dealing with grief?

Question

I lost my mom almost a year ago (dec.1) and I really want to talk to someone. It's hard to talk about it with my family or my friends. Can anyone tell me where I can find a free chat room that doesn't use java script?

Answer 1

Sorry, I don't know the answer to your question, but I wanted to say something after reading what you wrote.

Losing a parent is the most difficult thing to face. I would encourage you to talk to your family (not exclusively, of course), but because they are the ones who knew your mom the best, they will be able to share memories and information & understand things in a way that people who didn't know her never would.

Big hug to you :)

Answer 2

I don't have a chat room to reccomend, but honestly I don't think that it would be the best venue for your needs. Grief can be overwhelming when you are strong, and destructive when you are weak. It's as severe a problem as any addiction, or any other form of depression. The best thing you could do is consult a trained professional. i.e. a grief counselor, or preist should you prefer. Nothing substitutes a good friend.

Also I offer you these words,
"I sometimes hold it half a sin, To put in words the grief I feel. For words, like nature, half reveal, And half conceal the soul within." Alfred Tennyson

"To weep is to make less the depth of grief." William Shakespeare

"All those who try to go it sole alone Too proud to be beholden for relief, Are absolutely sure to come to grief." Robert Frost

I hope some of my ramblings have helped you!

Answer 3

As someone who deals with grieving people on too many occasions, try to share it with a real person. Your family may be too involved to be your outlet, but when you find a real friend, they will listen. There are grief groups. There really are people who care and it would be much better if they were physically present. Do not let anyone belittle your grief or say that it's time to get over it. You never will get over it, but it is time to deal with it.

Answer 4

A support group might be a good idea. Check with a local hospital they usually have grief support groups if you are still in school talk to a guidance counselor. If you can't find a support group perhaps you can talk to your minister not only for support but he or she can help you locate services that can help you through this difficult time. Bless you.

Answer 5

Build yerself a website on one of the popular places and blog. Make a few online buddies you seem to click with and let them read and msg back. Kinda slow, but it gives you time to think about what you really want to say - and that's really what you need, introspection. Real friends won't just pat you on the back, they'll question what you say and make you justify your thoughts. That'll help you get past plain ol' emo and self-pity and help you prepare to move on in a way that will be respectful to your mother's memory and prosperous to your life as well.

Answer 6

I lost my mother about 7 years ago. It was very hard. There is a good book called, "Death and Dying", by Elisabeth Kubla Ross, that goes through and explains the different stages every person goes through when dealing with a loss. I and many people have found that book helpful.

Sometimes it is difficult to talk with your family about something like this, but is the problem with them, you, or both? If the problem is that you start to feel very sad but that they are usually good to talk to; you might have to push yourself through that initial feeling of awkwardness.

It is OK to cry and OK for your family and friends to cry with you. Even if every one starts sobbing, that not only is OK, it can be an effective way to let the sadness inside of you pass out of you so that you can let it go.

The problem I had with talking to family and friends when my mother died was that neither my brother or my best friend were good about talking about things. If only more people knew that the thing that helps the most is to just listen and be there with you.

For me, one of the things that helps is to think about the family and friends that are still here and love me. No one will love me as my mother did and I miss her; but there are still people in the world that do care about me. To spend time with them, whether they are able to talk about feelings or not, is helpful for me to know and feel that I am loved. I bet that will be true for you too.

I wish I knew of a free chatroom that people talk about grief issues on but I am fairly new to having a PC and don't know of any.

I used to work as a RN on a psychiatric unit and you can e-mail me anytime. If you and I can arrange to be online at the same time we could send messages back and forth. I hope you can start to talk to family and friends soon about this as their hugs can be very helpful. One tip is to continue to talk to the family member even though you may feel uncomfortable or you sense that in them. Of course if things continue too awkward for too long, then the talk may have to wait untill feelings are less intense.

My heart goes out to you. God bless you.

Answer 7

God bless you and surround you with his love. I also lost my mother September - 17 years ago. It takes at least some years to process the pain. But one day you will be able to overcome grief. And remember good times...Be blessed.

Answer 8

I do not know but must communities have bereavement support groups. That is better than talking in a chat room where people can be nasty to about other people's feelings.

Answer 9

I'm sorry I don't know of one. But as a fellow griever I know what your going through. I lost both my parents.

Answer 10

no but i like to talk to you same time a friend you dont know is the best .nicky3120002yahoo.com dont give up its samething we all have to go throw