My mom's side of the family got mostly greedy people. My relatives in the past have wronged my family so much when I was little. They worked together to make my mom cry, kicked my family out of their home, and much more. My mom's siblings all mistreated me and my siblings such as beat us when we were little, now they are afraid of me. Last year they brought nothing over and just ate. Some ate early and did not even bother to wait for my other relatives... When some people got here some food was all gone...
Besides they my grandma's house is much bigger yet they don't wanna have the feast there... My house is so much smaller, they just wanna mess up my family's home and not theirs'. I just want a Thanksgiving with only my family. Whatd o you think?
Thanks for reading
2007-11-14 17:59:27 · 12 answers · asked by Closed 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is difficult.... Thanksgiving is a time for family to get together and share. Yet, your mother's side of the family do not seem to appreciate their host family as well as bring nothing to share, and there are ill feelings from the past. I realize you are protective of your siblings (even if you complain your sister is spoiled) and family... I would suggest talking to your mom about your feelings and what you have noticed. Your mom may feel it's more important to keep the peace within the family, which would make your mom a wonderful and respectful mom. Has she invited everyone over already? B/c if so, it's kind of difficult to uninvite them. If they are going to be over, stay home, help your mom, and help with keeping order in your home. Your mom will appreciate you. If invites have not gone out yet, suggest to have only your immediate family so that you can all share together. Or go out for Thanksgiving, that'll indirectly let relatives know they're not invited..... regardless, good luck, ok? Help your mom.... she will appreciate you.
2007-11-15 20:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't embarass your mum. You may not like your relatives or how they've treated your family, but your mother's actions show should would prefer to keep the peace.
I assume you're living at home. Well it's not your home to uninvite people. If you mum has invited the relatives over, well then I'm sure her expectation is that you be a gracious host.
2007-11-14 18:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tracey H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand. Some people don't have the luxury or patience to host a big holiday meal. Just tell everyone that you will be spending the holiday with your husband's family. Would they buy that? If not, tell them you've decided to take a long weekend trip and you won't be joining them this year. Good luck and have a nice Thanksgiving! It's about enjoying family and friends, not about stressing yourself out to please them. Remember that.
2007-11-14 18:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even realize how many people in our country who actually celebrate Thanksgiving are feeling exactly the same way you do? I never want my family over and I never want to go to them either. ENOUGH ALREADY. I feel bad it's that way but you don't pick you family.... good news is you CAN pick your friends. Go eat with your friends family and have fun. Good luck and happy holiday to you.
2007-11-14 18:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i continuously love seeing all my brothers around throughout the trip journeys (there are 4 human beings, 2 of them are moved out and function households). i continuously watch for seeing my cousins :D the only i dread the main for the period of trip journeys is my mom actually LOL she has a tendency to drink and he or she is gentle-weight so she gets under the impact of alcohol and gets loud and obnoxious and actually embarrasing haha... accepted I actually have a especially outstanding/exciting family individuals, i frequently look at them as a team of acquaintances fairly then a family individuals that i dread by way of fact while they're ALL under the impact of alcohol its actually especially humorous. i'm grateful for that by ability of ways.
2016-12-08 22:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say your not gonna be home and go on a small trip with the ones that matter to you. my husand and i rented a cabin so we can get away from the whole family this year. if you dont wanna do thanksgiving than you shouldnt
2007-11-14 18:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by purple butterfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's *your* house it's *your* call. If it's your *mom's* house (sorry, I can't tell how old you are) then it's *her* decision, though I can't imagine why she'd want to have people over who beat her children.
Bottom line is they can't just invite themselves over....and if you (or your mom) decide not to invite them and they show up anyway you have no obligation to answer the door.
Sorry it's so rough-good luck!
2007-11-14 18:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you believe will be the best outcome for the greater good.
If you don't want them, just say it to them...I don't think they'll mind too much...
2007-11-14 18:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lozza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATE those family members. Tell them straight out. If they don't like it, then screw them. Its you house, for god sake.
2007-11-14 18:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Destiny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds cool, but it also sounds like you have no say.
2007-11-14 18:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋