I have tried to end the affair over the phone, but I walways feel guilty and never leave, so I thought about writing a ending love letter. I want to explain why and bye. Is this an effective way of ending such a loving affair?
2007-11-14 23:17:54 · 16 answers · asked by Miss Dymond 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Last time I called him he told me he doesn't want to lose me.
I think I'm giving the wrong message because I told him I don't want him to leave his girl and I don't want a relationship.
I didn't tell him this, but I want him to break up with her on his own.
2007-11-15 00:51:33 · update #1
face to face is the best way but a letter is best if you cannot face it its also very final when in writing
face to face and by phone is only verbal a writen letter is a statement of fact
so yes its the best way
2007-11-14 23:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To work it out, or not work it out, there is no right or wrong answer to this question. It really would depend on the individual, and their situation. If the marriage was in shambles and the affair was simply the last straw, it may be time to call it quits and move on. However, if both parties want to work things out it is possible. The burden falls on both of the individuals to get past the affair. One has to truly be remorseful, and the other has to be accepting of that. Rehashing it over and over is a recipe for disaster, and nothing can ever be resolved that way. It's important to find out why the affair happened, and to work on whatever was missing, but this can be done in a productive way, so that the negativeness doesn't destroy the relationship. There is nothing wrong with wanting to work on repairing the damage, and if nothing else, if the relationship cannot be salvaged and you both move on, at least you know how to try and prevent an affair from happening again. On the other hand, even if the person is truly sorry, and the hurt is too overwhelming for the other person to stay, that is completely up to them, and they should not be judged.
2016-05-23 06:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair means that one of you is married.
So, when talking over the phone is still bad but at least can be forgotten, a letter which ends up in the wrong hand, with information which is not meant to be for those eyes, can do a LOT of damage.
Think about it and stop this affair either in person, or over the phone.
Don't make things worse than they already are.
This should have never started.
Good luck.
2007-11-14 23:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one should think that if they didn't put themselves there in the first place that you wouldn't be in this predicament. sorry-had to say it.
a letter is a good way of doing this BUT if it were me, I'd want an explanation either in person or over the phone. to me a letter says i'm too embarrased or afraid to tell you to your face and it would make me angry.
if you've been with this person a long time then i think they deserve to hear it from you in person versus the letter.
but the letter IS better than just leaving w/out explaining why
hope it works out for you
2007-11-14 23:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by prncessang228 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is not violent, then face-to-face is the best way to end an affair. You owe that person at least that much, don't you think?
If the person is violent, then a letter, not a love letter, is a good way to end the affair.
But once you end it, don't go backwards. Accept that it's over and move forward.
2007-11-14 23:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, writing is fine although I would prefer someone saying goodbye face to face. Not over the phone. Not in letter. Especially not in letter. I don't know. I would definitely burn that letter...
2007-11-14 23:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Odessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face to face is honest and the best for both.
you get to feel and be told what a heel u r and the other person at least feels some closure.
2007-11-14 23:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by shafter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that i've had experience with an affair (lol) i think you should practice. do you have a pic of him? look at it and tell it that you don't wanna see him anymore. it should be easier after that! Call him to end it, it'll be easier b/c then you'll knoe his reaction! Hope that helps...
2007-11-14 23:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by (*LiZET 81*) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way, but face to face shows some respect for their feelings rather than a brush off phone call
2007-11-14 23:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. I dont want to sound harsh, but you got yourself into this so now youre gonna have to suck it up and get back out. Sorry!
2007-11-14 23:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋