im really starting to believe... the idea of LOVE is a female invention...
so when a woman talks about love, we men just dont GET IT. we try and pretend for you, but we really cant. and you women just need to realise this fact.
my quetsion is why cant men love?
personally i dont think we see the world in emotions, we see it in terms of logic. and we need sex so we tell you we love you.
what do you think?
2007-11-14 23:13:38 · 22 answers · asked by dreammuncher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are probably right, in that's how the average man thinks. You have no idea how hurtful it is for women to not be understood and to not understand men.
We really try. The average women will work continuosly to try to understand her man and put herself into his mindset to bridge the gap, IF the man will TALK about what's going on inside him.
Most men will not talk about their stuff and will not put any effort into caring about what the women wants or needs.
It's probably a gender thing, but it's also a lack of sensitivity and a selfish thing. Men don't want to put any effort into improving themselves and their relationships.
If you really care enough to LISTEN to what your women is saying , open yourself to feel what she is feeling, and TALK with her about it, you could begin to connect on a much deeper level and it would be rewarding for both of you.
2007-11-14 23:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting.
If us men are so 'Logical' and devoid of emotion lets look at this scientifically.
There are 16 different personality types.
There are some people who have a very black and white, logical outlook but there are just as many who are warm, loving and caring.
Just because you don't feel love doesn't mean all men don't - that's a silly assumption to make!!
Some men think love is 'soppy' and not macho enough so they put on the hard man act, but deep down they love.
Its actually quite rare for a person to be totally devoid of the capability to express love or receive it as an emotion. Indeed, such people who are often called 'cold' often meet the criteria for a mental illness.
Take me, I have a hard exterior, I'm extremely logical and often ruthless, but I am really a big softie and I feel things really deeply.
I'm in Love with someone at the moment and they are in love with me but it cant happen and its killing me.
Love is a normal human emotion designed to help us attract partners to procreate (complicated).
I would suggest that if you are being honest and you really cant feel or express love you need to look at yourself.
I hope you find love one day - if its right it will knock you off your feet.
2007-11-14 23:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you really need to speak for yourself. Men can love. Maybe you can't. Perhaps you are narcissistic or are emotionally detached. Yes, there are some heartless men like yourself. On the other hand, women can be cold and cruel too. Any problems and heartaches a man can cause, a woman can cause them too.
Yes, men generally are a little slow at being romantic and will tell a woman that he loves her. Yes, men tend to be more sexual than sensual. That doesn't mean they can't love nor do they ultimately want to find their one true love in life.
In short, you sound like a male feminist. If that is the case, grow a set of balls and start acting like a man. There is nothing wrong with advocating equality or being respectful of women. Being the male version of Gloria Steinam is a crime against malehood. Stop it now!
2007-11-14 23:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you look at what women want these days its men adapting to what women want.
If you are emotional caring and protective, your a NICE/ GOOD guy.
Tell me how many of these guys in their teens have a GF???
Most women don't want that these days its kind of ridiculous.
So its really a society gap more than anything.
I strive to be the best that I can be, and be the best man I can be, but I also know that I wont find a date till I am 30 years old and still a virgin, I am 20 years old now and never had a GF.
At least I don't hold a grudge.
2007-11-15 00:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beg to differ as a guy i know we men can love there are the heartless in both genders some people live mostly with emotion and some are more about logic and pleasure. some are a mix of both. women need will play the love card to get what they want sometimes. basically it's a matter of how each individual sees the world and how they view relationships. some people are just into love and romance and others aren't.
2007-11-14 23:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by most hated human 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it's not that men can't love, it's just that a Male's brain work differently than a Female's brain.
Perhaps there is just a lot of unmatured guys who likes to play with girls who cannot stay in a true commitment that's why you have arrived in your statement but there is no perfect love.
It is inevitable not to be attracted to the other gender if you are already in a relationship.
It's just that women are way better in self-control than men does.
The one to blame is what's happening in our society where to fornicate is cool.
If you say about the sex part is true then fornication should be avoided for couples who are not yet married to test their definition of love for each other.
2007-11-14 23:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by hatersal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women can multi task so being in love isnt a problem
a man cant multitask so as we think of sex every 6 seconds and the thought lasts for 5 seconds we have one second to think of other things these include breathing ,beer and sex
we just dont have time to think of love
it also explains why we suffer more than women when we have a cold or flu we dont have time to think about getting better the way a woman does
2007-11-14 23:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men can love its just many choose to only have short term relationships and move on very fast. But one day their will be a woman who just becomes everything to you and you won't want to cheat or play around all you will want is to be with her, your question basically says you havn't been in love yet thats why you don't know what its like. But i do get what you mean i have never been in love and i wonder if it really exists but it has to!
2007-11-14 23:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do love just as much as women, you havn't met the right one yet. Telling a woman you love her to satisfy your need for sex is very greedy selfish and hurtful. Watch out one day it could be the other way around.
2007-11-14 23:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by holly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. Men love differently from women. But they do love.
I have experienced physical pain from loving before. No joke.
When women talk about love, sometimes (ok, most of the time) men just don't get it, but that is because it is way different from their version of love.
Don't worry. I truly believe that women don't "get" men either. Though there are many who think they understand men.
When I tell my wife I love her, I mean it.
2007-11-14 23:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by Stanley W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋