i m not a virgin but i had a boyfriend for 3 years, and we broke up. i didn't want to give up my virginity.. but i did, kinda forced, but anyhow. i m dating this new guy, and i don't know if i should give it.. he doesn't want to yet because he doesnt want me to be unsure, but we are both really.. sexual~ and when should be right?
2007-11-14 17:49:03 · 17 answers · asked by pattycatty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really shouldn't "give it" until you are 100% absolutely sure. Thats horrible that somebody would would pressure you if you weren't sure that you wanted to. There is a lot of other things you guys can do if you want to be sexually active but don't want to go all the way yet. Most guys are actually pretty understanding about this so you shouldn't worry about what your boyfriend thinks. Just take your time and when you feel ready you'll both be happier that you waited.
2007-11-14 17:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kilo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should wait until you are both comfortable enough for it to be something special since your first time was not . When you really love someone and you want to Make -love to them and not just have sex with them (because there is a big difference) then it will be right . Take it slow there is no rush . I was a virgin until I was 23 and I never regretted it an neither did my boyfriend , and I made him wait 3 years . You will know when the time is right because it will happen naturally and not be forced . If your mate loves you then he will wait .
2007-11-15 01:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Saharwi Wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are putting too much thought into it. When the time is right, the time is right. But you are smart to wait for a while. It sounds like you just got out of a long relationship, and may have jumped into a new one. I would recommend just dating for a while and see where it goes. Sex is a big deal, and should be treated as such. The fact that he is willing to wait does show that he respects you. That's a good thing. So, hold out until you both know it's right. That isn't determined by a calendar.
2007-11-15 01:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, as I"m starting to write this, there are no other answers, but I'm going to call this now...
You're going to get about 10 answers saying, "When you're ready you'll know" or something like that.
I'm going to say 2-4 months. Since I'm pretty sure that's what you're looking for.
Most guys that are looking for a quick and easy girl won't wait that long, and beyond 4 months, not much is going to change when it comes to you being ready since you've done it before. If you're still unsure at that point, I doubt you'll ever be comfortable doing it with him.
2007-11-15 01:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long? Right up until the moment you WANT to have sex! If you wait any longer than you want it, you're wasting the passion and opportunity in the name of game playing and peer pressure, as well as risking losing him over what other people have told you is 'proper'. How long do YOU want to wait???
2007-11-15 02:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it up. When you break up at one stage with the present person then you might find new friend again he will insist and you keep on giving one fine day you will be just called----.?
virginity is a gift, but when you have lost that now atleast try restricting such things untill your marraige other wise in coming days you shall be used and forgotten,.
2007-11-15 01:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by kamal m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When the right moment comes you will know. There's a difference between sex and love sex is just passion love in the other hand is something special that both people shared.
2007-11-15 01:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by Frephoenix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if you need to ask on here you are probably not ready..
You are the only one that can say for sure, anyway.
I knew a guy that asked me out then said he couldn't wait more than two months. So I said goodbye to him :P
Your guy doesn't sound like that, though.
2007-11-15 01:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by 123m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As humans you can not resist for long as it is a biological need.In any case there is no harm in having sex if you are old enough.
Let it come in a natural way and go ahead.
2007-11-15 01:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by ps g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think waiting longer when you are unsure is the right way to go. When it feels right, you will know. Maybe 3 months.
2007-11-15 01:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by RYO 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋