My boyfriend and I have been dating 5 years. This year he started hanging our with other girls and texting them and talking to them on the phone. I told him that him doing that was going to affect our relationship but he didnt care he said their my friends and I'll hang with whoever I want to. I found a text message from one of the girls, "Y dont u *** c me?" And he went to see her at his buddies house. I confronted him and he admitted that he met her but denied anything happened. We broke up and got back together. I still dont trust him even though we are suppost to be getting married within a few months. (no ring yet) He goes away every monday for work and comes back every friday so I have no idea who he is talking/texting again when he is gone. I want to trust him I do love him but I dont know what he is doing all the time.
2007-11-29 01:33:21 · 5 answers · asked by juniper555 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you heard of the saying 'if you want to keep something, set it free'. I think this guy is trying to tell you he wants freedom, at least for a while. I don't think his behavior is something you want to be married to, is it? Because getting married won't change it except maybe to make it worse. Why don't you suggest a 'time out' for you both? It doesn't have to be forever. Maybe make it 3 months and then come back and talk to each other. Good Luck. Oh, you know - if its real, it will still be there.
2007-11-29 02:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by misselie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been fighting ur feeling for a long long time now..
Your heart is saying one thing and ur head must be telling u something else..
Plz take my advice and go with ur HEAD..
U are just gonna get hurt.. more and more
He is not the only one in America...
he is showing no real intentions of getting married..
NO RING.. it is only wishful thinking on ur part.. and U are believing him on everything..
time to grow up and face reality..
who would say all the things he did to u or meet w/ a girl if he really truly wanted to marry u and love u..??
U are NOT the only one.. but he has u believing u are..!!!!!!!
U have to face facts and move on..
U can have all the love the size of Texas.. but without Trust.. the relationship will never be happy..
U will always be wondering and upset inside..
U need someone who makes u feel secure and complete..
don't ever allow a man to screw u around, dump on u, hit u, slap u,,, or talk down to u..
U are to be loved and respected as a lady..
good luck on ur search..
2007-11-29 13:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it seems that he is wanting his own space, maybe he feels that he needs some time to himself. 5 years is a long time and sorry to say but without trust the relationship will go no where. That text message was uncalled for and if he is lying to you and you eventually find out that he is you should call it quits for sure. You guys have been together a long time and you are dependent on him for emotional support and he's not giving it to you. Love is not a one-way street, both of you should be in this relationship not just you.
2007-11-29 09:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS WILL NOT WORK. Without TRUST, you have very little to work with - AND he SAID he does not CARE how you feel. If you marry him, you will be SAYING to him that he is FINE just the way HE IS.
TRUST ME - do NOT think for a minute that he will change anything he does to you RIGHT NOW in the future. HE does not believe what he is doing is WRONG.
2007-11-29 09:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an idiot he obviously is screwing around why would you take him back?
2007-11-29 09:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋