Difference between men and women,long read but worth it ???

Question

Let's say a guy named Mike is attracted
to a woman named Lisa. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts;
they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her
out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves.
They continue to see each other regularly,
and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.
And then, one evening when they're driving home, a
thought occurs to Lisa, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud:
"Do you realise that, as of tonight, we've been
seeing each other for exactly six months?"
And then there is silence in the car. To Lisa, it seems like
a very loud silence.
She thinks to herself: Jeez, I wonder
if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he's been feeling
confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I'm
trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn't
want, or isn't sure of.
And Mike is thinking: Gosh. Six months.

And Lisa is thinking: But, hey, I'm
not so sure I want this kind of relationship, either. Sometimes
I wish I had a little more space, so I'd have time to think
about whether I really want us to keep going the way we are, moving
steadily toward... I mean, where are we going? Are we just
going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy?
Are we heading toward marriage? Toward children? Towarda
lifetime together? Am I ready for that level of commitment?
Do I really even know this person?





And Mike is thinking: ...so that means
it was... let's see...February when we started going
out, which was right after I had the car at the dealer's,
which means...lemme check the odometer... Whoa! I am way
overdue for an oil change here.


And Lisa is thinking: He's upset.
I can see it on hisface. Maybe I'm reading this completely
wrong. Maybe he wants more from our relationship, more
intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed - even before I sensed it-

that I was feeling some reservations. Yes, I bet that's
it. That's why he's so reluctant to say anything
about his own feelings. He's afraid of being rejected.



And Mike is thinking: And I'm gonna
have them look at the transmission again. I don't care
what those morons say, it's still not shifting right.
And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this
time. What cold weather? It's 87 degrees out, and this
thing is shifting like a garbage truck, and I paid those
incompetent thieves $600.





And Lisa is thinking: He's angry.
And I don't blame him.. I'd be angry, too. I feel
so guilty, putting hithrough this, but I can't help
the way I feel. I'm just not sure.


And Mike is thinking: They'll probably
say it's only a 90-day warranty... scumballs.



And Lisa is thinking: Maybe I'm just
too idealistic, waiting for a knight to come riding up on
his white horse, when I'm sitting right next to a perfectly
good person,

a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about,
a person who seems to truly care about me. A person who is
in pain because of my self-centred, schoolgirl romantic
fantasy.


And Mike is thinking: Warranty? They
want a warranty? I'll give them a warranty. I'll
take their warranty and stick it right up their...



"Mike, " Lisa says aloud.



"What?" says Mike, startled.



"Please don't torture yourself
like this, " she says, her eyes beginning to brim with tears. "Maybe
I should never have... Oh God, I feel so..."



(She breaks down, sobbing.)



"What?" says Mike.



"I'm such a fool, " Lisa
sobs. "I mean, I know there's no knight. I really
know that. It's silly. There's no knight, and there's
no horse."





"There's no horse?"
Mike says.


"You think I'm a fool, don't
you?" Lisa says.


"No!" says Mike, glad to finally
know the correct answer.


"It's just that... it's
that I... I need some time, " Lisa says.

(There is a 15-second pause while Mike,
thinking as fast as he can, tries to come up with a safe response.
Finally he comes up with one that he thinks might work) "Yes,
" he says.


(Lisa, deeply moved, touches his hand.)
"Oh, Mike, do you really feel that way?" she
says.


"What way?" says Mike.



"That way about time, " says
Lisa.


"Oh, " says Mike. "Yes."
(Lisa turns to face him and gazes deeply into his eyes, causing
him to become very nervous about what she might say next, especially
if it involves a horse. At last she speaks.


"Thank you, Mike, " she says.



"Thank you, " says Mike.



Then he takes her home, and she lies on
her bed, a conflicted, tortured soul, and weeps until
dawn, whereas when Mike gets back to his place, he opens
a bag of Doritos, turns on the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun
of a tennis match between two Czechoslovakians he has never
heard of.

A tiny voice in the far recesses of his mind tells
him that something major was going on back there in the car,
but he is pretty sure there is no way he would ever understand
what, and so he figures it's better if he doesn't
think about it.


The next day Lisa will call her closest
friend, or perhaps two of them, and they will talk about
this situation for six straight hours. In painstaking
detail, they will analyse everything she said and everything
he said, going over it time and time again, exploring every
word, expression, and gesture for nuances of meaning,
considering every possible ramification. They will continue to discuss
this subject, off and on, for weeks, maybe months, never
reaching any definite conclusions, but never getting
bored with it, either.


Meanwhile, Mike, while playing racquetball
one day with a mutual friend of his and Lisa's, will pause just before serving, frown, and say: "Norm,did Lisa ever own a horse?"
And that's the difference

Answer 1

Fantastic read. :)

Yeah, sometimes, I feel my boyfriend is like a lost little puppy, during my wee interrogations. And I'm like a detective/ psychologist on speed... Bombarding him with questions, and he is stumped for their answers. :)

If there was ever a 'general' difference between men and women, this is likely it. Men tend to either under-analyse and us ladies find ourselves doing the opposite. :)

Answer 2

Freedom--true, this is the wrong section, but have you ever SEEN the Gender and Women's Studies section? It's basically just a bunch of anti-feminist trolls. I don't blame someone trying to post this somewhere else. Anyways as for the original question, I'd say you are making some overly-broad statements, seeing as things are ALWAYS that way. Anyways, although everything should be equal, they aren't. We still live in a patriarchal society which treats men as active and women as passive, so these values will obviously be reflected still.

Answer 3

There are as or more than 140 different apples in the world,and each one even the same brand are different in texture and taste.
What i get from what you wrote is:- a person did not or may think the same as the other.
It is only if you believe what you are told that it becomes real to you,although it is not fact unless you see it all for yourself.
Everyone has a different way of seeing things in life due to they way they have been brought up and influenced,and no one has been or has the same way of thinking as others.
Presuming the other person thinks or feels how you believe they do can very much get you in to trouble.

Answer 4

You never did ask a question. Instead you are describing the difference between a male and a female. Males and females associate time differently, and almost everything else in life. No offense meant for female readers but sometime y'all can really over analyze the simplest of things. Until you can openly communicate your TRUE feelings or thoughts (goes for both men and women) don't expect the other person to automatically know what you are thinking.

Answer 5

lol. Oh so true. I have been there. Definitely I have not been on the same wavelength. Have u ever thought of writing a romantic novel get in touch with Mills and Boon publishers.
Men and women do think differently (thats what makes it fun and also very frustrating)
I say thank goodness for "La difference."
Maybe you have "cracked" the issue for yourself and u seem to be in tune now.
I certainly have not cracked it and always coming a cropper.

Answer 6

Ummmm, just a thought but we are not immortal, so at some point in life you really have to settle for some guy ladies, or go without. Otherwise it will be to late and you time will have passed. So don't over analyse, just enjoy what you can have.

Answer 7

Thats exactly the problem. Men and women think sooo differently. when a woman asks her guy what hes thinking, we usually want to hear that he is thinking about US. Usually they are thinking about sundays game or changing the oil. Oh well, if you can figure it out youll be a very famous and rich man.

Answer 8

You should probably change to a thinner transmission oil, such as 75W rather than 90W, this might overcome the shifting problem at low temp

Answer 9

I enjoyed that, well worth the very long read and very very true. we speak completely different languages, im suprised any relationship ever gets past the oil check stage!!

Answer 10

ye lol. That sort of thing goes both ways tho but I must say women take it a bit more seriously more often.