Bridal Showers?

Question

both my maid and matron of honor are planning seperate bridal showers (They keep me in the loop but i told them not to tell me too much).
One shower will be in my hometown , the other, where i currently live, theres a 2 hour driving distance between so to make it easier on the guests who don't drive to columbus....lol they don't have to.

Is it acceptable for me to request healthy food at the bridal shower? I'm on a diet and I don't want the junk (aka cupcakes, candy, junk only)...
I would make a suggestion for salad, meat/cheese trays and veggie trays....they are planning to get a cake as most showers ive been to do. but thats fine....but is it ok to ask for healthy alternatives to the regular food? :)

One more pertaining to Bridal showers..is it rude to open gifts in front of guests? I heard this from someone (not in the area i live) but now im curious and im paranoid..if it is i'd rather take them home...

Answer 1

it is perfectly acceptable to request healthy food! im wondering whether, however, if you should just make the suggestion that there is at at least a healthy option for you for dinner.. like a vegetarian option.. and a salad.. that should be plenty for you to eat, right? i mean if other people want to eat unhealthy thats there decision.. i am a vegetarian and as long as there is some stuff for me to eat at my shower, wedding, bday parties, etc... i am perfectly fine.. and about the gift... whoever said it is rude to open your gifts in front of your guests is rude themselves!!!!! the guests want to see you open their gift and they want to see the reaction on their face when you see what they had thoughtfully picked out for you! the only thing is, though, if someone gives you money or a gift card... do not say how much it is.. and the other thing is.. take home the wishing well gifts.. dont open them there.. there might be some things in there that arent very appropriate for the whole family to see ;)

Answer 2

If you're asking, there's nothing incorrect about having multiple showers, so long as overlapping guest lists are avoided.

As the guest of honor, you are still just a guest and technically should be delighted with whatever type of food they are kind enough to provide. However among good friends a certain degree of VERY broad hinting is required. For instance, you can offer to bring a veggie tray, and from there maneuver to where the host is getting the veggie tray when she gets the other stuff, but you are paying for it.

But just like a vegetarian guest at a traditional Thanksgiving feast, the polite thing is (1) before the meal, eat a substantial meal of your own sort (2) during the meal, take very small portions of several dishes and cut them up, mush them about, so it's not obvious that you aren't actually eating anything (3) four hours later, on the drive home, enjoy the 'all natural' sandwich you prepared ahead of time.

About opening gifts, I'd apply the rule that "Less intrusive behavior takes precedence over more intrusive behavior." If you DON'T open gifts, a few givers may be mildly disappointed, but will get over when they receive your prompt, personal, handwritten message of thanks. If you DO open gifts, those who have given only modestly (due to modest means or because they plan to give a lavish wedding gift) might be embarrassed, a condition less easy to bear than mere disappointment. Besides, a lot of us guests are bored to sobs when forced to watch the bride spend 40 minutes unwrapping OTHER people's gifts.

Answer 3

Wedding showers and Bridal showers are the same thing I think the only difference that a wedding shower you can invite guys You really do not need a wedding and bridal showers The same people go to both except for guys, and most guys do not want to go to a shower That also go by Jack and Jill shower I had two showers, one for my family in one state and one for my husband family in a different state You can have two showers if the families live in to different area or the Having the same thing calling it a different thing is just odd, you are not inviting the same people are you? Wedding/Bridal shower food You could have a seat meal at a restaurant This way everything is done for you They are fine, you pick food from the menu you can have a house/backyard shower This with food like: deli patter(meat or sandwich), ziti, meatballs, Pasta salad, sauges and peppers, ham, turkey, potato salad. etc It's what you will have at any family party These are more fun, more lay back Bachelorette party's are different from showers They are normal friends and young family member Most are over 21, drinking involved If it's at home, a stripper shows up a lot They go out to night clubs and stuff More like appetizers and party food You only need a shower and a bachelorette party

Answer 4

If you're worried about how they'll feel if you request healthy options at the showers, you might just say that, not knowing dietary restrictions of guests, would they mind including some veggie/fruit/non-meat options?

As to the shower, yes you may open gifts. It'd be inconsiderate to state who gave what, however. You don't want someone who couldn't afford a gift and gave you something small to feel inadequate. Likewise, if someone gave you an expensive gift for the purpose of looking good at someone else's expense, that'd be rude and as the Bride, you'd not want to encourage that behavior.

Just make sure that you send out thank you cards to everyone who attended and/or gave a gift. Especially to those who participated in organizing and setting up.

Answer 5

I dont think it is rude to request healthy food. A friend of mine requested healthy food, and we had some really nice salads, and wraps. Which were very good!

For my family it is normal to open gifts at the bridal shower. Usually the way we do it is the bride opens the gifts and the bridesmaids keep track of who bought you what so when you go to send Thank you cards its all there. Plus as you open you can thank everyone as well.

Good Luck to you! All this talk about Showers and stuff really makes me anxious for our special days to come!!

Answer 6

At every shower I've been to, it's mostly been healthy foods like salads and sandwiches, deli cuts, cheese and crackers, fruits, veggies, etc, but always a cake. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Both of my showers had that kind of food. About requesting that kind of food, you could ask them what they plan on having. As far as opening gifts in front of people, I've never heard it as being rude opening them up in front of everything. You usually do that, I would consider it rude if the person said ya ty all for the loot, and loaded her car up lol. People expect you to open it all up at the shower.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

It's ok to request some healthy food - but not all your guests would porbably like that, so have a mixture. Every shower I've ever been to, the BTB opens the gifts as part of the shower so all the guests can ooh and aah.

Answer 8

Let them just plan whatever food they are planning to - usually there are cut up veggies and fruit. Plus, you'll be too busy and excited to eat much.
Of course you open gifts at the shower - that's part of the fun! Maybe what you have heard is that gifts aren't opened at the wedding reception, for that, people usually have a gift-opening the next day.

Answer 9

No, it is not rude for either.

You are the bride and asking for a healthy menu is perfectly acceptable. Most people know you want to look bangin' in that dress - so I don't think there should be a problem.

It is rude to open wedding gifts at your wedding - but most people like to see you open your gifts at showers so they can see your reaction. I have been to at least 20 bridal showers, they all opened their presents at the shower, I have never even heard that it would be considered rude.

Answer 10

I think that you should let your girls know that you would like to have some healthy food for your self and anyone else that wants to have it, but still let them have their cake and whatever else. Just suggest it to them....idont see why that is a bad idea......as for the gifts, NO! its not rude at all, or i have never heard that anyway. Most people are actually going to wonder what others have got you. And if your friends and family are anything like mine, they will make you open them because of a gag gift or two! Congrats on your wedding!!