i think my brother is cheating on me with my girlfriend through texts.everytime he hides his phone away from me and whenever he leaves it, you won't find anything in it. my girlfriend has called on his number one day when i was there(without them knowing i was) and i heard him say 'sweetie". she defended herself saying my phone was off(which is true) and she was looking for me.They talked for a while. My girlfriend however denies that she contacts him.maybe i'm wrong, something tells me there's something going on. please help me. the other thing is i have a ten year difference with my girlfriend and with my brother its only 3. am i being over reactive? please help me out because i also think she loves me.
2007-11-29 00:16:43 · 37 answers · asked by flash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like nothing is 'really' happening, although they're clearly flirting with each other. I suspect she enjoys the attention of 2 brothers. And he's enjoying the excitement of being "naughty", and that part of him is (maybe subconsciously) hoping that it will lead somewhere.
I'd confront your brother about it first. Just tell him that you like her, and that you find it uncomfortable to see him flirting with her like this. He'll then realise that he has to choose between you and her. If he chooses her, you'll know soon enogh.
Whatever you do, don't sit back and do nothing. It'll all end up being a big emotional mess.
By the way - the way you phrased the question makes it sound like you're having an affair with your brother. Some people on here seem to have got hold of the wrong end of the stick!
2007-11-29 00:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by this account was hacked 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow!!!! Here we go.... another Jerry Springer episode. Here's the deal, Its more likely then not that there is something going on. The reason I say that is
Her behavior has changed and that gut feeling u have. I was always told to do the math, 2 + 2 = 4, always has and always will ....... Its been my experience if u've been involved with a person for a while u know their behaviors, so we're more apt. to know when things aren't going right.... that coupled along with that uncomfortable feeling tells us things aren't right in Kansas. So I think ur suspicions r correct, u have to trust ur feelings and know the person that ur dealing with. Of course no one is going to come out and say what the real deal is, so monitor the situation closely and remember it takes two to tango.
If and when it's confirmed take no prisoners...... both r at fault, ur brother because he's blood and ur girl because of trust (commitment ). Happy hunting!
2007-11-29 00:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by pokvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a birthday coming up? Maybe they are planning a surprise of some kind. Or, she simply might be asking for ideas for Christmas presents. Life is too short to feel the kind of jealous pain you are going through. If something has happened, it happened. You need to get to the root of the problem -- whether real or imagined -- and get over it. Talk things out with your brother before your life really gets out of control. If you are always going to be concerned about the 10-year age difference, maybe it's time to find someone your own age.
2007-11-29 00:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, now the way you make this sound its like you have a relationship with your brother. I think what you mean to ask is "Is My Girlfriend cheating on me with my Brother?" This whole question is misleading.
People might think you're in some screwed up incest relationship with a girlfriend creating a love triangle.
Dump her *** if she's cheating, plain and simple. anyone who cheats doesnt deserve to be with the ones they're cheating on. No Exceptions, of course you will want to confirm she is actually cheating first.
2007-11-29 00:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by bryans83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words..your instinct is telling you something already, so it can be true..I guess the best way is to confront them both, the 3 of u..the truth willset you all free, but if they deny, better get out of the relationship while it isnt that painful yet..things might worsen..ok???the space is getting tighter and smaller, 3 is a company, and before your big eyes get smaller and forget what you can do...........just finished it of..the girl is a smart one, she is trying to hit two birds with one stone.,.dont alllow her to do that at least not to you............save the last dance.........ok???
2007-11-29 00:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first all i think u mean is my girlfriend cheating on me with my brother? anyways, ten year difference i s alot, i mean too much but yeah, any ways ur brother and ur girl are close to the same age, so they would probably understand each other better... u know, but i don't know i think u should talk to ur brother first, ask him what is going on, and how u feel, even though if ur brother was cheating on u with his girl, he is an asshole!! well best of luck!
2007-11-29 00:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down and confront them about it together and watch their faces. Expressions never lie. And most likely something may be going on, what would she need to talk to your brother for? Do some digging the truth is there you just have to find it.
2007-11-29 00:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you need time to think about some things and you need your space. Then see if she calls you and tries to be with you. If she has no problem with it and makes no effort in trying to talk to you then she doesn't care. During that time you can see what's been going on with your brother. Take a peek at his phone bill when he gets it in.. lol
2007-11-29 00:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she's cheating on you with your brother, you're probably right. Follow your gut. Besides, if your brother wasn't doing something shady, he wouldn't have anything to hide and he's clearly hiding something. She might say she loves you but, actions speak louder than words and she's being shady.
2007-11-29 00:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Candace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother isnt cheating on you, she is cheating on you! Although its a terrible thing for your brother to do... Ask them both straight up, or try to ask someone else who might no something....
Bottom line, even if nothing is going on, if you cant trust her what is the point?
2007-11-29 00:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋