I met the love of my life over 2 years ago . After dating a few months I discovered he was having an 'online affair' . I was pretty devastated and left town for a few weeks . On my return he told me it was over with the other woman - they never actaully met - and he wanted me to move in with him . So I did . And its been incredible . We have the kind of relationship everyone wants - love , affection , so much fun , incredible sex etc etc . We havent talked of marriage but we've both said that we want to be together for the rest of our lives . I was completely devastated and shocked to find out , last week , that he has been in touch with this woman again for about 4 months - emails , calls , her sending nasty phots etc . I have my heart so invested in this man and he now swears it REALLY is over . I thought he had more sense - for all he knows this woman isnt even who she claims to be . I am at a loss of what to do . My mind and logic says leave - my heart is having a harder time .
2007-11-14 17:54:39 · 10 answers · asked by gypsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank-you to you all who have responded - you've pretty much all said what I already know - and I so appreicaiate your input -the part about an affair with a keyboard was great - and I cried at the sentiment of frephoen ... but thank you I AM ME ... YOU GOT IT ... its not always as easy as f/u.... thanks - I am not so young anymore and its not as clear cut as we'd like it to be , but you got it - thanks - peace out
2007-11-14 20:38:45 · update #1
Well look at the bright side. At least he showed that he will always be a cheater before you took the plunge. I would suggest not marrying him and letting him and his never before seen online lady get together. As you said if he's willing not once but twice to risk losing you over a screen and a keyboard with nasty pictures then he doesn't deserve you. I'm sure that your heart will be hard to follow, but I'd pack up and call it quits. Good luck to you!
2007-11-14 17:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult answer you loved him with all your heart and he lie to you. Just be strong one day the real love of your live will come the one who loves you and reminds you that you are the only one and the most special woman in the entired world. good luck
2007-11-15 02:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Frephoenix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's already a liar and deceiver and you don't want that. Find someone you can trust. Tell your heart to look out for you so it doesn't get hurt again.
2007-11-15 02:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Genevieve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. He's shown he can't be trusted. He lied to you about it being over and it either continued anyways, or started up again. He obviously is not as commited to your relationship as you are. If you stay you are just setting yourself up for more heartache.
2007-11-15 02:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by TongueKing27 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well.
First of all he has lied to you, there should be no lies in relationships.
If he looks elsewhere for affection, that tells me he is not happy with what he has.
He has done it once, what is stopping him doing it again??
You Decide.
2007-11-15 02:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look its very simple, once you allow it one time, we will do it again and again until the cycle stop. Wake up and please move on, he said it was over the first time, it wasnt. He said it was over this time, but it wont. Sorry but he is taking you for a fool.
2007-11-15 02:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tony D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mm this is hard mm im nopt really sure what you should do
well get back out there on the pull show him you dont care teast him then it will really hit home what he has lost
2007-11-15 01:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Blondii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm...if you think and feel like you can handle another problem that might come after this,you should stay.only if you think you can handle it.because i think,we should give love another chance.you know,not every people have the chance to be with the one they love.if you feel you're strong enough,and you believe in your love,just stay.good luck!
2007-11-15 02:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by i^am^me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but if he's done it twice, he's going to continue. Be strong and kick him to the curb.
2007-11-15 01:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by RYO 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. He will probably do it again.
2007-11-15 01:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋