birthdays, baby gifts, 2nd and 3rd marriages and then there is always begging for your clothes Yuck I for one do not think it is worth the hassle
2007-11-29 01:04:48 · 14 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I had a friend that changed her son's birthday so he would have it near the start of school instead of after Christmas..
I NEVER go the his party in September but give him a birthday present on his real birthday..
2007-11-29 01:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly have friends like that, then why are you friends with them? I have never once had a friend who begged for gifts for their children.
Begging for your clothes? LOL. What the heck sort of friends do you have? I have never in my life experienced anything like that.
I didn't realize that gift giving is a hassle. I love giving gifts whenever I can do so. Makes me feel good to make someone happy.
2007-11-29 04:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by AV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An invitation to a party is not a summons for a gift, but an indication that the people inviting you want you to feel welcome to celebrate with them. If you don't want to go, call and let them know that you won't make it but wish them all the best. If you want to go, bring a gift if you want, and a card if you don't want to bring a gift. Then go and celebrate the happy occasion with them, and let them know how much you appreciate being included in their special day.
If you have friends who are so financially strapped that they cannot buy clothes, consider shopping the clearance racks or consignment shops for their sizes and using some of your charity funds to help them out. But, you are again under no obligation to give things away if you would rather not.
It's clear that you feel imposed on. I'd encourage you to either re-evaluate who your friends are, or consider whether you have set a pattern with them that you allow them to push you to do things you'd rather not, and then resent them later. If this is the case, then your situation will not change unless you make decisions that you will not later resent.
Good luck!
2007-11-29 01:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by lsmerage 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i dont know what kind of friends you have but i never had anyone beg me for clothes, normally im begging them to take them from me. And why is it YUCK?? and a hassle?
2007-11-29 01:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by louie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what? i've never had a single person ask me for a gift for them or their child, other than any hand-me-down clothes i could spare. i've never asked a single person for one either (well, okay, i do ask my husband for particular presents and i probably asked my parents when i was a kid, but that's it). if i invite someone to my kid's birthday, i could care less if they bring a present ... my child just wants to celebrate with them! i assume it's that way for others, too. if someone is getting remarried, or having a second or fifth or whatever child, i'm excited for them and eager to celebrate with them (and yes, i like giving a gift, too). as for the hand-me-downs, what am i going to do with a bunch of outgrown baby clothes if not give them away???
2007-11-29 01:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by ... 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Friends have never begged not once!
But I do know it can be daunting to be the only one without kids and you always seem to be gift giving and not receiving...that's when I remind myself its always better to give and try to leave the 'poor me' at the door!!
2007-11-29 01:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by ~Just 1 good egg~ 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
What are you talking about? My friends never beg for gifts. I just enjoy giving them things, even if they arent having a party or sending invitations.
I think you're selfish and rude.
2007-11-29 01:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I am one of the few in my group of friends who doesn't have kids, and my friends don't beg, but it's still very annoying. Why do I have to spend a ton of money on their annoying little kids if I want to see the parents, not the kids?
2007-11-29 02:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by jimbell 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
i get totally sick of it. i have started refusing to go to baby showers for second children........the whole thing has become ridiculous! i love to give........but only within reason. a first baby, a special anniversary, a marriage etc. ihave no issue with giving away baby clothes as i have so many and am eager to get rid of them all.........but christmas gifts for my friends kids? my kids only get one gift!
2007-11-29 01:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mary May 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I have never encountered that to be honest and I do not do it to them. I am usually the one to offer up my sons old clothes to them.
2007-11-29 01:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋