Well I've like this girl from my psychology and English classes, I fell in love with her the day I saw her about 4 months ago.
I've been talking to her loads and we get on great, but lately I found out that she's got more of a history then I thought. It turns out she was with a boy two years older then her for about two years and she loved him. He cheated on her and broke her heart. She still acts like a friend to him and I really don't know why she would.
She's older then me by about half a year and that's annoying seeing as she was with an 18-year-old.
I just don't know how anyone could do that to a girl and still screw around with her heart by acting like her friend, cause that's what's going on.
I don't know what I should do, because I want to be with her but I know that I dont have the right to interfere with her life and her relationships. And if I can't be with her I'll just have to be cool with that and just go on with life.
I'm in love and things can get kinda complex.
2007-11-29 02:01:36 · 11 answers · asked by Rob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're both 16, I found out about what happened because she told me and her friend did too.
2007-11-29 02:10:50 · update #1
you sound like a really decent caring person which is good as theres not many of those around anymore. i think you should tell her how you feel. let her know what you think of the situation and that she deserves someone better than him. i know theres not much you can do about that, as they were together a long time and shes probably finding it hard to completely cut him out of her life. but if you open up to her im sure that will help her a lot, especially if she returns the feelings. good luck.
2007-11-29 02:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well given that your still in school, it sounds like its more a very strong crush than love. You think its love, but trust me it isn't. I would just steer well clear. Sounds like she goes for the more mature kinda guy. There are plenty more out there, and if she really likes you as much as you like her, then she would have made a move by now. Move on. Let her be. Wait a bit til your a little older, then find someone else. For now just have fun
2007-11-29 10:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Notts Bubbles :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, just talk to her about what's going on, lift some of the weight off of her shoulders for her. Tell her how you feel about her and ask her if she would like to go for lunch with you (your treat, because remember, the girl never pays.)
Talk to her about what happened with that guy at your lunch. And if it goes well then ask her again, if the 2nd one works out, ask her if she would like to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
As for her and the other guy, maybe she still wants to be friends and it is easier to forgive than to forget (for some people anyway.)
Good luck !
2007-11-29 13:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really not a lot of history. BTW how old are you both? As for her still being friendly with him, it could be she finds it easier to be forgiving isn't of being hateful and feeling sorry for herself. So she's either handling this as a mature person OR she has some crazy ideas of trying to get him back.
Ask her out already!
2007-11-29 10:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by hoppykit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should let her know how you feel. I mean if she dont know that you like her, she may not ever get over that other guy. I ve been in them situations before. Then once I found out that someone was interested in me it made me feel better, like there are other people out there if you just give them a chance.
2007-11-29 10:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have plenty of time to find a serious relationship once youre out of school. dont spend all your time focusing on one girl. right now is the time to make memories and to be able to look back on and miss not regret and remember school as a time of heart breaks. do let her know that you care for her though. we all need someone in our life that cares for us no matter how young or old.
2007-11-29 10:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know why shes still friends with him,i wouldnt be,dont think anyone else would be either,how did u find out he was cheating,maybe she cheated,dont worry about the age,girls dont think oh wel hes not 18 so i wont date him,it doesnt matter about the past,go for it,but if u get together,make sure she knows you would never do that,u sound like agooden to me lol
2007-11-29 10:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do get into a relationship with her you will have to deal with the fact that she is still in love with the guy who broke her heart.
2007-11-29 10:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea1215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a shot. And you are right you don't have the right to interfere with her life and her relationships. You can tell her how you feel but don't expect her to go along with it.
2007-11-29 10:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that stinks. first you have to see if she only thinks of you as a friend. does she flirt with you at all. it seems like she still likes this other guy...you have to find out how she feels about him now. she might still be his friend bc she still loves him or she might be his friend just bc shes a nice person. good luck.
2007-11-29 10:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by LALA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋