i met my girlfriend at a boarding school in Salem, OR. We known each other for some time and we decided to be together. We started to get real close in our relationship, so close the school had to seperate us, and he began getting in trouble for the same repeated violations; awol, late to class, late to dorms, and stuff like that cause we were always together. Finally they decided to suspend her from the school and send her back home. So they sent her to the Airport in Portland. Now I live in Portland so as an attempt to stay with me she cancelled her plane ticket and went to my sister house. My mom found out and notified the school officials and then they had to make sure she got on that plane. Now im unsure weather or not they'll let her return to the school. I talked to her on the phone recently and I can tell shes completely devastated because of what happend and now shes making plan of moving up here to be with me. Of couse I want her up here but I wanna be donewith school 1st.
2007-11-28 15:00:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She lives in Utah, I'm still here in school. We talk on the phone as much as we can. Hopefully after the hearing process it will be determined whether or not she'll be able to return. I still have hope. Because of how much we care for each other Im still we'll be together again. Thanks for all the answers
2007-11-29 15:01:22 · update #1
This story sounds a little fishy to me - WHAT sort of school just hands out plane tickets, and has the AUTHORITY to force people onto airplanes?!?!?!?!?
The school has the right to allow (or NOT) students to attend - but everything other than that is NOBODY elses business but yours.
If you have your own place - then only YOU can say who can stay with you ;););)
2007-11-28 15:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You found someone that you love and you want to be with her, congratulations. Now the issue is being apart, finish school you have your mind in the right state. Having her come be with you might not be a good idea and you probably realize that cutting class wasnt that bright either. I did things like that for a guy. Sneak leave my classes to be with him and almost failed out of classes. Love does find a way, just dont do anything drastic. Talk on the phone and be honest, things will work out. I have been with that guy from school for seven years getting married soon had I done what I as thinking at the time we wouldnt be together now, my parents sent me to Colombia for three months to get me away from him...You have weekends to see each other, her moving in bad idea!
2007-11-28 23:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few issues that you and your girlfriend need to address; age issue first, then comes that law which is depending on the first issue. School should be the next issue to address, if you and your girlfriend are in your last year of high school then finish, you got time. After school is done most people will let you do more in your own life decisions. Talk with someone that you trust and feel good in talking about these issues (Teacher, Councilor,etc.) about possible answers to the dilemma. Good Luck and take a little time to think about it, will work out in time.
2007-11-28 23:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to respect the need for a good education. While you may have lots of love...sometimes it just has to come after other priorities. As you get older there will be plenty of time for relationships. The two of you are not doing each other any favors by behaving this way. I honestly mean no disrespect but the position you guys are in is a blatant show of immaturity :( had you guys handled the situation more maturely she would still be in school & this question wouldn't have been posted! Good luck!!
2007-11-28 23:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
private schools are high on alert for this kind of thing especially if your grades are slipping and you are being late for compulsary classes and set yourselves a curfew,
how about if when she comes back to school,just set aside a curfew for the both of you,call or send emails at night and spend time together at your sisters place, and place little notes through the vent holes in each others lockers or put a box of cholates with a little sweet note(if u know the combination).
im sure the two of you dont want to be torn apart but it is not going to help with your schooling either with all your grades on the brink of failure.
im sure you will figure it out or know what is best for the both of you.
have a discussion with your head minister and tell them that if she comes back to the school you promise you will not be late,or get mad,and you will keep up with your grades,
if that doesn't work tell them you split up so it wont matter if when she comes back to school just be secretive about it all,then when you two leave you can be together.
2007-11-28 23:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by frankie z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg your so in love your not thinking........I know you don't think that all these desperate shenanigans will or could ruin your live but they could.....parents work for years to live in the best neighborhoods/ areas in order for their children to get a healthy safe education so that the will become successful and fulfilled in there lives....the last thing anyone wants is hormonally challenged young adults making bad Decisions baste on love/lust......speak with your girlfriend urge her to buckle down as far as school goes and you do the same....after your parents see you are making an effort in sure they will allow you to see each other....tip if you want to be treated as though you are a young adult start acting the part......as long as you are immature both your parents will treat you as little kids.....take some responsibility and things will work out good luck
2007-11-28 23:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by mavvericks66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please if you care about your GF and your future, i think your relationship shouldn't compromise very important issues like your education, and i think you both acted irresponsible for
1) Getting in trouble for the same repeated violations
2) Late to class, late to dorms
3) Suspend from the school
4)Cancelled plane ticket
Please please if you love each other you would be more responsilbe. What if you both mess up your future in terms of education, and you might not even end up spending the rest of your lives together!!
2007-11-28 23:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ash_Jx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stay in school. When you're ready for college, if it lasts that long, you can apply to the same school.
2007-11-28 23:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to tell everyone how much you two love each other and that they are being senseless and "mean". It sounds like everyone is just not respecting you twos' feelings, let them know that!
2007-11-28 23:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jen_n_TX 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Love cant be stopped. If its meant to be then chill out. Love will find a wayy.
2007-11-28 23:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋