i really dont want him to go. but he promised to call and that he woulldn't mess with no girls out there but im all the wway in Georgia but what should i tell him?
2007-11-29 02:12:05 · 14 answers · asked by (ஐ^$%*#%%^%N33-SK33%#$%!@#%&%^ஐ) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, let us address your comment of "Should I let..."
Its not up to you. There is not "let". Your boyfriend is not a possession, he is an individual. If you want to have ANY hope of a long happy life together, get rid of your Possessive schtik.
Now then...
Yes, he'll call...for a while but then it will eventually taper off.
YES he will mess with girls...lots of them. There is a valid reason why people refer to it as "Californication"...ok?
The girls there all think they're movie starlets waiting to be discovered...they're built like brick shithouses, have the faces of G-desses and the morals of a safecracker.
Best advice...tell him to have a good time and not to feel guilty if he "accidentially" is unfaithful.
THEN remind him that you will not feel guilty if it happens to you as well..
If he loves you, he'll stay at home with you.
2007-11-29 02:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but no. Ive been there done that. Love may conquer all but not distance for 2 years. 2 months yes, but not 2 years. Why, if he loves you so much would he be going to California anyway? But if you guys are young then I wouldnt hold him back and you need to live your life to. Sometimes things happen for a reason and if your meant to be you`ll be. But I would end the relationship on a good note and take it one day at a time.l Still talk and call and visit and write but dont stay committed; To many trust issues and expectations and what if one of you do find someone else then what, the other one wasted their time waiting around. But not only that you have hurt any chance of getting back together. So if he must go, break up and then see what happens, trust me it may hurt now but in the long run it could make you closer than ever. But being that far apart for so long one or both of you are bound to get lonely or get resentful. And if he wants to leave you, then let him go you can do better.
2007-11-29 10:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Arie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. It is his life not yours. I'm sure he means it know when he promises he won't be with any other women however, over time he'll be tempted and only God know what will happen.
You are better off breaking up the relationship amicably and wishing him the best. Unfortunately, not all love stories have happy endings. I don't mean to make you feel bad but that's real life for you. Sometimes life is unfair and sucks.
2007-11-29 10:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he sets his mind on this moving issue there's not much you can do to change his mind. Long distance relationship is hard to maintain and if it goes well he will be yours forever after 2 long years. HOwever if it doesnt work out you know its not meant to be. Look at this change as a big obstacle in the relationship. Keep in mind you want the best for him and make him happy, right?
Hope all is well in the end!
2007-11-29 10:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by mycorollababy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET him move? Are you his boss? His mother?
You have no control over what your boyfriend is going to do. If you trust him, then you should let him go to Cali. If you're worried about the distance, discuss that with him. Ask how often you'll be able to visit him, and vice versa.
If all you're worried about is him cheating, you need to let him go to Cali and let him out of your life. If you can't trust him in Cali, you can't trust him in Georgia, or anywhere else.
2007-11-29 10:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only a boyfriend, it matters if you trust him. Then one day drop by for a surprise visit to see how things are really going on. Try to make him guilty if does want to mess around. Like... do this whole thing before he moves and stuff. Yeah.
2007-11-29 10:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by nashabeauty93 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody wants a controlling girlfriend. My advice? Let him go - I'm sure he can find much nicer girls in California - tanned, too!
2007-11-29 10:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should stop him. He has to make his own decsions. You might make this long distance work however you may not. I think it might depend on your age. Could move to California with him?
Give it ago, if you are ment to be it will work.
2007-11-29 10:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont no. its bad and good.
good:
test relationship
test trust
test faithfulness
bad:
you cant see him
hes far away
you could test it too much
and long distance rarely works
theres some pros and cons hope it helps
2007-11-29 10:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Don't let him go. Chain him to the front porch like a dog!
2007-11-29 10:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by Neil 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋