my bf is closer to girls than guys, is this normal???

Question

i dont know if this is normal that this is just a false alarm...

i have a bf (for almost 8 mos. now) and he has 2 sisters.... everytime i tell him to stop that habit of being close to other girls he always tells me "u knw that im closer to girls than guys" but im really thinkin if he's just trying to get me to believe him or just really the fact...

its not that im insecure but its not really normal for me to know such a guy hu is like that...... its kinda giving me an impression that he's such a flirt.....

he's always chatting in YM w/other girls til dawn..... he tells me they are just friends... most of the time he dsnt SMS me anymor... its like he only text me once a day..... i dnt text him lately bcoz im really getting tired being the 1st one to start the conversation...... and he's like that (texting almost once a day)... he asked me y i didnt text him anymor n i told him i was tired blah3.... and he risons me that he was used to me being the one to text 1st.....

argh.

he is a former basketball varsity of his school..... he tells me bout some girls trying to get his number but he dsnt really give them sometimes.......

my friends actually think he's abnormal and not treating me ryt..

its like he's having these text buddies (girls) and he told me that a girl told him that if he didnt have a relationship they might develop to each other....
i know this is a bit crazy but i did my investigation and had a friend act as a spy being a text buddy..... yah he did recognize me as his gf..... but the other day i found out that he told this friend (on-cover) that if he didnt have a relationship they might develop to each other...... that juz gave me an impression he's making stories upside down....... and makes me think more that he's a flirt.........

Answer 1

The key is trust.

I have tons of friends [boys] who has more friends that are girls rather than the boys. It's quite normal, dnot worry.

But you mentioned that he's chatting with th girls till dawn, that's abit suspicious. I'd say you look out on that one.

The first sign of cheating, be very aware. Once you get proof, See what's his reaction. If you think he's sincerely apologising, then give him another chance . But be very alert. If he's still cheating , tell him it's over and move on.

Good luck [:

Answer 2

Yes its normal for intelligent, feeling and sensitive men to want female company. In general men tend to play the Macho Game, and some men don't care much for this bravado. Intelligent conversation is hard to find in the sports dominated world of most men. If he chooses female conversation, that's his choice. He will not change with time no matter what you do. Flirting is only a point of humor for this type of man. Men like this tend to be very faithful and loving husbands and fathers.

So if you need to be the center of the universe or don't have enough faith in yourself to trust him, then do him a favor and find someone else. You probably don't deserve this type of person.

Answer 3

To answer your question, it is normal for a guy to be close to girls. 4 out of my 5 best friends are women. But in your case, sorry to say, I think he is just a flirt. The excuse about he is used to you being the one to text first is just stupid. Well good luck!!!!

Answer 4

I'd say the latter part of your message about him not texting you, and you starting conversations sounds like you may have something to worry about there.

But the fact he is closer to girls as friends isn't a problme. Maybe he isn't a 'one of the lads' guy that's into loads of sport, drinking etc? If he has only had sisters and he isn't a blokey kind of guy then he probably just finds it easier to talk to and hang out with girls. My husband is similar to this.

Answer 5

Yes, for some guys. Some guys find it easier to be around girls than other guys - they find they can be more relaxed. This doesn't mean your bf has any feelings stronger than friendship for any of these other girls. They are just his friends. You are his girlfriend. Don't worry about or make a big deal out of it.

Answer 6

Sounds like me lol..
I went down a list of my friends just now..
female... every single one of them,
I have no male friends AT ALL

I have like 1 male friend and he's a pain in the ***. (I don't mean that physically)

.... How many guys is he friends with?
I dunno, maybe he's telling the truth, but it's unfair that he spends all his time with girls other than you.

I suppose you either have to trust him, or just break it off now.

but he's not the only person like that - I mean that gets on better with girls than guys, most girls are more fun to hang out with, they're more interesting.
All guys talk about are girls, or.. parts of them. I don't find that topic at all very interesting.

and I'm not in a relationship but I do stay up late to talk to friends.


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.....berlytea.. just called me gay, OMFG! - *swishy-hand-thing*
*reports*

Answer 7

first of all, have you ever seen your boyfriend flirting with other girls or doing some malicious acts? when he is chatting with them, what are they talking about? as long as they are not doing something that would violate the law of romantic relationship (if there is such, haha!) then it is ok

Answer 8

Yes this is normal... as some girls are closer to guys then girls.

Yes, they are just friends... dont get all worked up. If he was into them girls, he would of went with them in the first place. He's just have a closer friendship bond to them girls than you. Seem like you got to step up your game.


Your just like my girlfriend.

Answer 9

I would say I have more female friends but there again he could be a flirt, hard to answer that one

Answer 10

he sounds a bad boyfirnd why dont u break up with him snice u know its not going to work out im sorry u had to go through that but its time for u to find a different boyfriend good luck