I really need help...you see one week ago i have started going out with one lad, and we already had a date and we both really like each other and want to see each other on regular bases...but there is a problem, i don't know how to own up to my parents... :( I had couple of boyfriends before but i never told them....but they were pointless relationships...this one i can feel could be quite serious but i have no idea how to tell my parents i have a boyfriend..worse i don't know how they will react as i have no clue whether they will let me have one or not....i want to tell them....but i am scraed of their reaction. I need help, because i don't want to lie to them anymore, one date without them knowing was pretty scary already.....please HELP!
2007-11-27 03:26:51 · 14 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well i am 16 but you see i never had a perfect relationship with niether of my parents....i dont even know but it never worked too well....thats why i am too scared of their reaction because i wont be able to handle it if they will stop me from seeing him....:(
2007-11-29 05:49:54 · update #1
just tell them stop being a scared loser and do it *****
2007-11-27 03:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by dddddd 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Ok well first off if your not woman enough to tell your parents you have a boyfriend then obviously your not mature enough to have a relationship. But I will give a you a peace of advise first don't tell them you already went out with him. Then have a group of people over including him or if they wont let you have people over have them(the group) including guys and girls pick you up to go bowling or to a movie. Then you can introduce them to the boy and your friends. And then maybe a couple days later you can tell your mother that you have a crush on one of the boys that she met the other night. And maybe she will be more trusting because she will feel like you came to her first. Thats what I would do it sounds like they are a little over protective of you. But one thing you need to know is if they give you that little freedom and trust DONT EVER break it. Good Luck!!
2007-11-27 03:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know for certain yet that this relationship will pan out. So it's not serious yet, but you'd like it to be. I don't know why you are afraid to tell your parent's- is he a different ethnicity than you or something? Introduce him as a "friend", since it's only been one week- and at this point that's all he is. Then, if you continue to see each other, your parent's can ease into the relationship. You are putting the cart before the horse, to get all upset over a relationship that isn't jelled yet.
2007-11-27 03:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the right thing. lie to them :)
ask your mom for 'advice'. Tell her there's a boy you like at school and you're not sure how to act around him, and ask for her advice girl-to-girl. This will make her feel involved and be like a bonding thing.
Of course she'll tell your dad, and they'll think its cute. At least this warns them so they aren't totally shocked when a week later you tell them you're dating.
Also, inviting him over to a casual dinner/study date to meet the parents is always good. (try to organise to have something like pizza, something that you can eat quickly so that you arent stuck at the table with them for an hour) If they've met the guy they'll be less likely to worry about you being mauled by some perverted teenage boy and more likely to allow you to date him in the future.
I think the secret to a good relationship with parents is to volunteer them some harmless information. that way they feel involved and connected to you and won't worry about you.
have fun with your boy :)
2007-11-27 03:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by jadethechemgeek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you that you're worried? If you're young, you should take it VERY easy and SLOW with your boyfriend.
For the time being, don't say anything. 1 week is nothing. Trust me, you need more time than that, especially if you're young. (based on your post, I'm sure that's the case).
If you must mention him to your parents, then mention him as a friend, and try to down play anything going on.
PLEASE hold off on going too far with this new guy. Don't do anything you'll end up regretting later.
2007-11-27 03:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You never say how old you are.But if this relationship is special as you say it is,then why not tell your parents.ask your parents how they would feel if you started dating.Then tell your parents you've met someone special.I hope this person has a plan for his future,that may included you one day.PLEASE NO BABIES BEFORE YOUR TIME.
2007-11-27 03:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First how old are you?
Second.....just talk with your parents about him...they will be impressed that you had the maturity to come to them about it, without sneaking behind their backs. Trust is the key!
2007-11-27 03:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer_nh72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them how old they were when they had their first boyfriends and girlfriends. Chances are it'll be about the same age you are now, so can't complain without being hypocrites.
2007-11-27 03:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
k well invite him over a few tiems as friends, adn there parents will gradulaly noticem , that you are hanging out more, so either they will ask you if yuo ar emore htn friends or, if not then be mroe forward and tell them your more!
2007-11-27 03:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by silas26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?? I would just go up to them and tell them they will be happy that you were honest with them.
2007-11-27 03:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you do hve a bf, and tel them that you trust them enough to tell them. Tell them that you are getting older and you are starting like the opposite sex. they will understand.
(in my case, i would tell my mom first :])
2007-11-27 03:35:25 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋