...and the drive was about 20 miles one-way, and doesn't ask you to pay for half the gas cost, would you offer? Or just take the free ride?
2007-11-28 10:48:04 · 16 answers · asked by grey 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm asking, obviously, because this happened to me. This girl needed a ride to work because she didn't have a car for two weeks. She offered to alternate once she got her car back but I found a new job so I can't take her up on her offer. Shouldn't she have compensated me for the rides?
2007-11-28 10:52:30 · update #1
I didn't ask because I figured it would be more comfortable for her to offer to pay me than it would be fore me to ask her.
2007-11-28 11:01:10 · update #2
I guess I should have added...she DID know I wasn't going to stay at that job. I had given them the two week notice already when her car broke down. I offered to let her have a ride with me until I left that job. She waited until the second week to take her car to the shop.
2007-11-28 11:03:12 · update #3
Ha, she offered me what she has? She has enough money to buy lunch every day (while I bring my lunch to save money) and shelled out $20 to get a pedicure but she didn't offer me a cent in gas money. She knew I didn't need any rides from her since it was my last two weeks.
2007-11-29 00:51:39 · update #4
She should have offered to pony-up some gas $$. Common courtesy.
2007-11-29 04:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by undone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't ask then you shouldn't be upset that she didn't offer. Some people just don't have the money available, others see it as a favor and favors don't always need to be paid for.
If I were the one getting the ride, though, I would probably offer some money at the end of the two weeks, or at least a gift of some sort.
2007-11-28 18:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Meana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let this one go, since it is done and over with. But, in the future, if you make some sort of carpooling arrangement I would think it wise to work out the terms of the arrangement beforehand. It's not rude to mention it at the outset. At this point, though, she surely thought you were simply doing her a favor, especially since she knew you would be leaving your job; she had to know it was not a long-term arrangement.
It would have been the polite thing for her to do something for you in return, such as pay for gas or treat you to lunch/dinner, etc., but since she didn't, I think you are just out of luck this time.
2007-11-28 19:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's water over the dam , a lesson learned. Going through life with blinders on isn't fun, we end up in all kinds of bad situations( we must learn to communicate with one another ).....With that being said, If she were thoughtful, she would have offered to pay for half of the gas money, or by now you should have received a little gift and a thank you card.
2007-11-28 21:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by mj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently noone has read your question very well. i think since she offered to give you a ride that would be the compensation to pay you back. It' s not her fault you left. however, in the future work it out ahead of time. maybe she was short on cash because of her car being having a problem.
2007-11-28 18:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making the offer without being asked would be the most considerate thing to do...gas prices are high and you don't want to give off the impression that you are a 'mouch.' It may so happen that at some point that person may need you to take them to work and your needle may be on the BIG E!!
2007-11-28 18:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by blaque_strength21 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Money is a touchy subject, and they may feel uncomfortable saying they would like you to pay for gas. I wouldn't just offer, I would give them money outright. If they then refuse, I would buy them lunch. That would be making best effort to square things up.
2007-11-28 18:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Parkie21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She offered you what she had,a ride after her car was repaired,you turned it down why do you need compension for doing a good deed? It costs no more for a full car load than it does to take just one.Sorry.
2007-11-28 22:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by peppersham 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but sounds like you already have dealt with it.I`d let it go, since you no longer work together. I, usally offer to pay,with close friends I do some favors-They won`t take it, I`ll watch her child in emergencies.or something.
2007-11-28 19:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just give them the gas money; if you offer they may say no and not helping out wouldn't be right with today's gas prices!
2007-11-28 18:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋