My husband is a meat eater. And of course I am the shopper and cooker of the family. We also have a 2 year old but she doesnt eat meat that often... very rarely. I am new to being vegan. And my husband wants me to cook meat but I wont even buy it anymore. Should I buy it for him though and just make it for him even if I dont approve? But just the thought of it makes me sick.
2007-11-16 04:26:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Vegetarian & Vegan
you shouldn't make your husband stop eating meat if he still wants too. what you can do is buy the meat and have him cook it if he wants. you can cook something that can easily add meat too if he decides to add it. but if you don't want to cook it don't. make him do it. but don't force him not to eat meat.
2007-11-16 04:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by serenity975428 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would cook alternative meat products for him and then on special occasions or once a month or so, make him a nice meat dish. Just make sure you buy meat that you know has been humanely treated and wasn't pumped with hormones. Most grocers are carrying meat these days that say very clearly on the label that the animal was grass fed and free of a cage or hormones. Sure you pay a little more, but the animal gave its life, so believe me, it is worth the price. I am veggie but I will occasionally buy a piece of meat from a humane source...I think humans naturally eat meat, it's the industry that has made it f***ed up. So if you buy a natural, fresh, humanely killed and treated piece of meat, you shouldn't feel bad about feeding it to your family every so often.
2007-11-16 08:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by kleo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This beggars belief - in 2007 people are saying 'you get into that kitchen woman and you cook your man the food he likes the way he likes it, like you promised to'.
I don't know how old these people are, but I assume pretty young as they seem not to realise that almost everybody's beliefs, politics, values, priorities etc shift over time. That's how come most people get more interesting as they get older.
Cooking his food wasn't included in your wedding vows, and does anyone still promise to 'obey'?
Unless your husband doesn't have the use of his hands, he can cook himself meat if he wants it; as far as I can see you're not suggesting he gives up meat or forbidding him to have meat in the house, you're just saying you don't want to handle or cook it any more.
Stick to your guns if you feel strongly enough; it isn't difficult for a veg*n and an omnivore to cohabit - many, many of us manage it.
2007-11-16 07:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by lo_mcg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'm a meat eater, so part of me is on your husband's side...But I will do my best to answer without bias.
You say you're a new vegan...So I must assume that you have changed things since you got married. This probably seems like a partial abandonment from your husband's perspective - he married someone who had similar values, and now you don't have those same values (on this particular issue). This is probably creating extra resistance on his part, whether it's conscious or not, and he probably feels a little left behind.
I wonder if it's possible for you to switch-up the responsibilities that each of you has. Would he be willing to cook, if you agreed to take out the trash (or another chore that he normally handles)? If so, then he would not only get the meat he's looking for, but would also be involved in making sure you're getting the nutrients you need from your new diet. My guess is that if you could get him more involved, that he'd be more supportive of your needs, but would also be more inclined to eat more vegetarian & vegan meals himself.
If I were in his shoes, I certainly wouldn't expect you do to anything that makes you physically ill (really, he loves you, he wouldn't wish this on you). But do remember that you have changed baby diapers - if you can handle this, I'm sure you're tough enough to handle buying meat for the man you love. Sometimes, we do things we don't like, for the sake of our loved ones - if you expect him to be supportive of your needs, it's important that you do the same for him.
Best of luck!!
2007-11-16 04:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The reality is that he was a meat eater when you met an when you married him. It is unfair to expect him to change. That is one of the biggest mistakes in a Marriage. Offer him some vegan options but you should still allow him his meat. He hasn't changed you have and you can't fault him for being the same man that you chose to spend your life with.
2007-11-16 07:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people seem to be jumping down your throat on this one. If you are cooking and shopping then it is your choice what is purchased and cooked. You are not forcing him to eat as a vegan, you are sticking to your principals and not cooking or buying it. As long as you are not telling him that no meat is allowed in the house or that he is not allowed to cook it, then you are forcing nothing on him. His is a grown adult and perfectly capable of going out to the grocery store and buying what he wants, I'm sure he is also capable of cooking for himself. Your kitchen is not a restaurant, your cooking, so the decision is yours on what to make.
I would look at it this way, your husband is fully capable of cooking and shopping for himself(it takes all of 15 minutes to stop at a store and buy what he wants) and another 20-60 minutes to cook it. If he doesn't want to do this than he is making the choice to not eat meat. Its his choice to either cook and buy his own meat or eat what you have made for the family. Your his wife not his mom, and he is a grown adult, not a child. You are not obligated by marriage to cook for him, he'll either accept that or not.
2007-11-16 06:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by Prodigy556 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2014-12-15 17:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...you are a family unit....so excluding him and making him eat the way you want to eat....is wrong. You have not included him in your plan and he will become resentful of you...then the name calling and the talking behind your back comes in.... then you will play the victim...because you are just "doing what's right"....
IF you are going to be vegan...then you follow your diet....but YOU INCLUDE your husband. If he is not on board with your diet...then you cook his meat. That is fair, it is equitable and it will "save your marriage".....
he time to take a stance on this was before the I do's...remember the part about for better or worse...well, for you this is one of them...so ... buck up and cook the steak...let him it it while you eat the quinoa!! :)
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