can a relationship, which started out as adulterous, in the end, be blessed?
to explain.... husband and wife have a LOT of problems. both of them know there is no "marriage" left, but they stay together for the sakes of the kids. she ends up having a lesbian relationship, and he ends up with a mistress he ultimately falls in love with. after several months, the mistress walks away, knowing that she cannot be the reason they get divorced.
time passes... after a year and a half, husband and wife get divorced. another year goes by, and the man and mistress reunite and soon marry, even tho they have not spoken to each other since she walked away, and are the happiest and the most in love they have ever been... the (ex)wife has been with her girlfriend straight thru, even to this day.
could their separation be the price the man and mistress had to pay to ultimately be happy and share an amazing love together? is it possible for this marriage to truly be blessed in the eyes of God?
2007-11-14
21:28:51
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In the eyes of the bible God? No, that relationship will never be blessed by God. The bible clearly says that any such relationship is adultery and in many churches divorce whether or not an affairs took place ends in adultery if they remarry someone else.
I know I divorced my first wife and met this wonderful woman who was god fearing and was a virgin even though she was 23 and she stayed a virgin until after our vows, but some churches we attended she was looked upon as the other woman who broke me and my first wife up and she did not even know either of us at the time. Our divorce was final a year when we met. I was 40 and she 23 so that also gets Christians to gossiping.
I remember one church we visited with all the elders explained our situation and tried to make sure we would not be judged and all was fine until in bible class one day the teacher was out of town and one of the elders who said it was okay and he understood taught the class and got away from the topic and started on divorce and remarriage and how men in their 40's will leave the wives of their youth and marry women in their 20's and he also got on how sinful it is for a man to have long hair.
There was no doubt that he directed that lesson directly at us we fit all even down to my long hair, but he is wrong in that my wife did not know us and did not break us up and I did not leave my first for a yonger woman.
According to Christian thought divorce is okay only if the other commits adultery and the innocent one did not but in the case above they both were guilty so neither of them can remarry with God's blessing.
Now the treatment of Christians in my divorce situation is not why I left Christianity, mywife still is a Christian and attends a church she is not judged in but they do not know I was divorced.
BB
2007-11-14 21:47:46
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answered by Anonymous
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It is this simple, God forbids adultery and sexual immorality. The fact that people seem happy on the outside cannot be a basis to obtain a blessing.
The Bible says that adulterers shall not inherit the Kingdom of God. Both relationships are certainly not right in the eyes of God. But He is a God who forgives those who repent with a sincere heart. One cannot justify their actions on what King David did, we have the new testament of Jesus Christ who came after King David lived.
Therefore biblically no blessing will rectify the mistakes already made, the persons involved need to go before God and repent - that means to forsake their actions, to turn away completely.
It does not matter which church they go to, certainly a blessing will just make them feel better but deep down they'll be a conviction or guilt.
2007-11-14 23:20:55
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answered by Binahl 2
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What great role models. They ultimately sound selfish. I'm not sure one can use sin to justify more sin. To use a wife's lesbian relationship to justify an adulterous relationship and down the road marriage and ask for God's blessing doesn't cut it. They chose each other to be in a covenant relationship, have children and now because of "problems" think it is OK to go outside the marriage for sexual pleasure. That doesn't work for me. I can't imagine God being very excited about their new found "happiness" either. Then again, I'm not God.
2007-11-14 21:54:09
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answered by Proverbs twenty7 7teen 3
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According Jesus pbuh’ O Christians are you really an Evil and Adulterous Generation???
Matthew 16:4 An evil and adulterous generation seeks after a sign; and a sign will not be given it….
The Holy Bible gives the cause of this cancer and blight: " Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, And changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and four footed beasts, and creeping things. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. Romans 1:22-27
2007-11-14 21:40:01
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answered by Anonymous
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All situations selection and there is often lots greater to this than what you're able to desire to write. That pronounced, the mistress looked as though it could have made the desirable determination while she walked away. She found out he became not prepared to commit (could not bypass away spouse for her nor might desire to he shop marriage vows) and, optimistically, her very own mistake in searching for romance in places that it became to not be chanced on. spouse looked as though it may do ok, too, in letting bypass of a courting that became to not be pleasing for the two companion. the possibility for a happy union between the former mistress and the adulterer could completely matter on the (for the sake of not being insulting) guy's ability to learn and develop. If he (and/or you) is able to comprehend what it particularly ability to commit and is fairly able to doing that then, see you later as this love is authentic and the two events are prepared to artwork and combat for it, it would artwork out merely effective. If he's merely hoping that that's going to be much less complicated this time, that he won't could submit with expectancies and such, then that's going to fail. And just so which you recognize the place it is coming from: i'm agnostic and that i think in open relationships over classic marriages. i could fortunately, notwithstanding, commit to a effortless courting if I enjoyed yet another who did not opt for an open courting and that i will consistently place have confidence and honesty above the different high quality in a courting. If he needs a closed courting then cheats on me it can be a breach of the two have confidence and honesty. If I have been "the different lady" i could could take in his willingness to lie to the only he claimed to love peculiarly into some very extreme attention. in case you could betray that individual it fairly takes so very lots to teach your ability to be relied on.
2016-09-29 06:56:59
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answered by ? 4
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The story is not over.
Heb 13:4 "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."
2007-11-14 23:07:13
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answered by Steve Amato 6
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2016-02-11 13:41:54
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answered by Anonymous
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That is about pathetic. What in the world makes you think that having your own personal needs met is the end all of blessedness?
Many people live painful lives and suffer much at great sacrifice to their personal needs to help others and only have an eternal reward to hope for. Are you so self absorbed and narcissistic that you think personal happiness is all that matters in life? That's sick and pathetic.
2007-11-14 21:45:08
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answered by Who's got my back? 5
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Yes.
And even if God doesn't like it, we should.
Love is better than anything we can ever imagine.
It should be celebrated in all forms - we all know there's not enough love in this world.
2007-11-14 21:38:29
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answered by Anonymous
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2017-02-17 14:37:21
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answered by ? 4
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