This is how some have defined adultery:
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2007-11-14 23:55:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For the record, there is no one I am considering "telling" on.
I was curious what those who are normally so quick to point out the spiritual and religious shortcomings of others would say when they are faced with a real life situation.
2007-11-17 07:37:52 · update #1
nope none of your business
you think hilary didnt know?
she just didnt want to be confronted with it
2007-11-14 23:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by bdsmslavegirly 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes i believe so but it would all depends on the relationship which exist between you and the other person. But it does not mean that you have to go directly to the person and tell him/her. You may take other corrective measures as well like talking to the guilty partner personally or consulting a significant other such as, the pastor, or person whom he/she is having the affair.
It is said that what a person don't know does not hurt them but i believe this statement is truly wrong. What if in the process of not telling the person he/she ends up with a bad case of AIDS. Does that mean that it will not hurt? A good friend would never leave another hanging in ignorance about something this important. Friends would intend what is best for others and this undoubtedly violates this principle. A cheating spouse could not possibly be best for your friend, or anyone for that matter especially with all the health and wellness implications that today's world has to offer.
It is the whole attitude of "minding your own business" that so many people are in such sorrows today. Peopl have gotten mudered, raped, and descriminated against simply because others "minded their own business". What if all the patriots of history "minded their own business", most of us would not even be previledge to be saying these really selfish statements today. We aught to be each other's keeper and you cannot love someone to their death, you know while watching them "drinking a gallon of poison' (metaphorically speaking) and "mind your own business'.
In my view, it is always my business to look out for the best of my fellow brothers and sisters. I might not always do but that does not make it any less important or relevant.
Honestly i would want someone to tell me if i have an unfaithful spouse.
God bless
2007-11-15 08:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you look at it. Some people look at like the other person has the right to know and that it should be a relationship destroyer. Others see it as human nature, and that rather than ruin a relationship that may have hit some bedroom snags, live and let live, and let ignorance be bliss and hopefully things will work out for them.
I think that this decision requires more than just a knowledge of the affair. You have to know about the person and their intentions with the affair. Why did they do it?
2007-11-15 08:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jadochop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are the one who that person had sex with then it would be necessary for total repentance. To tell on some one could ruin an otherwise good marriage. This is something that is a tricky situation between friends because you don't want to see your friends hurt but if you tell you for sure hurt your friend and if you don't tell sometime in the future they may ask you why you didn't bring it to the light sooner. I would approach the spouse confidentially and let them know you know what happened and that puts the ball in their court to change tell them it is your friend they are cheating on and you don't want to see them hurt and ask them how they intend to make it right per say stop cheating etc.
2007-11-15 08:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by saintrose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tricky business getting yourself into situations like that and either way you're the bad guy. If you tell the cheated-on what's happening, the cheater will be angry. If you don't tell the cheated-on, they'll be angry. Either way, you're the villain.
I had a friend who once told me that she thought the best punishment for someone who cheats is to live with that guilt and the fear of being caught. She thought that if you cheat and you truly feel bad about it, that you shouldn't tell the other person if you believe that they would stay with you anyway because all you'll be doing is causing them pain after you've already betrayed them. So if you're truly sorry, you'll keep the secret and assume the guilt of knowing what you did and live with the fear of your loved one finding out the truth. So, when her ex-boyfriend cheated on her and I knew about it (because I was an unfortunate witness), I honored her wishes and kept it to myself. It didn't work out in the end anyway, so it didn't matter.
2007-11-15 08:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, but you are morally obligated to help save the brother from this sin.
You need to leave it up to the brother to deal with His spouse in most cases-but you should urge him to conquer this sin and get help from someone in authority that He can trust to hold him accountable.
If the brother is unrepentant then i would say that with much prayer and fasting I would go to the spouse and help her to cope with the news that her spouse was unfaithful.
2007-11-15 08:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who this person is... a sister/brother or a good friend; then Yes. If this is someone you know through another person kind of thing... stay out of it. Believe me if you tell this person there is a good chance that you will become the enemy. They will not want to believe you and I am pretty sure the cheater is not going to come clean. Only involve yourself if it already involves you.
2007-11-15 08:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by L A 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think its called being a tattletale.
It's also being called a troublemaker.
Many times you don't know what is really going on and are just guessing. There are many wives that tolerate infidelity that is their lot in life. They are involved in other stuff so the husbands indiscretions are of no concern of hers as long as he provides for her and the kids.
2007-11-15 08:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell because sometimes the spouse is already aware of the cheating and your comments are not appreciated.
I have had problems in my own family when my brother told my sister her husband was cheating. There has been hard feeling between the two since then.
2007-11-15 08:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Theres no religious moral civil law that say you have to inform someone about their spouses acts.
Such a thing is non of our concern.
2007-11-15 07:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by Antares 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No. If the main idea of moral choices is to avert harm, then informing someone of their spouse's infidelity may not be consistent with that aim.
2007-11-15 07:59:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋