to where they came from!

Answer 9

Same could be said for blacks, native americans, the french, and orthodox Jews. Its called ethnicity over nationalism.

Answer 10

its because of there beliefs..... I don't understand it either, & I cant imagine what this country will be like in 10 or 20 years from now. We will all be minorities in our own country and will have a mixture of english, spanish, & whatever the hell it is they speak in the middle east. Sounds exciting.