Here's the situation: there is a guy I work with who has invited me to his home on several occasions. He is generally friendly with most people around him. He seems genuinely enthusiastic about hanging out, but he seems to have a better rapport with other women that work there. I really can't figure out why he's asking me over - he barely talks to me when we're one-on-one, only in groups do we have a real conversation. Is he just looking for some you-know-what? Should I even bother to go, or should I save myself the embarrassment and blow it off?
2007-11-14 17:45:42 · 3 answers · asked by loneleegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously you should decline the invitations since you don't enjoy being alone with him.
There are some possible motives on his part besides seduction. If he's the life of the party, always telling jokes and stuff, he could very well be masking an inability to connect and/or communicate with individuals one-on-one. I've known a fair number of men, and a few women, who seemed to be very extroverted to compensate for emotional emptiness. Another possibility is he genuinely dislikes being alone, and he'd rather have a silent partner around than nobody. He could be playing a status game, feeling important for having a lot of people to hang out with.
2007-11-14 20:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say go with your intuition. Women have this uncanny ability to know when something are someone is trouble. If you feel at all like this person is not your cup of tea stay clear of him. Use whatever tactics you deem necessary.
2007-11-15 10:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by cjs23navy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to him, physically and emotionally, then take your destiny into your own hands and ask him about it.
Or, wait and enjoy the tension. ;)
2007-11-14 17:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by RYO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋