Im 24 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My partner of a year has walked out and left me on my own. I dont know how i will cope as a single mum as i wanted a family with my partner. I really dont know what to do. Please help
2007-11-29 00:36:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If there is no chance of you two getting back together i'd suggest you get support from your family and friends. You never know he might have done you a big favour in the long term. Good luck and don't stress : )
2007-11-29 05:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Loopy Loo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, better he goes now than later on. At least you know where you stand and can focus on your baby, and being pregnant, anyone who wants you now certainly won't be frightened off by your impending little one, that's for sure!
If you have a family then they will help you, as will any true friends you have.
I am no longer with the father of my baby (I am 28 weeks), I don't have any living family and I have only lived in my town for a year so I don't really know many people, but I have some friends so I'll be OK. And I know the most reliable person, who will never let me down, is myself!
Two weeks ago I got a new man in my life - someone who has been a good friend all year, and who loves my bump and who isn't phased by the fact that I am having a baby at all. Unfortunately, he has to go to work abroad early next year so he won't be around for me.
So I will be on my own, but it will be fine, and I am sure you will be fine too. You will find your inner strength. Good luck!
2007-11-29 01:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parner has left and you really don't feel he's going to come back,then you have to stay calm and practical for the babys sake(easier said than done I know).You will cope and it won't be how you wanted(I've been there and was only 17and had been with the father of my child for 2 years and had even lived together for 6 months) I cried and cried somemore and on the day my daughter was born I knew he wasn't ever coming back....in my case my child is 17 next week and I have never seen or heard from him again which is probably more drastic than your situation.As hard as it seems now,you will get through it,it's a learning curve,it teaches you a lot about yourself,what your family means to you(mine were great I have to say although not overly happy about the whole situation considering my age).You also learn who your friends are,funnily enough the lads I went to school with were my true friends all the girls drifted off and forgot about me.The lads came and held my daughter,sang songs to her,played with her and generally made me feel less lonely.I'm sorry any women no matter what age ever has to go through this and I pray you'll get through this with or without your partner.Good luck to you and be strong xx
P.S....think of it this way if it helps later down the line.You will enjoy your child,you will see your child do things that he will never see.You will feel pride for your child that he will never feel.There are so many poinient moments over the years to come that will reasure you that your child will always be your child no matter what your relationship status.
2007-11-29 00:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by snikleback 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is an emotional time for you which is why you need to call on your family and friends for support. It's scary enough to be pregnant with a husband at your side so you are facing an even tougher time but you will make it and when you see that beautiful little baby it will all be worth it. Start making plans on how you can take care of yourself now and after the baby is born. You can sue for child support but you cant sue for emotional support. Lots of us have raised our babies as single moms and have done just fine. Good luck.
2007-11-29 00:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Diane M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do sympathise with you but at least he has left you now and not when the baby is old enough to know daddy and then get upset when he walks out!
He obviously needs to grow up (men are rather childish) ask your family for help, you will cope and you will be a stronger person for it as well.
You will meet someone who appreciates you for you and your baby - you will have a lovely life without the ex partner, he is going to be the one that misses out on everything!
Best of luck honey. XX
2007-11-29 00:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some support from your friends and family... they will always be there for you!
The father of the baby should still be taking care of the baby both financially and emotionally.
But if he isn't, so long as you have close friends and family you will do fine! You can be a great mum with or without him!
2007-11-29 00:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went thru something similar, yes you are in a panic right now and scared but believe me you are stronger than you think and you will be ok. You will actually amaze yourself at what you can accomplish alone when you need to.
Do not be afraid to ask family and friends for help and more importantly support. There are also support groups online.
Good Luck and Be strong
2007-11-29 00:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by A***n G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you never thought you would be in a situation like this but now that you are, you have to think. is your family supportive? go to them. if not i am sure there is some kind of support, in your town maybe some counseling, for the two of you and try to make things work, always remember it is not the childs fault and children need both parents, so chin up and hopefully things work out for you .
2007-11-30 14:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't know what to say in all honesty but i think you will have to remember your baby needs you and i'm sure you will give it all the love it needs. You will cope as a single mum because you have to. sorry i couldn't be more help. Good Luck.
2007-11-29 00:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by kazz06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grit your teeth. Join all the mum and baby groups and stuff when the time comes. Pursue him for Child Support.
Thousands of women manage. It's hard, but you'll do it. You and the baby will be just fine. Honestly. Don't be too stubborn to ask for or accept help, either.
2007-11-29 00:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by who me? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋