I am 19 years old and there is a good possibilty that I have contracted herpes from an ex (I find out tomorrow). I am very close to my dad since my mom passed from cancer 2 years ago and I'm just wondering if this is something I should tell him about? And how? He is an awesome dad and usually is pretty understanding about things, but I just wouldn't know where to start... Thanks.
2007-11-25 20:11:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Just tell him don't freak out and let him know but then, he might go kill your ex..
2007-11-26 10:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Amber S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless you just have a pressing need to tell him, there's really no reason. It's just not something he needs to know about, as it will not have any effect on him. It's future partners you will have to inform before they are exposed, and that's really the tough part. As far as telling your dad, I suppose if you want his support then the conversation will have to start someplace. I'd choose to do it at home, in private, and when you are both relaxed. Then you just tell your Dad you have something you want or need to tell him and don't know quite how to go about it. Parents are pretty good at understanding that you don't always know how to put something, or the "right" terms to use- we work around that part. Then you simply tell him you just found out you have it (if that's the news), and from there I suppose how you are feeling about it. There isn't a lot he can say, really. Oh he can do the lecture bit about how you should have been careful, blah blah- you will have to prepare yourself for a first less than stellar reaction, since he will likely feel some anger and sadness. And after all, it would be normal. Dads can be cool about most things, but you will always be his little girl, and theres a good chance he's not quite adapted that idea to include your sexuality. He probably shoves those particular thoughts way back under some brain dust in the back. So this little confession may stress him on several levels, just so you are prepared for that. As confessions go, I think I'd advise you to keep this info to yourself, rather than confess to dear old dad unless you just have to for some reason- and honestly I can't think of any compelling ones. While I don't ordinarily tell kids to keep secrets from their parents, in this particular case I think this is one you probably should. You are an adult now, you made an adult decision. This won't affect your dad, and considering the potential upset all around, I think this is a case where what you don't say won't hurt anyone. Some secrets really should be kept, just not from a potential mate.
2007-11-25 20:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should really find out if you have it and then you should sit your dad down and tell him you need to speak with him about sex and tell him that you and your ex were intimate and there is a chance you got herpes from him. see what he says tell him that you thought you could talk to him about it because you are so0o0 close
2007-11-26 00:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by *´`*♥♡Sarah☺ Beanz♡♥*´`* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one needs to know that you have HPV (if you do have it) except any future parteners and your OB/GYN if you decide to have children. I think you should not tell your dad anything. This is something he will never catch from you, so there is no point in telling him. Just because you are close to him, you don't need to tell him about this. If you do have it, he would not be able to do anything about it, and that may hurt him knowing he can't help his "baby".
2007-11-25 20:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by luvgiraffes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess I would have to ask you why it is important for him to know this? Seriously, unless you plan to have intercourse with him, it isn't any of his business. You are supposedly an adult at this point girlie, time to act like one and deal with your own problems like one. No need to run to daddy and burden him with problems he can do nothing about. All it would do is disappoint and worry him.
As for having herpes, please be responsible about it, treat it, and tell your sexual partners about it, THEY do have a right to know.
2007-11-25 20:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
as a father i would like just to know just to know to help if my daughter want my advice so tell him and cure yourself alone depend on yourself take the responsibility and learn this experience and also let him know just know
2007-11-25 23:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by dremadagwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. If you're as close as you say then everything will be fine. Your dad loves you.
2007-11-25 20:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by na_naillest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be blunt and take it from there
2007-11-25 20:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont you'll disapoint him, people should be more careful i'm 21 and a virgin thank god, its so nice to know that i dont have to worry about dirty diseases
2007-11-25 20:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋